Gave birth and not telling.
By violeta_va
@violeta_va (4831)
Australia
November 2, 2007 7:20am CST
My friend gave birth 3 days ago. At one point we were very close but as her husband drinks a lot more than any of our husbands do he wanted someone that can keep up with him (sort of thing) so slowly they moved away from all of us. We still visited each other and were on the phone all the time. I took her for some doctor apointments and all that gave her suport and now this. last night I spoke to my other friend and she told me that she gave birth to a girl and that they got a call 2 days later from both of them (husband and her) and they went over there. The thing is we didnt get a call. I don know that it is a major thing and people forget but out of everyone they forgot only 1 person (and its not like there is 100 of us it was just us 5 couples that were close. I am pissed off.
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5 responses
@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
2 Nov 07
My Dear Violeta!!whole our life we have to deal with all kind of friends!!I am sure,you are a very good person and it will be good and nice if you try to forget this incident and call her for just one more time!!I always try to give a second chance to my friends!!Be strong and better that she was and give her a call!!I am sure that she was not forget!Please do the best thing and be happy!!The life is to short!!You have my sympathy and understanding!!Your Friend Silvana
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
3 Nov 07
I will never call her after the was she has treated me I wont turn the other cheak. I have had enough of people walking all over me. I was good enough to run after her (she is 34 and I was the person that helped her get pregnant I took her to doctors and translated to her I asked around for the best doctors ands looked up all the info on her condition) I have never told anyone about this and never made it sound as if I need to be thanked for it. And at the end this at least if I knew why????????
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@kwenge (2487)
• Kenya
3 Nov 07
Let me think..............I think the major problem is the drinking thing.......out of the 5 couples, can it be true that it is only your husband or the one couple that was left out does not drink? you say they were called on thursday for drinks. Maybe they are descriminating you because you don't drink. But all in all just try and call her, congratulate her for the baby and ask her when you can go visit. If she gives excuses then I think you should just avoid them. Please dont judge them before hearing from them, it might be just a normal oversight.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
3 Nov 07
there is more to it than a simple oversight. No my husband and me do drink but not as much as he does and with that I would say that none of us drink as much as he does, but we all have a drink or two.
@BellasmamaTiff (2544)
• United States
3 Nov 07
I would be upset too. But, when was the last time you talked to them? And, was everything on good terms last time you talked? It could be something to do with that, Idk.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
3 Nov 07
last time I spoke to her was last thrsday or friday her mother in law arived from Europe so I called to see how she was and I asked how she felt what the doctors told her (she was overdue) told her to call me if she needs me, (at one point she wanted me to be present for the birth but then she changed her mind). and that was it.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
2 Nov 07
I would feel hurt too especially if I was with her doctor's appointments and in regular touch with her. You should have been the first person they called. When I had my second child, I made a list of all my friends who helped and made my husband call them as soon as I had the baby.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
2 Nov 07
well ok I dont expect to be the first person they call but at least to call me when the whole gang was there and not live me out of it.
@mmiller26 (1930)
• Canada
2 Nov 07
It could be that in this exciting and stressful time, they simply forgot. The first few weeks after giving birth are hectic. You didn't say if she was still in the hospital or not. If it's only been 3 days, then it could be that they just want some time to settle into things. You said your friend got a call 2 days after she gave birth, and it's only been 3 days, right? Between nursing and sleeping and family being around, she's probably overwhelmed.
Take the initiative yourself. Call up your friend and say 'I heard from so-and-so that you had the baby. Congratulations! Can I drop by some time and see you?' and take it from there. Then, later, when everything settles down, you can pull her aside and tell her that you were hurt that she didn't call you. You have the right to feel hurt, but this is her time, so don't confront her about it quite yet.
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
2 Nov 07
ok she gave birth on wednesday morning and they told everyone on wednesday and thursday. it is just 5 of us and the other 3 were told and were invited for a drink at their place. So to say that out of 4 other they only forgot 1 in all the fuss it seems unlikely. she remembered to call everyone but us and her husband remembered to call everyone but us. I love her like a sister and never spoke ill of her and tried to help her as much as I could at least if I knew why it would not hurt so much.
