My problem niece and the cats

United States
November 1, 2007 7:25am CST
I have a 32-year old niece who is the "black sheep" of the family. Both of her parents have passed away and she is an only child. She says I am the closest thing she has to a mother. She has been getting into trouble since she was 14 with stealing, drugs and check forgery. She served 14 months of a 2 year sentence for probation violation, check forgery and drug possession. She was paroled a year ago. Her parole was up on Oct. 31. None of the family will have anything to do with her. I am the only one who has even spoken to her in 3 years. I keep her away from me and won't allow her to come to my home, but I do speak to her by telephone. She has said it is almost impossible to get an apartment with a drug conviction. Right now she is living with 4 adults and 2 children. Yesterday she called me to tell me she will have her own apartment by February. I have a cat she bought 4 years ago and I ended up taking responsibility for within a few weeks. I had gotten a cat as a companion to the one my niece got. There are just too many animals in my home and I am trying to find a home for both cats. My niece wants me to keep the cats until she gets her apartment. I have a feeling that when the time comes, she will want me to co-sign her apartment lease. She has just never been reliable in the past and I will not co-sign anything for her. Should I keep trying to place the cats in a new home or should I believe my niece and hold on to the cats for her?
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4 responses
• United States
1 Nov 07
Well, honestly...it doesn't sound like your niece should be given responsibility of any living thing. But you know her better than any of us, if you think she can take care of 2 cats; and keep them alive and healthy...than I would keep them until she gets her apartment. When the time comes, def. don't co-sign an apartment lease, and if she ends up not getting one anways, or anything else goes wrong...find the cats a good home. But if you don't believe she can take care of cats, oh, don't give them to her! I'm sure you want them to have good homes, and if she can't provide that she doesn't deserve them.
• United States
1 Nov 07
Actually, I don't think she could be responsible for a house plant. My late sister and I were very lucky that my niece never had any children. I would be raising them right now. (It's unlikely, but not impossible that she could have children. She has had surgery that will make it difficult to carry a baby to term. Sorry, I went off on a rant.) I can't let her have the cats. I would go nuts wondering if they were being fed. I need to find them another home. Thank you!
• United States
1 Nov 07
Yeah, it's good that she probably won't be able to have kids if she can't even take care of a plant! That's awful! X.X You are def. doing the right thing not letting her have the cats! I would never give someone another living thing (including a plant!) if they can't even take care of themselves X.X Do you have pictures of the cats you can share? I love cats (and dogs! lol) =P
• United States
1 Nov 07
They are on my website which has pictures of all of our dogs and the last litter of puppies. The cats are on the "Rescue Dogs" button. I guess I need to change that to "Rescue Pets". It is at www.monsterpuppies.com.
• Canada
1 Nov 07
Well I would go with what your gut instinct is telling you. You know how your niece is and if she is not reliable then you can't expect her to be anymore reliable now. Or your other option is to ask her to find another place for the cats til she gets her apartment. If she wants her cats that bad she will do it and understand why you can't keep them any longer.
• Canada
1 Nov 07
Thats exactly it. If she won't do one then she deifinately won't do the other. I really hope she follows through with this small task. To me it would show she is changing even if it is just something minor. Its starts with the small things in life.
• United States
1 Nov 07
You have an excellent idea! If she can't follow through in finding them a home until she gets her apartment (if it ever happens), then it definitely shows that her intentions are not good.
@rimsha (806)
• Pakistan
2 Nov 07
Niece is important then Cat
• United States
2 Nov 07
The cats have never lied to me or stolen from me or beat my sister up.
@bambi_doe (566)
• United States
1 Nov 07
I would keep trying to find a good home for the cats because if she showed any concern she would have taken them by now for herself. As for co signing for anything nope will not do it no way. Because if she doesn't pay you will been there done that. hugs
• United States
1 Nov 07
Thanks! You seem to feel the same way I do. I guess I just need a little support from somewhere. My sister is gone now and the rest of the family won't give me advice where she is concerned.