Why this “DISCRIMINATION “ towards girls?
October 24, 2007 10:12am CST
This is a topic put to discussion since India got independence but so far no solution found for this burning issue. There was a time girls in India kept in houses without sending to school but now time has changed and at present girls are sent to school and futher more they are the best in every field. Yet why are they deprived when the question comes for the selection of the girl,s partner. It is pathetic to note that the parents disallow the girls to have their voice in selecting their partners. Being educated and being occupied better career she is entitled to have her choice to find her partner. When a girl declares her love to her parents they are eager to find it out the boy,s qualities it is reasonable but rejecting on the basis of religion ,caste ,language and financial position is absolutely unacceptable .Once swamy vivekananda said that all religions are true .There is religion to help us to avoid doing evil deeds .A genuine love affair should not die owing to unwanted hurdles.If she is confident and firm in her love the parents should encourage to get settled on her own free will.They instead of suppressing in case they are not in favour of their daughters, choice they must keep silence and let them get settled . The celebraties like politicians ,actors businessmen are dangerous peoplee because they try to suppress the love of their daughters by man power and and political power .They do things against boys family and they threatens the boy. There were incidents girls running away from homes and getting married to the guys whom they love.After the marriage they run here and there to escape from their parents who tried to harm them in anger.. These couples some time go to police station to seek protection from parents.Recently a couple had gone to the court to get help . The girl being the daughter of one of the famous actor told the judge that she was kept under house arrest for a year and her parents tried to give her in marriage to someone else. I wish to stress one point that although girls behave in this manner as their parents not willing to give into their daughters desire and wish it does not mean that these girls do not respect and love their parents.Since these girls have no alternative they do marriages on their own..taking things against their own people. Don,t you feel still these innocent girls discriminated?
25 Oct 07
where I am from, we had a matriarchal system earlier and women were treated with respect. with the change to the patriarchal system, things have changed. But the discrimination against girls is subtle and not as direct as up north and in the other southern states. We are given a free hand in choosing our life partners (be it love or arranged marriages) but our parents might try to influence our opinion in indirect ways. In fact, my first cousin married a girl of a different religion with the blessings of the whole family and this was not an isolated incident in our area. There are quite a few similar cases. So, I wouldn't generalise about all women being discriminated (yes, the majority are being discriminated upon) and we need to find the root cause before we can solve the problem. And that I feel is that women are not being treated as individuals in their own right. they are not considered as a 'PERSON' who has all the rights as anyone else...but instead considered as a group who are inferior to men.
25 Oct 07
Hi, I hope discrimination is every where here not only to girls but also to the poor, to inter state migrated people, to the back ward class, to inter religion and caste married couples, so on .. It will be there as long as the people's attitude is not changed. Still here I hope the system that the society keeps is to be changed. The love married couples I hope the risk is also taken by the male who accepts and who shows that courage to live with a girl even though there are many obstacles. Another aspect I had noticed for girls the discrimination towards girls are mostly created by girls itself. There are women who do not give support to these discriminated girls even though they shout for women rights. Get those rights for being a public heroin rather providing it to real effected people. Still in India women harassments are increasing compared to the past. Now women had started to respond, now they are being working with male counterparts. This conflict between male and female gets more attracted when a female is more focused. Anyhow every male should remember that they do have a mother who is a female and female should also have in mind they do has a father who is a male. Another main aspect that is noticed is the give and take respect which is lacking by both genders. Lastly I would like to convey that basically it is humanism that is got discriminated.
25 Oct 07
Dear Subathra, u put nice topic but the scenairo u r talking is cant be called discrimination. If this thing happen then either its Boy or Girl, both are treated equally, do u think Boys can marriage girls they love freely if the girl is out of cast/relegion/financial differnce??? Sure Answer will be big NO. Boy have to escape from home as well, they are dejected as well, they have to leave houses parents as well, i do agree their percentages might be quite less as compare to Girls but its still there. So its not discrimuination against gender, but its following of rules of society set in past, culture and relegion. Though things are changing now but i know few incident that marriage of Hindu Boy, Muslim girl or Muslim Boy and Hindu girl result in Blood shed in city. but one good thing that after education, people moving to cities from villages, availabilty of partner, these things are getting less. so with passage of time it will be over too, as it will be change in NORMS of Socity and culture and it take times take care
25 Oct 07
I agree with you that it is the discrimination with girls. There is another point that comes into my mind that parents are over protective in case of girls. But its true girls are discouraged mainly to choose their life opartner. If a boy does it there is still less opposition from families. Its a tough situation and i think all sould change their attitudes.
25 Oct 07
I agree with you as far as choosing the life partner thing is concerned every person has a choice but the thing is you have to live with this choice for the rest of your life in India and what if you have chosen wrong and realise it too late, do not blame parents completely, sometimes grown ups have seen or heard too many things that naturally they are protective of the daughter they have raised with so much affection. You can not generalise these incidents, have you not heard of boy friends snapping photograhs of the girls and releasing them on the net or using them and dumping them. Times are still to bad for girls and unfortunately Indian law is too weak to protect girls still, till it becomes ore women oriented parents have no choice but to be extra cautius.May be I am a parent too and scared for my daughter, if daughters love their parents then parents love their daughters too and may be we have to tell each other that more often.