Should someone pay child support for a child that's not theirs?

@dreamy1 (3815)
United States
October 29, 2007 8:53pm CST
I was watching Dr. Phil and the topic was a man who found out that after 10 years his daughter was not his. He refuses to pay child support now and he distanced himself from his daughter. What do you think of that? If I were him I'd be pissed too. I don't think it's right to pay child support for a kid that's not yours but unfortunately it happens.
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@brendakaya (2335)
• United States
30 Oct 07
No, I don't think he should be forced to pay child suppor, for a child that isn't his. However, I think it's sad, that he distanced himself from the child. How could he just stop caring about her after he was with her for 10 years? That is very sad. It's not her fault, it's her mom's. I still think he should see the little girl, and he should buy her stuff, just for her. Punish her mother, not her.
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Yes I feel for the girl even if after he found out she's not his, they had a bond and to just walk away is sad. She still needs a father figure even if he's not her biological father he raised her for 10 years like he was.
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• United States
30 Oct 07
I agree.
• United States
10 Nov 07
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@bscon5 (17)
• United States
31 Oct 07
I think that it is sucky that he would just distance himself from her after finding out that the girl he thought was his daughter is not his...I think it is very sad for her that the only person she has known to be her dad has just walked away from her. Though i dont think he should have to pay child support since she is not his.
@Toni_07 (175)
• United States
1 Nov 07
It is sucky poor girl...i agree he shouldnt have to pay chld support, i also believe he should be reimburssed. But he should fight to at least have visation. Crazy world we live in..
• Canada
30 Oct 07
Well i don't' think he should have been lied to but its no worse than a man getting married to a woman with a child and then divorcing because she can go after him for child support even though he isn't the father. I think that he is a coward for pushing his daughter away. Yes I said daughter because she is his daughter. He treated her as such and she treated him as her dad, you can't just stop loving a child/father over night like that. I think he needs to grow up and be there for that little girl, she did nothing wrong and should not be the one suffering for what her wh0re of a mother did.
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
30 Oct 07
It's like he's punishing the girl and it's not her fault. Even if he doesn't pay child support he should still be in the girls life. They developed a relationship and I don't see how he could just walk away like that so easily.
• United States
30 Oct 07
Well of course he shouldnt have to pay anything for her..why would he? But if i raised her as my own after all those years..mine or not..this is me btw..i would deff would give money to help them out..and i think its just crappy as heck that he just left her and is out of her life like that...hellloo its not her fault!! he was all she knew her whole dang life..now he just left her like she was nothing..and i think he is a horrrible person for that and it breaks my heart in half thinking about it:(
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Yeah it sucks he has to pay when he's not responsible but at the same time I would think he would feel a little responsibility of taking care of her and not just stop altogether.
@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
30 Oct 07
It's very sad that it took ten years for the man to find out that the girl was not his daughter. I don't think he should have to pay child support for a child that isn't his. I can understand him being hurt and distancing himself from the daughter. What concerns me the most is how the child reacts to finding out that the man they thought was their father isn't. It's not fair for someone to be ordered to pay child support for a child that is not theirs.
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
30 Oct 07
Even if he's not her father I can't see how he could just stop caring about her altogether seeing that he spent 10 years taking care of her.
• United States
1 Nov 07
I saw the same episode of Dr. Phil and I was outraged. Gloria Allred said the faulty father should continue to pay child support because he waited too long to get a DNA test. How can you expect a father to get a DNA test if he truly believes that he is the father? In my state it's required to get a DNA test done before any child support order is made, unless the father has already signed the birth certificate. But I believe that it should be required for every case. I know it would cost more money, but it would save a lot of money, not to mention grief for the father who has been falsely accused. There are a lot of women out there whose morals would allow them to name a father who wasn't, simply because of the money he makes, the lifestyle he leads, because they don't know who the father is, or simply because they want that man back. There should be something done about this seriously, because in the end its the child who will be hurt and confused.
@michecu (637)
• Philippines
31 Oct 07
WEll, the situation is very complicated. Why it was only after 10 years that the father knew the kid is not his? But still if he fathered the child for 10 years, knowing that she's not his daughter must not stop him from giving child support except if he didn't really act the father role in those years but just gave child support. I guess, in order to avoid this situation again, I think before one is required to pay child support there must be a clear distinction/evidence that the child is really his. I guess this is where DNA tests are really helpful.
• United States
31 Oct 07
No, I don't think a man should be held legally responsible for a child that doesn't belong to him. That's a sad story really. How can someone turn their back on a child after being a part of their lives for that long? He needs to punish the mother, not the child. The child is probably as confused and frustrated as he is to find out that he's not her father.
• United States
30 Oct 07
I would think he would have a special bond with her enough and want to be with her anyway.I was told that their is now a statue of limiatation which I never heard about before.The mother has only so much time to file for paternity and child support and whoever is on the bith certificate is supposed to be responsible.I had to call human services to find that out.
@uath13 (8204)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I wouln't have just left the daughter, but boy would her mother be in trrroooouuuubbbbllllleeee..... All the same , he shouldn't have to pay. In fact the mother owes him a huge debt & the biological father should take over.