Would you prefer to have many boyfriends b4 getting married or to have only one?

Philippines
October 28, 2007 5:44am CST
Me? I would rather have many boyfriends before I finally decide to settle down, than to have one boyfriend only with whom you'll gonna get married. Having many relationships, helps a lot in moulding your maturity and character. When your into different relationships, you get involve with people with different personalities, interests, attitudes etc. And so, you get to learn a lot of things. When you get hurt from a relationship, you learn from your pain. You learn from the experience. You get to handle different situations. And so, this I believe, will help you become a more mature person. But if your stuck with one boyfriend, with whom your gonna get married to, your learning is very much limited. Most girls who choose to have one boyfriend only, when they are older, tends to be compulsive in getting married. Because they cannot differentiate and identify real love, because their experience is very limited.
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8 responses
28 Oct 07
I did have many boyfriends before I settled down and got married. Obviously, not by choice! I just happened to have a fair few difficult relationships! I'm glad I did though, I think it has helped make me the person that I am today. I managed to get life experience and I think it has made me the "partner" I am today. I am now very patient, and I can deal with an awful lot. I am also very forgiving, although this may not always be a good thing! I think if I hadn't have had relationships before I got married, I'd always wonder what if, and wish I had done other things in my life! I don't regret any of it, because if I did, I wouldn't be who I am today!
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• Canada
29 Oct 07
I always felt that I wanted to have only one boyfriend or just a few before I get married. I guess it really is different for everyone else.
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@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
Well, if possible, I would like to have one boyfriend if I really love him and I am happy with him. I would take expoerience and learning in life in our relationships... but I never stop seeking ways to improve our relationship. I believe taht it is important that we know is right , what we want and we know what can really make us happy in order to grow and learn.
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• Philippines
29 Oct 07
I think that it is better to have only one boyfriend. :) At least, he is your first and last. Isn't that sweet?
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@irene_27 (545)
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
it would really be a case to case basis. Of course if you're lucky to have found your perfect match at first try then why wait you go and get married. But if you still haven't found the right man yet, of course, you will have to jump from one relationship to another until you succeed.
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@gradyslady (4055)
• United States
28 Oct 07
It doesn't really matter to me, I've had a few boyfriends here and there, but it makes me realize just how much I love my current boyfriend. I've never slept with anyone yet so I'm content with having as many boyfriends as it takes to find that one, and I think I have.
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@diillu (5128)
28 Oct 07
Well, about me I would rather prefer to have just a one partner to love and to settle down. I just want my kids to know that their father was the only man in my life before and after. I had 1 boyfriend before my current boyfriend. We had some misunderstandings and we messed up. After 6 months of staying alone I met my current boyfriend and I'm happyily in love with him and it's going to be 4th year of our relationship very soon. I think to love one person perfectly we have to experience that person. We have to know them perfectly and understand them perfectly so that we can love them perfectly. But I must say that you have also very good view over there.
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• Pakistan
30 Oct 07
I agree with you. I would like to prefer many boy friends before getting married. Because it will manage a tough competition in more than one. I would like to pick one as my life partner. But here it is not possible in my country. Our parents arrange and decide it all. Fall in love with some one also results a good companion of life. But this also happened in some rare cases. Our society is covered and we could not practice as you are wishing. Any how, I like agree your proposal. I want to do as you wish. But ah we are in cage.
@blueunicorn (2409)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I look at this question as "what would I want for my daughters" before answering. I have to say honestly that I would want them to have more than one boyfriend. I think you make a lot of valid point, irish. Also, it is so easy to think that you are in love until you see things in a different perspective. I wouldn't want my girls to sleep with every boyfriend they have, but I would definately want them to experience different personalities.