What do you think of open relationships/marriages

@sharone74 (4838)
United States
October 30, 2007 6:17am CST
What do you think of relationships where one or both partners are allowed to sleep with other people. I think t hat they are not wise and that the couples that have these types of relationships are better off either being single or not getting married in the first place. Plus the fact that opening a relationship kind of defeats both the purpose and the concept of a relationship in the first place. What do you think? Have you ever tried this?
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@ayshren (137)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I couldnt do it. The whole point of being in a relationship is to be committed one person. I couldnt imagine being okay with my man sleeping with another woman, and if Im committed to someone I wouldnt be sleeping with another man.
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@sharone74 (4838)
• United States
3 Nov 07
I tend to feel the same way, but with one of my boyfriends we did try gong to swinger's clubs a few times, however in that type of venue it didn't bother me. It bothered him which is why we stopped going there but it was origionally his idea!
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I'm in an open marriage of sorts actually BUT there are rules and its not like either of us is free to just sleep with whomever...My husband chooses to be with just me, but I have another man in my life as well as my husband and its been that way for several yrs now...Granted its definately not for everyone but it works out very well for us. Thats not to say that there arent kinks and issues at times but you get that with any relationship, monogomous or otherwise ya know....
@sharone74 (4838)
• United States
3 Nov 07
I think that there is a respect and a kind of confidence that this can give both parners when they allow their parner to sample someone elses goodies when they know as soon as the itch is scratched they are coming home. With a marriage sealed at only one end though there is bound to be issues of jealousy and curiousity. I must say having done the same thing in the past that there is more than a little male posturing on both sides when the marriage is open at the female end. If it works for you then it works though, right?
@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
3 Nov 07
Well thats just it ya know, it does work out well for us..its definately NOT for everyone and it really does take a strong couple to be in that sort of relationship too I have to add...We've been this way for goin on 10 yrs now BUT keep in mind that my other man ISN'T local to me so its not like I get to see him every weekend or every month for that matter ya know...so maybe thats a factor as well with us... I also want to say that its not like I take my relationships or marriage lightly by any means...I'm just not one to bind a person or be bound..IMO thats where problems arise ya know because whether ppl want to admit it or not there will always be one party who wants more control and the other will resist OR they both want control and clash over it etc..I've been through that in every other relationship before this one and they all ended in disaster complete with anger, cheating and lies which i have no time or desire for if that makes sense..Being open, honest and NOT having ties that bind and restrict works out very well for me and mine because there is no competition or struggle for superiority etc...but again its definately not for everyone at all...
@fracktion (154)
• Philippines
3 Nov 07
It sucks for me. I agree they are better off not married. Its a mockery to the sanctity of marriage. Im not saying that these people are evil however what they are doing is against what they promised to God and thus just like what sharone74 said defeating the purpose of marriage itself.