He's not my best friend!
By foxyfire33
@foxyfire33 (10005)
United States
November 3, 2007 8:50pm CST
My 4 1/2 year old goes to preschool with 14 other kids on Tuesday and Thrday and 10 others on Wednesday. He's very shy so making friends hasn't been easy. I was really worried about him for awhile there. He finally came home talkimng about his best friend L. I was so happy for him. L is a girl but so what. He was happy, he has a friend, I was happy.
Now though all I hear from M's mom and the teachers is how my son and M are best friends and M just loves my son and talks about him all the time. I think that's great too! M is a boy and just a few months younger than my son ...and his mom is nice too which makes a difference (any of you who have dealt with snooty preschool moms can understand that!)
But here's the thing my son insists that M is NOT his friend and that he doesn't like M. I'm not sure what to think. Is my son just confused about what friendship means? I mean he is just a little boy. Or is M one of those kids that latches on to another kid and won't take no for an answer?
The teachers are sure they are good friends and I'm not there at school to watch myself...any ideas how to get a 4 1/2 year old to explain things? lol
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5 responses
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
4 Nov 07
Sounds like M is making up stories pretending that he is friends with your son OR maybe they are friends but not best of friends as your son sees it.
I would just ask him questions about M, and how he feels towards M.
My sons two best friends is a girl and a boy and they hang out together during recess. He always talks about the girl though :)
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
5 Nov 07
I'm thinking it's more of the latter...the more I've talked to my son, the only problem he has with M is that he's a boy. I think my son has friends and girlfriends mixed up...he has a teenage brother afterall!
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
4 Nov 07
Oh dear lol that is a tough one
I would actually try to find out why he does not like him and things like that just ask in general lol thats what I used to do and ask what he does not like about him
The good thing about Children at that age is that they tell the truth and are honest
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
5 Nov 07
Yes they do! LOL sometimes they are too honest! Like my oldest boy in kindergarten...there was a girl that was a bit on the heavy side, she bent over in front of him (and other kids) and my son said very honestly "you need a belt, your butt is hanging out".
@wmaharper (2315)
• United States
5 Nov 07
Kids are funny. It could be that he and M are friends, but maybe L is telling him they are not? Sometimes kids do that. "L" could be jelous and telling your little guy that M is not his friend.. that could be the root. I would talk to your son about M, and ask why he doesn't like HIm? I would ask "why is M not your friend? who says M is not your friend?" and see what his response is. I know my son (3) will believe someone else over his own self sometimes. I would set up a play date with M and afterwards, when they leave.. you could make a fun list of "why M is my friend" it would not only solidify that friendship but it would also help to teach him the qualities and character of good friends. Good luck to you and your little one!
@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
4 Nov 07
Maybe your child doesn't fully understand what the term bestfriend is. Or should I say, he should be given a deeper meaning of what friendship is so that he will learn to appreciate his classmates. Start teaching him at home and always use the word friend so that he will appreciate what it means.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
5 Nov 07
I guess that is a possibility. He's only been in a school setting for 2 months now.
@starrywonder (625)
• United States
4 Nov 07
Its just a childs friendship. he probably wont remember about it in a year. Just try to get him to tell you and when hes ready he will.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
5 Nov 07
I suppose you may be right...then again I'm still friends with a boy I met when I was 5.
