She's depressed, sulking and didn't show up for her birthday dinner

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Mom didn't show up for her birthday dinner last night. I waited at the restaurant for over an hour and a half all the while calling her house and leaving messages on her machine. My husband jumped in the car and drove around looking for her at any other restaurants in the area where she might have gone instead. He even drove to the bus station just in case she was there and drove back to our house (in case she went there) and went in to check our messages.... nothing! The people at the restaurant just kept bringing me coffee until hubby got back. We ordered and ate in silence. Occasionally my husband asked a question. "what if something happened to her?" "do you have a key to get in her place?" We finished and drove home - driving past the other restaurants along the way and looking to find her still. Once we returned home, I called her and left another message on her machine. A short time later the phone rang and it was mom. She spoke to hubby and told him she went to another restaurant and waited there. He asked her what time she was there and told her that he went there at that time and didn't see her. She said she called our house 3 times but didn't leave a message because there was no answer - so hubby asked her if she has my cell phone number and why she didn't call it instead. She said she had the number and there was no answer on that either. When I got on the phone, again she told me how she didn't have money for the phone and asked the girl at the restaurant for change. Then she called and the phone was broken - all she kept getting was a recording of "we're not available to take your call at this time" - which is OUR message on OUR machine but she called Bell and reported the public phone was broken so she wants her money back. I called her this morning and wished her a happy birthday. I invited her out for lunch again and asked her to call me back after she finishes breakfast....that was hours ago and she still hasn't called back. When I first mentioned, last night, that I would like to take her for lunch today, she declined my offer. Now she isn't calling back. I'm willing to bet, if I call her, she will be fine for a few minutes and then will start crying and threatening to go somewhere far away where no one will ever find her. It's an old stand-by threat she's been using for years to make us do what she wants... I'm just about ready to send a message to family about this and force her to move back where someone can keep a better eye on her. I don't know what to do...........