i have a problem with my sons speaking ability

@noriko (1254)
November 4, 2007 5:30am CST
i have a 21 months old son. when he was 13-14 months he started to say words like mama and daddy. say words like no, yes and sounds like excuse me. but when he reached his 19 month i barely heared him say a word. if he is thirsty he points at the water and says umm umm. when he wants cookies he points the cookie jar and says umm umm. is this normal? i barely hear him say mama and daddy too. i am worried of why his speaking ability slowed down. do i really have to worry? is this normal? help.
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@Nykkee (2522)
• Canada
5 Nov 07
Has he recently gone into daycare or is there any time that he is in the care of someone other than yourself without you there to supervise? Regression can sometimes be a sign of abuse or trauma of some kind. I would take him to see the doctor and keep a very close eye on anyone that ever watches him for you. Maybe consider a teddy bear with a Nanny Cam hidden inside of it.
@noriko (1254)
6 Nov 07
i am a stay at home mom i am with him 24/7
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@Nykkee (2522)
• Canada
6 Nov 07
Well in that case I have another suggestion. Have you or anyone close to you had a new baby recently? A frieend of mine had a similar issue with her child when her sister had her baby. The child saw the baby getting attention and being love (not that he didn't get any but you know how kids can be) and got jealous so they revert back to baby behavior sometimes in an attempt to get all the attention be the baby again.
@noriko (1254)
6 Nov 07
i think my child needs a playmate. the only people he sees everyday is me and his dad. we bring him on a play ground once a week only and that is the only time he interacts with children. my friends and relatives lives far from us so there are no other babies around us but him. but thank you for your suggestion i am very happy that youa re helping me patiently.
• Canada
4 Nov 07
Well my son by 1 yr was saying "I love You" and by 18 months he stopped completely other than uh, uh for whatever he wanted. He's 5 now and still has some problems speaking. My son stopped talking because my mother movedout of the province and they were really close. This is confimed by our family doctor as well. It was too tramatic for him to have her there all the time to her never being around. So my advice to you would be to go have your son assessed by a speech therapist and have his hearing checked, thats another reason he could be slowing down with his speech. Has anything major changed in his life from age 14 months to now? Don't put it off for too long otherwise you may end up with a child that always grunts and whines for what he wants. and if its his hearing it needs to get taken care of at an early age.
@noriko (1254)
5 Nov 07
there was no major or tramatic happened. but thanks for sharing
• Canada
5 Nov 07
Your very welcome hun. Well its good that nothing tramatic happened. Just talk to your doctor about getting refered to someone that will test his hearing and speech. With speech therapy you will see a huge difference in a small amout of time. Hugs & Good Luck
@noriko (1254)
6 Nov 07
thank you very much again, your remarks has certainly gave me good ideas and things to ask when we see the doctor.
@Soniasony (1827)
• India
5 Nov 07
See let me give a advice not an expert one but this is basic for all growing kids...let me put it in points 1:Children usually learn to speak from around..So keep talking something or the other in front of the child..So he get used to words..child starts to speak learning from his surroundings. 2:After this keep telling him or questioning him..like this is mom,that is dad..this is tree..so that he makes an attempt to repeat. 3:Watch TV along with him.. 4:Take him to place where there are lot of people talking..So he may be influenced by his surroundings.. 5:I think your kid is absolutely normal..my cousin took around 2 years to spaek properly ..
@noriko (1254)
6 Nov 07
thanks for the advice, you in a point is right. we are only 3 person in the house. my hubby works and i do the chores mostly in the house. i do communicate with my son but mostly he plays alone with his toys. we do bring him every week in a playground where there are a lot of kids but that is only once a week. thanks for the advice.
@meljessxena (2315)
• Australia
5 Nov 07
ah im not sure if this is really normal, personally i dont think it is, if i was you probably go see a doctor to get a referal to see a speech therapist, ( i think you need a referal not really sure)
@noriko (1254)
6 Nov 07
thanks, i will do that.
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
5 Nov 07
I think he is abit slow, but I'm not sure about it. Bring to his doc to have a check up. My niece started to call mama at about 19 months, before that they were worry that she might have a problem but luckily after all the checkup ( included the ear check), she is all right. My sis try to make her talk like if she want to eat chocolate, put it in front of her and repeat chocolate and ask her to speak. If she make a little sound like coco or something (of course she can't pronounce chocolat) she can have it. Now she is about 26 months she is very talkative. To us every kids is different. One of my niece started to walk when she is two. She can't walk before that, she only getup to stand when she is 18 months old.
@noriko (1254)
6 Nov 07
thats is so nice to hear that she is talkative now that she is 26 months. my son started walking when he was 13 months old, and now he rans at the house.
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
6 Nov 07
All kids are different, some talk earlier than others while some start walking a little bit earlier than others. If he had already had a check up and he is alright than don't worry too much. Or maybe he needs to have kids around to make him talk. Some kids learn to talk when they have friends. They learn things faster from other kids then adults.
• China
5 Nov 07
don't too worry ,i have seen many cases like your son ,boys learn to speak often later than girls,and before he opens his mouth ,someone will have a long period of silence ,you shpould be patient.
@noriko (1254)
6 Nov 07
yes patient, thank you very much teardrops and welcome to mylot.
• United States
5 Nov 07
Tell him to say mother and father, or to call you by your first names. I call my mother, "mother" or I call her by her first name. It is normal for us.
@camo26 (1418)
4 Nov 07
Yeh definatly get his hearing checked out my son had the same problem he was constantly getting ear infections since he was 8 months old and once he started speaking we noticed his speach didnt progress as much as his older brother thinking ok everyone is different we never thought much of it untill he got to 2 years old and we found his speach was quite poor i.e he would mumble alot and do the same as your son just grunt and point at things plus his behaviour was quite bad aswell. So we got him checked out at the doctors who made arrangements for him to see the ear,nose and throte spcialist where we found out after a few tests that with all the ear infections he had been having resulted in the inside of his ears flaming up and causing him to go slightly def which in turn made his speach poor which also explained the behaviour too ( he couldnt hear/understand us properly telling him off for being bad). We were told to leave him as he was for a while to see if it calmed down itself and if it didnt then they would consider doing surgery taking out his annoids, tonsils and putting in gromits ( he had problems with breathing aswell hence the other two). He has improved alot since his last appointment so we really are hoping when he goes back on the 22nd of this month they decide not to operate. Sorry about blabbing on a bit all i was trying to say is its mabey best you do get him checked out just incase but dont worry to much it may just be a stage and he will grow out of it :)
@noriko (1254)
6 Nov 07
oh dear that was not blabbing, you are helping me analyze and helping me on what to do with my son. and by sharing your experience it will make me aware of what i should do. thank you very much. my child has no hearing problem for he can follow what i want him to do, but of course he might have a problem with his tonsils or voice box. really need to see a doctor.
• United States
4 Nov 07
If he's lost abilities or skills he had before, like speaking, I would definitely talk to his pediatrician about it. He'll probably arrange for him to have some evaluations to determine if there's a problem. If you're in the US, you can get Early Intervention which will provide speech therapy from birth til age three.
@noriko (1254)
5 Nov 07
i am not from the US but still i will talk to his Pedia and try to seek help.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
5 Nov 07
Yes, you have a cause to worry, please tell me, does he still establish eye contact? Does he seem like he is withdrawing? Please call your pediatrician asap and get him for a full work up and make sure he/she listens to you.
@noriko (1254)
6 Nov 07
yes he establishes eye contact, he is very bubbly and very happy kid. he make it a point to join in everything i do around the house. i even bought him a small broom for he always want to get the broom when i start sweeping.
@youless (112100)
• Guangzhou, China
5 Nov 07
Please don't feel worried. Everything will be fine. My son speaks very slow, too. He did make the sound like baba when he was about 6 months old. Later he didn't often make special sound. When he saw something interesting, then he would point on it and asked us to speak it. At that time I was worried as well as you. Finally when he was about 2 years old, he started to speak. And after that, he made a great progress and he never stopped speaking. Now I just found he speaks so much:) So I think your son is just trying to memorize everything in his mind. And he just doesn't want to say it now. But once he speaks, he won't stop. Sometimes boys speak later than girls. So just try to relax. I am sure soon I will hear from your good news:)
@noriko (1254)
6 Nov 07
thank you very much youless, that is what my hubby was trying to tell me. that our son is just taking his time and will soon be starting talking and if he does he wont stop.
• United Arab Emirates
5 Nov 07
First of all, don't worry. Since he had spoke once, there is nothing to worry. But, if this is making u feel worried now, please do consult a child doctor and have a check up. I feel this is very normal. My son started talking properly only after his 2nd birthday and that too very few small words. It differs from child to child. Take care.
@noriko (1254)
6 Nov 07
hi there lavenderbloom, thanks for the calm words. yes it is true it differs from child to child. i've seen my nieces and nephews as they were growing and they are not like my son. maybe also because this is our first baby and we really are expecting so much from him. but yes we will still consult our doctor.
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
4 Nov 07
there is a speech lessons on that case. Thats all i know..Relax go to his pedia and ask for this..its kinda serious though so to seek good answers ..visit the pedia..