Sister in love with bad guy
By landlord
@landlord (9)
United States
October 31, 2007 12:59am CST
My sister and I used to be very close, now, not so much. She recently moved in with a guy that I think is too old for her and too controlling! I've tried talking to her nicely and she constantly defends him, even though I know she's not really that happy. What do I do? I am worried for her and scared she may marry him!
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5 responses
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
31 Oct 07
I think every one has to travel their own road, I know all about loving someone you yourself know is not good, but no-one can help how they feel, even when you are being treated bad some times it is so hard to walk away when there is that feeling, all you can do is let your sister know youare there for her no matter what and let her make her own mistakes...
@bdsmith214 (15)
• United States
14 Nov 07
wow... well first and foremost, while still being a good sister, you must respect your sisters decisions. these sort of things happen all the time. i've actually been in the same situation where i thought my sister had lost her mind dating such a wild guy. but i let her learn the hard way and now that they arent together anymore, she thanks me for supporting her and not turning my back on her.
@ishqvishq (1021)
• India
31 Oct 07
you just can convenced her nothing more then it just convinced her for future may be she will understand
@desimanero (419)
• United States
31 Oct 07
honestly there aint muchyou can do except let her learn on her own.I have 2 sisters in bad relationships and ive tried...BELIEVE ME I TRIED!!!Niether listen to me.Ive learned to step back and let the guys dig thire own holes and wake my sisters up for me.It will happen and soon.I see them argue and fight and i see my sisters getting fed up.I was in a bad relationship and i didnt listen to anyone iether.It took him really messing me up.....mind, body and soul for me to realize i needed to get out of the relationship.Dont worry it will happen.Now if you fear for thier lives thats a different story.If thats the case dont ever give up because from personal experience.....they cant defend themselves and theyre too scared to ask for help.So even if they act like theyhate you for getting in there business....theyre actually pretty thankful and feel safe knowing youre there to protect them.
@pearlineabraham (23)
• India
1 Nov 07
if it was me... i will let my sister learn things the hard way.... if she is not willing to listen to me who's been with her for so many years.... and defend a guy who came into her life recently.... i will jus leave her learn things the hard way... but... i will also keep giving my advise.... and tell her the consequence she will be facing.
