how to cope

I really don’t know how does one stay strong in such situations but I really admire women who are able to take care not only of themselves but of small kids too. Maybe you can find some solace in religion but this is not the time to sit idly and pray…your son needs your attention first and foremost and you are indeed doing your best for him. I hope family and friends (if they are nearby) can provide you some succor in this hour of darkness. Keep connecting with us thru this forum, you will find many more friends here who can at least share a kind word with you.

Well,sorry to hear that. That's really sad for a 11-year old boy.You should try not to think about what bad effects will life brings to you at the time that your husband passed away. Don't cry in front of your son and be strong to support yourself. What's more important,your son needs you and he can't lose you since he's already lost his dad. Find some frineds when you're sad,share the things with them. Don't take them all by yourself. Sometimes that's really hard to put up with only by yourself. I hope everything will go well with you later. Good luck!

You poor dear. I take it that your sons father and you were not still a couple, but even so it is hard to take. You need to try to stay strong, but remember it is okay to cry. Try to satisfy your son with answers with out putting the worry and fear on him at least until something is definate. God bless you and hang on Girl you's will get through this with time. I will say a prayer for you both and for his dad. My thoughts are with you.

I am so sorry, it sounds like you are going through a terrible thing in your life. I don't think you have to stay strong, it is ok to cry, I am not saying become a basket case. But it is important for you son to learn it is ok to cry and if you can't cry at the loss of a parent when can you cry. Explain to him, you miss his father very much and it is hard for you right now, but you know that some day, you will be able to think about him and smile because you had so many good times.

Today as I see my kids try to grow up aNand try to look to me for inspiration I know the burdens that must have been on him. How will I survive? I know its up to me whatever my life will finally become, as it always has. I will no longer have that crutch to fall back on. I only hope I can do half as good as he did. I have a long way to catch to where he was with his children us at the same age as I ma now. But hopefully I will be inspired to truly do better. My father performed a miracle to raise three boys and two girls in the 60' as a black man. Although he usually had a steady job as a teacher, we always had to struggle. It will be a new experience. One Im not sure Im ready for physcologiocally but one that I definitely must face sooner or later. Let me be inspired to do better for my son 10 and daughter 8 and 5.