how far would you go for love?~~

United States
October 29, 2007 12:29am CST
hello everyone..I am sorry Ihavent been online much..my Pa Kibbey passed away..and im having problems dealing with it..and that wil be a whole new thread..and this week also a friend passed away..and I get a call from my Wonderful new love...saying he had news..now keep in mind we are new in this realtionship likea mth new..but we soo much of each other and talk hundreds of times a day..lol..so its like we have been heer forever..anywho..i was informed he got a job offer..I was soooo excited for him!! He wants to better his life and take care of his children and i totally understand this..I really do..i live in pennsylvania btw and then he blows my mind..btw..its In ALASKA!! and for...6 months!!..march-Sept..for $100,000...my mouth hit the floor..i started to panic..i lost words..i cried so hard..I literaly felt my heart being ripped from my chest...it was breaking and i couldnt stop it..alli could say is..HOW COULD U LEAVE ME? HOW!!! ALASK U KIDDING ME! i was devastated...i still am..he says i am not lookin further than him away..that this will better his children and he has nothing to offer me..I then said..ya know what is killing me?? Money will always be your first love.and hung up as i couldnt talk anymore..And so now..i await...wil he leave me..will he ask me to go? wil he ask me to wait..will be forget me? will our spark and wonderful realtionship we have now fly away?Im scared..i dont want himn to go..money isnt anythign to me..he could give his whole check to his kids and ex..i dont care..il support us..i wil do anythign for him not to go..but i wont say no..its his life..i wil try to support him..but i am not happy..and i cant stop crying since Thursday..so heer is my question..What do i do? what would you do? Not give a fight and let him live his life? or fight for the love u have and want to keep with u? im soo confused..and i need everyones help..i feel like im lsoing my mind..my heart wont stop hurting..help me..
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4 responses
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
Please dont take this against me, but I believe taht if he really love you then he would consider your opinions before making a decision. Its his life, but he is committed to you. He must also consider you as a partner. I believe that you should talk. If you can come with him, so be it. If there is a chance to work without going that far then that would be better.
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• United States
29 Oct 07
Aww sweety i wouldnt ever take anything against you:)And your right..i hope he does consider it..i just dont know if allll that money is going to cloud his judgement..soo i guess i sit and wait..and pray he doesnt take it..but still not sure what i will or should do if he says yes..or of he even would want me to come?? but although i hate the nasty cold..and snow from hell lol lol..i would do that for him..im just not sure if those feelings are in him at this point of time..hes one of those keep feelings to himself guys.:( ok well thank u soo much for ur post i appreciate it:) April
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@lonely_f16 (2147)
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
you must know what he feels about the situation, if he really loves you, he will find a way so as to contact you and not lose you by going to other place. If it's worth fighting for then go ahead but if he does not cooperate, I suggest that you try to forget someone who wouldn't try fighting for you.
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• United States
29 Oct 07
thank you for helping..he wants to be able to give us a great future..he thinks mone y will make me happy no matter what i tel him..but he also wants to better his kids life..which i understand..but again..im sure money isnt what they want either..men think money is what makes the world go around and what u need to be happy..myself..im not materialistic at all and maybe thats where we clash..immore of a free spirit..and love what i have..and he is more what he can make and that swhat wil make everythign better..when i know in my heart all we all need is his love..but again he wont listen im thinking..and yea he could always call meeveryday..but thats not the same as being with him..feeling his warm body near mine..feeling his heart beat so hard when he hugs me so tight..and the way he looks into my eyes..like hes looking into my soul..ahhhh!! he is totally worth it..hes worht everything to me..but at the same time..i dont know if that wil be enough for 6 mths for me..ive never been in this situation ya know?but thank u soo much for ur post..i apprciate it hun..take care:) April
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@applsofgld (2506)
• United States
29 Oct 07
My heart breaks for you! Maybe he is doing what he thinks is best for his kids. I don't think he would hurt you intentionally, but he has to provide for his kids, he wouldn't be much of a man if he didn't. I think you need a few days to think and maybe he should too. I think you both need to sit down in person and talk....talk about everything. See if a compromise is possible. Maybe he didn't realize how much you care until now. Don't give up or let go just yet. It's not over until one of you say it is over. Best of luck to you.
• United States
29 Oct 07
Why thank u soo much..your soo very kind..I know thats what he thinks hes doing..i jusy dont see it that way in some sense..yes the money is spectatcular..where else would u say u can make 100,000 in 6 mths right? but will it really beworth it in the end? thats 6 mths of him missing his children..6 mths me..and me missing him..and all that time and memories we have lost../and everytime it will take time to rekindle what we lost and by the time thats caught up hes gone again...sigh....yes i told him we nee dot talk..but he stil doesnt know what he wants to do yet..i know hes struggling too..buti know not as much as i am..:( thanks u so much for your post..have a great night.April
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• United States
8 Nov 07
Well I totally understand where you are coming from but you need to realize where he's coming from. $100,000 is a lot of money! At least where I live. That's a major opportunity for him AND for you as well. No it's not idea for him to leave you in a few months for six months but if you too are strong in your relationship you can make it work. Maybe he can fly back to visit or vise versa some. He's not doing it to make you mad or to leave you but what he feels he has to as a man to support his family. That's very noble to be putting others needs in front of his. And if he goes back next year maybe you could go with him too. I really do know where you're coming from though sweetie. It's got to be really tough. Please keep me posted!
• United States
27 Nov 07
Thanks for best response :) And I'm sorry how things turned out :(