everyones a specialist in adhd

United States
October 31, 2007 3:03am CST
ok so i have a 6 year old daughter who has adhd. she has jut started medication for it and i just dont feel like it is working. then to top it off when she is around other ppl she doesnt act the same way so i fel like all these ppl think i am crazy. "oh she acts so good here" or " we never have any problems out of her" or "why do you have her on medicine for something if she doesnt have a problem" and then theres the "how could you do this to her she is just a child you are going to cause her to have more problems by having her on medicine" and i always get the "theres nothing wrong with her its just the way you act around her" i mean really since when did everyone become freaking doctors. i mean i would love to go through all the simple schooling that they all have seemed togo through to get their degrees...... it just really erks me that everyone else knows so much more than the other person!!!! is there anyone out there who has the same ppl surrounding them that can tell me how to handle this? and is there anyone out there who can give me some insight on some meds that i should talk to my dr about possibly trying???
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@ky1119 (699)
• United States
1 Nov 07
I had to respond to this. I have two kids with ADHD, one of those being my 7 year old daughter. She also has a mood disorder as well. She'll have fits like you've never seen before. I've never heard a child scream so loud, simply because you tell her no. I go through the same thing. She's perfect at school . She's only had 2 fits the entire time she's gone there, once last year and once this year. She doesn't act up too much at grandma's house, therefore, it's not her, it's me and my parenting skills. I beg to differ. Just ignore what others say and do what you feel is best. As for the medication not working, sometimes it takes some playing around to find the right one. Hang in there, it'll all be okay.
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@Dask1221 (160)
• United States
31 Oct 07
Well, I can't give you any suggestions on any meds you could try that would work, but I can lend you some sympathy on your situation. My husband and I go through the exact same thing with our daughter from his first marriage. She has adhd, and is on medication also, but the meds don't seem to make any difference in how she behaves/acts. Only thing different is that she does usually act the same at any time, no matter who we're around. I really don't see a point on having her on the medication if it's not making a difference, but I also have to try to trust the doctor that is supposed to know more than me. They don't think she has a problem at school, because for some reason she's doing very well. However, outside of school her attention span is about a second long, she always has to have something in her hands to fidget with, and she has a horrible problem with picking anything up and chewing on it. It is hard for us to deal with sometimes because we only have my husband's kids every other weekend per the custody order, but we try our best. And when she gets going, she can be very hyper. We don't know what to do either. And as far as everyone else trying to put it off like they know so much, I hate that too, and do have to deal with it. Nobody knows more than you do about your own kid, no matter how much they "think" they do. They don't see them all the time, and don't know how things are 24/7. Anyone who ever tells me they think there's no issues, I just want to tell them "yeah, come live with me for a while and see what you say then!"
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
31 Oct 07
Here are a couple of suggestions that worked well for my family. Start making notes as to when you see the behavorail problems. Is it in the mornings? Her medicine might not have had a chance to kick in yet. If that is so the doctor can give her another medicne that will kick in sooner to go along with what she is already taking. Does she have problems in the afternoon? There are a number of things that need to be factor in so that the doctor knows which course of treatment is best. I have two sons with ADHD as well as ODD so I can relate to what you are saying. Everyone is an expert. You are the one who knows her child the best and spends the most time with her.
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@THKOhio (330)
• United States
1 Nov 07
I've had to deal with the same problems regarding my now 17 year old daughter. She's been on meds since she was 6 yrs old as well. Finding the medication and the dosage that works for each child can require some trial and error. The doctor will just have to try a few different things, and you will have to watch your daughter to see what alleviates her symptoms. For us, Adderall XR has been the best choice.