Are ALL children suppose to get along?

While it is true you shouldn't force a friendship on your children, but they do need to learn tolerance. There are going to be many times the she won't like someone, but still has to work with them. And of course when she is an adult, there are co-workers and employers that she may not get along with, but still must do her job or loss it.. I think you should tell your daughter that if she really doesn't like this girl, doesn't mean that she can't work with her. Does she have to sit next to the girl? That would be a good example, sometimes teachers have the students that sit next to each other work on a project, so she needs to be aware of that.. If it is really serious and it can't be worked out, maybe you can talk to the teacher and see if she would separate them..

Don't be too hard on the other moms idea. No we do not all get along, BUT, and this is a big but; we all had to be taught how to get along. In everday life we encounter people we just do not like or wish to deal with, but, depending on the situation we must. No, you should not force your little girl to Play with the other child, however, in a classroom setting it will be beneficial to all involved if they learn to get along. Teach her tolerance now and you will be grateful for this fact in the future. You may not like your co-worker but that does not mean you have he right to refuse to work with her. It is the same for your little girl. She may not like this other child but that does not give her the right to interrupt her during classtime or be mean to her on the playground or refuse to allow her her turn, etc. Another thing that might be going on here is childrens perceptions are not as adults, they also do not know how to express themselves or say how they are feeling. As they grow and learn, these consepts and abilities develop. Example: My granddaughter has been in Head Start and Kindergarten with the same little boy and they do not get along. They are like polar opposites at times and yet at other times the same and act like rivals. Both have been to the principle many times because of their behavior towards each other. They never see each other outside of school. This year in the 1st grade, alas, again they are in the same class. My daughter asked for a new room assignment and her request was denied. Recently Raven came home in tears; "Johnny hurt my feelings, he called me fatty, fatty rat". But what she said next shined a whole new perspective on the situation. "Why doesn't Johnny like me? I like him?" Raven has always liked this little boy and has not known how to express this. Immediatley after her comment her daddy said, "So you like Johnny now." Her reply, "I always liked Johnny". A few hours later when mommy came home and the subject was being discussed Raven was adament about hateing Johnny. You see, she is embarrassed about liking a boy. Maybe your daughter sees a potential friend in this little girl but they are too alike and too much not alike. Either way it will be of benefit to her now and in the future if she learns it is ok to not be friends with someone but we must still get along with that person in our daily lives such as at school or jobs. The rest of the time they should leave each other alone. Oh, I just remembered my daughter once did not get along with a girl becasue she had lost her favorite shoes and this new girl in school wore shoes just like the ones she lost. It wsa a case of envy. But being a second grader she did not really know what envy felt like yet. They became the best of friends the next school year.

you are so right. not all adults get along so well and so does children! everybody is different from each other so it wouldn't be avoided that misunderstandings will occur. everybody has different opinions and views, different likes and dislikes, different beliefs.. and it is in these differences that misunderstandings arise. but as long as we know how to handle misunderstandings, then we'd be fine. if we dont like a person, then at least we just have to be civil so there wouldn't be any trouble. just tell your daughter to ignore that particular classmate of her. as much as possible she should stay away from trouble. ^__^

I totaly agree with you on this. You cant expect the girls to get along perfectly just because they are given the oportunity to do so. Yes they might or might not set the differences aside but you cant force them to do so. If we liked everyone we met life would not be interesting at all.

I was teaching before and base on my experience there were few of my students who didn't get along well. If you are going to call their attention each group will say that the other are arrogant, showy or they don't like them because of that blah,blah,blah. So it is just normal. Even adults feel that way too. Remember, no matter how hard we try there are always one or two in our neighborhood, at work or people around us who will end up hating or not liking us. Simply because we just can't please everybody. I guess, the most important part there is the constant reminder from both parents. The idea of the other kid's Mom is good. I mean, you don't need to force them to befriend each other but at least both parents and both of them can talk about the root of such "hatred among them". You know what I am happy to know that both of you are concern about this matter. They are still young and whatever attitude they both have can still be easily corrected. Maybe there was just a simple misunderstanding between the two of them. Who knows?