does my dream mean something.....
By akacipher
@akacipher (64)
India
October 25, 2007 12:49am CST
People there is something that i cant understand, i need some help with this!! Well i need to tell you something for you guys to understand the background. I had a break up recently, i was in the relationship for 11 months!! i loved her from the bottom of my heart, she was my first and true love!!! Then just about three months back she ditched me for someone else, she says she hates me and that i am the wrost person ever!! trust me guys i did everything to make it work, i gave her everything and was honest and true to her always. anywyas one month back that is two months after my break up, i wasnt out of her....... at that time a girl praposed to me!!! she wasnt ever gone come back, and the feeling of losing her and having such a bad experiance was killing me!! no matter what i did i coudnt hate her for whatever she did, i instead started hurting myself for it. The only way for me to get out of that phase was to actually get into a new relationship (that is how i saw things), i have known this girl for last 2 yrs almost.... she knows everything about me!! I said yes to her..... it was a decesion month back but since then after a month i have started loving her. i am very happy with her..... she loves me a lot and i Love her too. True i doesnt feel like my first love but I am sure i will never ever hurt this girl, i will always try n keep her happy and i love her!!! is this rite or worng? will i ever be able to love this girl like i loved her?? and about my drems, I still at sometimes dream about my ex..... not exactly romantic dreams but i do dream about her. Just a few days back, in my dream she had called me up, we had a talk and she just said to me that since she has left me she isnt happy and all that!!! The most wiered thing is in my dream that call for me from my ex came from the new girls number!!! it was all a dream, its wiered...... but then is i supposed to mean something???
3 responses
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
26 Oct 07
Dreams are the subconscious trying to interpret and sometimes solve a problem the conscious mind cannot. You are probably not over your first love and despite what you do, somewhere in your subconscious, somewhere in the nether reaches of your own mind you still have a yearning for her in some capacity. You've also hurt yourself because of the relationship ending and your refusal to hate her. Cipher, you've got to get over her. She broke up with you despite your best efforts in the relationship. She was the one who demonized you. She's not worth it! The sooner you come to terms with that, the sooner your dreams like the one you described will end. As for the dream itself, its your ex but its your new girls number. I wonder if you are having communication issues with your new girl. Seems like you talk more about your ex and I have a feeling it might translate poorly in your current relationship. Just an observation. The message about her not being happy ever since leaving you is part of a hidden desire on your part that the subconscious picked up on.
At least that is how I interpret the whole thing.
@akacipher (64)
• India
29 Oct 07
well progamer, we arent having communication issues as such. i mean i do talk with her about my ex, but it is mostly because of the insecurites the past relationship has given to me, my new gf is very understanding about. But then i do understand your point will try and minimize such talks! thanx for the reply.
@alvinwriter (266)
• Philippines
26 Oct 07
It just means you're not over your first relationship and that you still have unresolved issues between you and your ex. For sure it's not knowing exactly why she left you or the fact that it seems inconceivable to you that she could replace you just like that after being to loving and loyal. Love isn't really about love, most of the time. It helps to live in the present in such predicaments.
@akacipher (64)
• India
29 Oct 07
thats true alvin.... The unresolved issues are not with her they are with me. all these questions that she had given me, that is something that bother me sometimes. then again she gave me a lot of insecurities about being in a relationship itself!!!
@kara5287 (299)
• United States
25 Oct 07
it's not supposed to mean anything it's just your inside brains way of telling you that you miss her and is trying to relive what you had. and yes you will love her as much if not more then you loved her. you just have to keep in mind how much she hurt you for no reason and how the new girl treats you good and loves you. it seems she would never do anything to hurt you and you wouldn't do anything to hurt her. you just have to try to forget about the other girl. might not be easy i know. but if you let it eat at you adventually it will start to eat at your new relationship too.
@akacipher (64)
• India
29 Oct 07
Thanks for the reply kara. i am glad that you feel it means nothing. I was very confused that morning when i had this dream, answer like this suerly gives me a push in the right direction. Anyways i will keep in mind the advice you gave me, hope everything turns out fine this time. thanks again.
