Revenge a Good Option?

no, i don't retaliate! If you mean verbal attack, I usually ignore it! If people see you reponding to their attack they assume that they've bothered you and will continue. If the attacker seems to get no response from their attack it appears as though their attack hasn't bothered you and isn't working and they will eventually give up wasting their time.

It is always good to cool down any hot arguments or verbal disagreements. To retaliate or get even would only result to further damages. When someone is verbally dumping on you, do not interrupt, counter, or counterattack in midstream, or you will only prolong and intensify their comments. When they have finished, ask "Is there anything else you want to add?" Then say, "What would make this situation better?" or "How can we improve this situation in a way you believe we can both accept?" What will it make it better is for you and the person who wants to get back on you to settle the differences squarely. Ask them to propose a solution to the issue they have raised. If they continue to complain or attack, acknowledge you heard them each time and, like a broken record, repeat yourself in increasingly brief language variations: "What will make it better?" State your view and what you would like from them. if they disagree, then ask, "What would make this situation better for both of us?" Move the other person from a mode of criticizing to problem solving. If she or he continues to criticize, act like a broken record. In a calm voice, again acknowledge and ask more briefly: I understand you have a concern and we disagree. What would make it better for us both?" If the other person continues on the downward track of criticism, say, "I want to find a way to resolve your concern. When do you want to talk about it next?" Then you can remove yourself from the tone of that discussion and put the other person in the position of initiating follow-up. When criticized or attacked, you are more likely to find resolutions sooner when the other person comes to trust your positive intent. Demonstrate your willingness to find a compromise and ability to be genial even and especially if you don't like the person or the situation. Often the best solution to a criticism or verbal attacks leaves both parties a little unhappy but not enough to retaliate later on. You are both somewhat satisfied with your compromise and willing to move on.