cheated in love, is it wrong to wish bad things for your partner?

India
October 30, 2007 6:04pm CST
one girl one guy, twice in a relationship and the girl cheats on the guy for three times!!! she left me the first time for someone, came back and then the second time she cheated once and left me again for someone else. She was tthe first firl i ever loved. she was my true love...... no matter what all she put me through i accpted it all and loved her!!! This time when she broke up, it was so cold.... she tore my feelings like i had none! and ya even though i did every damn thing rite she says she hates me, its been three months now and it still hurts me like hell!! i want her to feel the pain that i felt or even worse, is it wrong or rite? and also if god does justice to all then will she actually pay for all this she put me through?? i wish she never dies, but has a persistent emotional pain that she wishes she was better off dead!!!
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4 responses
• Philippines
31 Oct 07
I understand that you are now in pain and that is the reason why part of you want a revenge but you have to let go... first, totally let go of her and second, let go of the anger it won't help you. Move on, you deserve to live a happy life that is free from anger.
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
31 Oct 07
I think it is always wrong to pray/wish for evil things to befall another person - no matter how unjust and uncharitable they have been. Vengence/revenge is not ours to give. It is much better to pray for the person to have a conversion of heart and a spirit of repentance.
@carol_m (709)
• Philippines
31 Oct 07
Too bad it happened to you. I was once in that situation, too. And yes, the pain's unbearable and I admit I wished bad things to happen on him for him to realize the pain I had been through because of what he did. But after some recollections, I realized it's not worth it until I came to a point that I had no choice but to wish for his happiness. In your case, I can only imagine the pain you're through because she cheated you thrice. You might have loved her so much that you were able to forgive her for cheating you on the second time. You should have learned by this time that once a cheater, always a cheater. Still, I understand you for wishing all those emotional pain she would go through. But don't let the anger/pain stay for long. Just think about the good side of what happened; it might have been a blessing in disguise. Someone better would come along to love you with all honesty. And I do hope that what happened would make you a better person, and learn to love in due time. God bless!
@gradyslady (4054)
• United States
30 Oct 07
I'm so sorry to hear that all that has happened to you. You deserve better, I hope you realize that soon.