So, who wears a wedding ring?
November 6, 2007 12:35am CST
I'm just curious about something. Those of you who are married, or who have been married, do you or did you wear a wedding ring? If you don't/didn't, why not? I've been married ten years. I don't wear a ring. Thankfully this doesn't seem to bother my husband, lol. My reasoning is the tradition behind it. Wedding rings are ownership claims, and I have no owner. In ancient history, when a man took a woman as his property, he would bind her hands and feet so she couldn't escape. As she'd grow more comfortable with the situation, he'd remove the binds, keeping twine only around her finger .. as a reminder. Fast forward a whole bunch of years and we now call it a wedding ring. I'm too feminist I guess for something that, in my opinion, is the same thing as a cow being branded. But to make it clear, this is solely my choice and I don't judge anyone elses decisions or choices, knowing the symbolism means something different to the individual. ;) Anyhow, this seems to be getting more and more common. I have a few married friends who also chose not to pursue the tradition of wedding rings, for one reason or another. So I was curious where others are on the issue.:)
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6 Nov 07
My husband and I don't wear and don't have any wedding rings... i an not fond of wearing jewelry so i don't mind not having a wedding ring... i will always worry that i might lose it or it might get damaged if i accidentally take a bath wearing it... i have been criticize by others for not having one... but i firmly believe that a wedding ring is not the measure of being a wife or a husband... it is not the thing that bonds married couple together...
6 Nov 07
I'm not a big jewelery person, either. The most I ever wear is a small pair of pearl earings, that my husband bought me on our first anniversary. And even those I don't wear that often, I just can't be bothered. And you're right. While a ring might be symbolic for some, for others the symbolism lies elsewhere and the rings don't mean much of anything. Thanks for the reply. :)
15 Nov 07
well i always wear the first ring he put in my fingers...a simple metal ring which is not very expensive but is priceless to me. the ring which his mother gave me in my marriage has a lot of designing done in it and so it pulls my hair when i make a bun, and also picks up threads from my clothes so i dont wear it.
15 Nov 07
Although in a way I agree with you in the traditional ownership symbol I don't really have any special objection about wearing a wedding ring. In any case I don't consider it makes any difference wearing one or not. Some people like rings, it's just one more. Being a ring that shows the world that the person is married can be a good or a bad thing depending on the person, but it doesn't have to mean anything more than that. That said, I don't wear one. My husband does.- which comes to prove that it means nothing but that's another story. I used to wear mine for a long time until I started reacting to metals - including some gold. I rarely wear any jewelry now except in some occasions for a very short time. But back to the wedding ring. I feel fine about showing the world I"m married, I just don't think the ring would matter in any case:)
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13 Nov 07
I've been married almost 8 years and I haven't worn my ring since our honeymoon. I was 3 months pregnant and after that I swelled up just the slightest and the ring didn't fit anymore. With the weight I put on with 3 consecutive pregnancies it no longer fit and we didn't have the money to have it fixed. That was my diamond. It was supposed to be an engagement ring but we didn't pay it off until the week before the wedding and couldn't afford 2 wedding bands so he got the band and I used my diamond ring as my wedding ring. I also didn't like wearing it after I had kids because the diamond would scratch them and snag on their clothes. Now it is a moot point. We were moving this summer and I had to go out of town in July. I told our landlady I would be back to pack up our stuff and we would be out by the end of August. When I went back at the beginning of August she had gotten impatient and taken/tossed most of our things. Someone stole the antique candy dishes that were full of change and our wedding rings so we don't have them any more. Neither of us ever wore them. My husband wore his occasionally when we went out and sometimes I wore his (it fit me better then it fit him). Now neither of us has a ring.
10 Nov 07
I'm married for 15 years come December 30,2007. We had a wedding ring because a church wedding has a part where couples put rings on each others ring in the ceremony. I lost mine after about 3 years while gardening. My husband must have pouned the ring when he got short of cash and now we both wear no rings. LOL... I don't know maybe the essence of the wedding rings are only good at ceremonies and get lost womewhere over time, for some reasons. It does not mean we fell out of love in our case, I dont know in others.
6 Nov 07
Yes, I do wear and i have been wearing it for the past 15 years. It is a 9 stone (navaratna - nava = new, ratna = precious stones) ring with pearn on top (that being my birth stone) and I have a belief that if I wear this all the time and it is protecting me or I believe so.