Totally unappreciated and ignored...

I'm so sorry that your life is so stressful for you right now. I work nightshifts too, I understand all that. Honestly, I sleep on our couch sometimes too, because it it so much easier for me to sleep there. I was laying in my bed for an hour, couldn't fall asleep, when laid down on the couch...fell asleep in 5 mins! But that's just me. You scoot your husband into bed and tell him you want to vaccum. His should stop blaming you for stuff that doesn't get done around the house, it isn't even your responsiblity!!! You should give yourself a vacation. If you have the time and money, snag your closest friend and just GO. Go out wherever! Shopping at the mall, to a spa, restruant, movie, the zoo?....anywhere! Just get out of the house and do something, just for you! Or you can take a longer vacation time. Go to....a fun place that is near by! lol. Sorry I don't know where you live. But I mean like...Vegas, or New York! Go somewhere you can afford! And just have fun! Any mother who has to deal with the "family life" deserves vacations!"

My boyfriend does that too. Tuesdays and thursdays I have to get up at five thirty for school and he wants to keep the tv on past midnight and gets peeved when I ask him to turn it off. Dont ask me to sleep in your room if you cant respect my requests. Anyways that is ridiculous foxy. Im sorry.

Awwwwww I do feel bad for you. I hope you feel better now after that venting. Sometimes thats all we have to do. Just let it out let it all out.LOL I think you need to do something nice for yourself. The heck with everyone else. They will still be there. Cheer Up. Hugs to you!

Your post sounds like my life most of the time. My husband is the same way and most of the time I feel like I have two children instead of one. I also feel like I am the live in maid as I do everything and the only thing he does is work (which I'll give him credit for as he does work hard and I just wish he brought that same work ethic home LOL), sometimes cook, play on his laptop and watch tv. I take care of my son from the time he wakes up through to the time he goes to bed and during the night if need be. I totally understand where you are coming from and thank God for mylot at times because if they don't listen to us, this place is just as good a place to vent too. I handle things differently now and just do what I can. If they complain I tell them to do it themselves or wait until I am ready to do it. Its not easy but I now do what I can and leave the rest until I can do it. I also try to take some time out as well, which is not always easy but I force the issue. Hang in there foxy!! we are here if you need us!!

Sometimes all it takes is some venting to make us feel better and I hope this helped you out a little. I know how it feels when nobody understands or even listens to me and it makes me feel horrible. Do something nice for yourself and depend on yourself to make you feel better! We're hear to help! Hope your day gets better and tonight does to!

Though I'm having a senile moment about the s/o, I'll still say this. Sorry that happened to you, and you are always welcome to vent here. Its terrible some people are treating you like that. Vent anytime Foxy, thats part of what mylot is for. We are here Foxy.

OMG I totally know what you mean. I feel the exact same way. I finally blew up at my husband and said that i needed him to stop telling me what is wrong here or there, and actually get up and do some of it himself. Do not tell me that I am bad at housekeepign I know I am right now. Because the girls are at my constant beck and call. Cleaning our house is the last priority on my list. And when he does not even lift a finger to help me with cleaning the home, then it is just impossible to keep up with it at ALL times. Now we are on the job hunt too, he is not finding anyting and just waiting for something to fall in his lap...I on the other hand am just at wits end. so now I just do what I need to do. I want to just get the job too but I do not want to completely make him feel like a loser. Everyone says I am enabling him and I know that I am too but I can not help it I just can not sit around and wait it out, I am not good with that!

I would say kick his butt and stop doing things for him and see if that will teach him I know that is what I would do

What's a s/o? Anyway... I feel sorry for you. If you want attention and recognition... you are going to need to be a little tougher than that. GO ON STRIKE. You tell him and his mom that you want time out. You had enough of being a servant. If they want a maid... they can hire one. Tell them "You want a divorce". laugh.

I hope it helped you a little to get that off your chest, Foxy! I know exactly where you're coming from, but don't you let it get you down, if they don't appreciate you it's their loss, not yours! Just let your s/o know you're not going to be a doormat for him or his family! Men can be so selfish sometimes; not all men and not all the time, guys, so don't get mad at me...I know there are good guys out there. It's just sometimes men don't understand how much goes into taking care of little ones plus cleaning and cooking. Women need some r&r too! If it was at all possible I'd follow another poster's advice and take a little trip or at least have a day or evening out with a friend...SOMETHING for you! Or even get something for yourself, even if it's just something small. I've found that sometimes the "little things" can mean a lot. Be well, a here's another HUG for you. Annie

I understand your frustration because of all 6 siblings I'm the one who does the most work around the house and taking care of our parents. Sometimes I feel like a slave. In your case your body is starting to complain. You take a rest if you have to. To heck with them if they don't know how to appreciate you.

So sad to hear what you're going through. It really is stressful. Hope you felt better after you have vent some of your frustrations. In any case, I hope things get better for you. And, there is always mylot to vent out any time you feel frustrated. Cheers!

i'm sorry you have to endure this, foxyfire33. it's a terrible thing when you feel like there is no one there for you. especially when all you do, is for others and they just walk all over you when you need their help & support during a difficult time. it's a tough job keeping kids cared for, keeping the house clean for everyone, cooking & all..and even harder if you work outside the home, too..and then to have no one apprecite it or be disrespectful when you ask for something in return. believe me, i know all too well how this feels...and you should vent it all out...otherwise it'll eat away at you and that's not going to do any good, so vent all you want...that's what friends are for...listening ! so, my question is....if there are 4 adults living there..why is up up to only you..to do the cleaning etc ? these other 3 adults should understand the stress your under just by having extra people living with you etc. so they should be helping you out, period ! and if they're not doing their fair share..then they are selfish, uncaring fools...not to be disrespectful, or anything but, if they have, had children they know how hard it is to care for them. if they ever lived with anybody, the know how much more work is involved and should be helping you out in any way they can. other wise they're taking advantage of your good hearted nature ! and if they're holding you back on your chores because they've decided to sleep on the couch, sleep at odd hrs etc, then its for them to pick up that slack and do the cleaning or whatever, once they're up and about since they caused the delay in the first place. and whats with sleeping on the couch in the first place ? especially when there's others living in that space ? i find this arrogant and rude. this causes everyone else to stop living in a normal fashion and thats totally unfair. how do you occupy kids, clean & cook etc..with someone sleeping on the couch ? call me a witch but, i would never allow this, unless of course, we had no bedroom to sleep in. otherwise, they need to get off the couch and into bed and let others go about their normal business or stop complaining ! and what is it with these s/o's...thinking its okay to sit at the pc....on their butts, when theres things that need to be done in the household ? this frustrates me to no end. if they have time to sit on the pc, then they have time to help out. this is a rule in my home since we all like our pc time. no one gets private pc time unless the house is in order because we all live there & we all have the responsibility to keep it in order ! so, this kind of behavior etc...would not happen here, i can tell you that...and this comes from having experienced all you are now. it's called lesson learned from past mistakes. just from me trying to keep everyone happy, everything cleaned etc..and being unappreciated..only to find myself unhappy, tired and worn out because i was trying to do it all, alone ! which more times then not, just doesn't work ! so, ask for help and if you get none, just stop doing it and let them see just how much you are doing, when it doesn't get done. believe me, they'll take notice when they have to wash, step over or clean something they need etc ! i would have set the limits beforehand and explained just what i expected out of everyone living there before they moved in. this way everyone knows they have a part to play in keeping things in order. so, if they make a mess, they clean it. if they see something that needs to be done, just do it. wouldn't they have to do the same stuff if they were living in their own place ? absolutely !!!!! so what makes them think they don't have to help you when your job has now doubled, at the very least ? i hope for your sake they do move in dec...and if they don't, do what i did one time that caught everyone off guard. they thought i was so nice, kind etc when they lived with us & i did it all for everyone. that was, until i felt used, mistreated etc, so much so, that i did a strike ! i didn't do a thing, but took care of my children. so, nothing was done and the house looked like crap..dishes piled up, laundry too but, i turned my eyes the other way, as hard as it was and ignored comments etc. and did that for over a week, can you believe that...until they got the hint that i wasn't doing it. they eventually got the message that i only cooked & cleaned what me and my children did, nothing more. so when they smelled food cooking and were hungry, but found no leftovers or the table set for us all to enjoy, they began fending for themselves. funny how they learned, even if not so quickly ! lol but eventually they got the hint & they cooked, cleaned, did laundry etc when they didn't have someone to take advantage of ! lol so maybe you could try this or maybe its best to wait and see if they do leave in dec. before trying this. but either way, some boundries and rules need to be set. i wish you luck, i send a huggies for support and most of all, i send you confidence & hopefully knowledge, that only you can stop these people from taking advantage of your good nature by standing firm in knowing your not asking for anything more then what your giving !