Does height matter?

You should talk to him about it and convince him about it. You seem honest and kind so hopefully he'll have faith in you. Also, from time to time, make him feel on top of the world to boost him a bit. Hopefully he'll respond in kind with positive acts, love and attention. I will say though there are some people in public that love to critique and be nasty toward differences, especially if it breaches their little mental bubbles. Just ignore it. And kudos to you for being you.

definitely...all he needs is your assurance... he doesnt really need to bother bout that... frankly i am short myself and my girl is taller than me... i dont mind actually.... i'm very fine with it... what really matters is that you guys love ech other... and know that you both will be there for each other through thick or thin....

I go along with foxyfire . Dont think he will change his mind and if he is shorter than you he has that short mans complex that make them inpossible for they always seem to do things to make up for it and that might hurt you . and with him telling youwhat you cant waer! nope that dont jive . Bet youwere wearing heels when Ya met huh? To have a good relationship you dont try to change the person you are in love with for then it wont be the person ya fell in love with. and are you sure he loves you and you love him fo rit dont sound like it for he wants to change youand you want to change his way of thinking

I have absolutely no problem if I'm a couple inches high than a guy I'm dating. I think it's kinda cute, actually. Most of the my boyfriends tend to be around 6 foot though (I'm 5'3"), so it was never a problem.

It doesn't really matter. I think it's all in preference. I am 5'5" and always like to be with taller men because I also love to wear high heels. My daughter was with her ex for over 20 years and she was quite a bit taller than him and I always thought they looked funny together. She also liked wearing shoes with a higher heel and it never bothered either one of them.

it doesnt matter at all. its style man. if it did matter than a lot of smarties like tom cruise would have thought about it before us.lol. smiles always, apple.

I would definitely have a serious talk with him. A complex like that can only get worse unless dealt with. I'm 5'11, so I'm a tall girl too. And I like heels. I don't care if a guy is a couple inches shorter than me, but he has got to be OK with me being me, and not get hyped up about the height difference.

Whew! Maybe so, for others. For as long as it does not matter to you, I think it does not matter. It will only take a while to make your boyfriend get used to it.

That's sad that your boyfriend isn't keen on the fact that he's taller than you. Each person is different in whether height matters. I've never dated a guy shorter than me but that's not to say I wouldn't either. I don't think there's much difference but there are a lot of people who don't care for things that way. It's just like certain women won't date guys younger than them and vice versa for guys and older women. Then other people don't care.

my boyfriend is only 5'4 and i am 5'7 and a half. He is awesome. we don't have a problem at all with his being so much shorter. we laugh about it. What is height anyway? Yes, do have a serious talk with this man. My boyfriend is so awesome. I'd be a fool to let something like how we look together get in the way of us. On our first date we were walking when I first noticed how very much shorter he was then me. I exlaimed..."my god....how tall are you exactly?" he laughed and said 4'11. I beleived him! It's really no big deal.

Hi Ronimas. I know a lot of couples face the same situation as you do. Well, I am glad that you don't really mind about the height difference. However, to be honest, most of the guy mind this a lot. Similarly, my sister's boyfriend does allow her to wear heel. Yes, you should have a talk with him concerning this but don't be too surprise if he insist his point of view. I mean as you said he remarked that you two must be looking very odd together. He minds about how people look at you two. Most of the time, it's sad to say that we live in a world which we live for other's point of view. We have feeling and we will mind about it. Anyway, I guess you will find a perfect way to communicate with him, isn't it? All the best to you!

although you may think that there is nothing wrong with this,it probably hurts his ego not to enough height.girls and boys think differently after all.

although you may think that there is nothinbg wrong with this,it probably hurts his ego not to enough height.girls and boys think differently after all.

its a natural machoism thought..... just try to show him that its really not a big deal....maybe you could give way to show him that hes in control...may be that would calm him and will let him know that theres more to it than the height...

It is something that he is going to have to get over, but yes you can help him to overcome it by being sensitive to his feelings and talking about it with him. There are not that many differences between mens insecurities and womens - you would have to equate it to how you might feel if you felt your own physical traits did not come up to scratch (you can include anything here from butt-size to hair colour). If you can understand his insecurity, you can help him to overcome it. You're young and you have a long time ahead of you, my advice would be: DO try to understand his insecurity, DON'T let it take over the relationship...

I'm glad you do not have an issue with the height difference. I do think you should have a talk with him to le him know how you feel. However I doubt that will change his attitude. It sounds as if he has some self esteem issuesand he's making himself feel better by being ritical towards you. The thing that stood out to me in what you said and really bothered me was the part about how he "does not allow" you to wear heels. That is ontrolling behavior that does not at all belong in a healthy relationship. I really don't think he will ever change. I'm guessing he will also get worse and more controlling as time gos on. No man, no matter how much you love him or how much he claims to love you, has any right to tell you what you can or can not wear. If you love heels, wear them, don't worry about what he says.

I am tall and i used to be very self conscious about being taller than the guy i was seeing. However. like you i love to wear high heels so i decided to get over the thought that people would look at me. My boyfriend is slightly taller than me but as i often choose to wear four inch heels, when we go out together he is about three inches smaller than me but he said it doesn't bother him at all. I think you should have a chat with him and let him know that the majority of people don't think it's strange if a woman is taller than a man-you don't want to end up like Nicole Kidman who was stuck in flat shoes for the majority of the time that she was married to Tom Cruise! lol