Ironic situations...
By Dask1221
@Dask1221 (160)
United States
October 28, 2007 7:54pm CST
When I was in high school, I had a number of friends. I also had a large number of relationships. Funny thing was, my relationships back then didn't last very long, except for one, which was on and off for 3 1/2 years. I had a fear of being alone, so when one relationship would go sour, I'd be right back in another one pretty quickly. Probably a result of my biological father treating my mother and I like crap and never caring about me. I think I felt an underlying, unconscious need for a connection with a guy (which I actually had with my step-dad and just didn't realize it at the time). Anyway, I had all these short-lived relationships of my own with, of course, all the usual teenage drama, yet most of my friends came to me for relationship advice. I guess I was better then at giving advice than using any of it myself. I'm glad that aspect has changed now. Just a ramble. What's your take on it?
2 responses
@Shirleyione (8)
• United States
27 Dec 07
It sounds like "those who can, do, and those who can't, teach". We are much better at seeing answers for others than we are for ourselves. I'm not sure of the reasons for this, probably something to do with not trusting our own inclinations, but it's a fact. I'm sure you were a great help to your friends, and hopefully that gives you a sense of accomplishment.
I think this is reflected by the fact psychologists, etc, go to others for help with their own problems, too. It's just not that easy for a person to be objective about their own problems. It sounds like you've worked your way through yours and come out on top of them. Good luck in the future, and don't ever be afraid to ask someone you trust for help.
@shadowing (308)
• Malaysia
29 Oct 07
Hi Dask.
I have just glanced through your profile. Alright, you are not born to be alone, that's my first impression. Haha.
So as you said most of the aspect has changed, so it's great, isn't it.
All the best to you and good luck.
