What do you do when you feel that you're out of place?

Philippines
November 1, 2007 12:16am CST
During my second year, I had these close friends and classmates of mine. We would always go to the mall and have some gimmick. There are no days that we are not together. To sum it up, we're all very close. But when we stepped on our third year, I was changed to a new section and the others we're all in the same class. Slowly, things are not going well. They always talked about their classmates, the discussions they had and the funny things that had happened. There are times when I can't relate to them up to the point that I feel very out of place when I'm with them. I just smile and laugh with them but in the inside I feel very frustrated for not catching up to their life. But what can you expect, they had the chance talk about many things for ten hours without me hearing it. I want to go back in the past and be happy again. What can I do?
7 responses
@tatzkie (644)
• Philippines
1 Nov 07
that is sad. but i think the only solution there is to enrol in the same class with them. moreover if that cant be possible you may just look for new sets of friends and expand the circle. as they say the more the merrier.
• Philippines
1 Nov 07
That's what I'm doing right now actually. I believe that having friends is something that I shouldn't miss during school days. They are the ones who make your day different from each other. ..^^..cherry
@tatzkie (644)
• Philippines
1 Nov 07
thatz good to hear, u take care and enjoy!
2 Nov 07
well i will only say trying not to preaching u that life is all about changes... it always changes just like u n me... so try to keep in touch with them try to take some interest in their things as well as discuss ur stuff with them..
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
Changes..it's really hard to cope with it. But you're right that life is really all about it. Everything changes and it includes my relationship with my friends. ..^^..cherry
• India
1 Nov 07
well if i feel dat i dont belong here..i tend to avoid it..if i cant i will do sumthing that fits me in
• Philippines
2 Nov 07
Sometimes also tried to avoid going with them but I know that it's not the best thing to do. But I get your point because it's really hard to cope up with their new topics and interests. ..^^..cherry
• Philippines
1 Nov 07
I dont feel that way. Maybe because I am very funny person. I like giving jokes to all my friends. One thing more is that I am easy to be with. I always spend time with good friends. But just in case I guess I just keep quiet and wait for the time that I can go. Its ok with me if I cant keep up with them, I would just think that it wont do any harm to me.
• China
1 Nov 07
What you can do now is to listen. The more you listen to what your friends talk about, the more you can talk about to your friends. If they always ignore your feelings, I think they are not real friends of you. Maybe you should find other friends to replace them.
• Philippines
1 Nov 07
Thanks for mentioning the importance of listening. It's a vital ingredient for a friendship to last even for a lifetime. ..^^..cherry
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
1 Nov 07
People change, relationships change that's just how it is. I'm sure your friends haven't abandoned you they are just broadening their circles. Keep trying to stay connected to them. Any relationship takes work and it takes an effort to say connected to you friends. Maybe they can introduce you to their new friends and then you'll get to know them as well.
• Philippines
1 Nov 07
Your right. It really takes an effort to stay connected with my friend especially in my situation. But there are times when I want the company of my new friends up to the point that I forgot about them and I feel ashamed of myself for doing that. Thanks for the reply! ..^^..cherry
@furion1 (274)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
Sometimes I feel the same way when one of my friend is with his group and I can't seem to relate to what they are talking about. I just laugh and smile at them as if I understand them. It is annoying and pretending to be part of the group is very tiring. I can't even make one short response to them. I also feel the same with you when you change your class section when I got to college. Most of my friends change a bit and I can't relate to them when they talk about their class, their new friends, events in their university and funny situations they got into. Like what you said, it is frustrating and it really is. But I listen to my friends even though I don't understand them and show that I care.