would you let your partner meet his ex?

@djmarion (4898)
Philippines
November 6, 2007 9:57pm CST
here's the scenario, the former flame or ex of your partner want to meet his/her. would you allow it to happen? i mean would you allow your girlfriend/boyfriend to meet her/his ex? need your opinion.
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11 responses
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
7 Nov 07
I would... but on if i will be there during the meeting...i would definitely want to meet his ex and is curious on the reason why they would or should meet... it will also be a good way to find out a different side and a past of my partner that can eventually strengthen our relationship...
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@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
9 Nov 07
why do you want to be present during their meeting? does it mean you dont trust your partner enough to let them meet without you?
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
as i stated... it is partly because i am curious on why they should meet... i would be a hypocrite if i say that i wouldn't feel a tinge of jealousy... i trust my partner of course... but curiousity would definitely give more way...
• India
7 Nov 07
i would definitley allow my boy friend to meet his ex... though he doesnt have one... i will cause i know that he loves me so much... and that he wont cheat me... i will go with him if they dont mind... but if they do mind my presence there... i would stay away... but i will definitley ask my boy friend what happened... or what they spoke about.... not that he wont tell me... but still... i will also give them a time limit of an hour or so.... not more than that... and i will make sure that the next time they meet i will be around... and that she doesnt have any sort of influence on him after their meeting.
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@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
thank you for that good reasoning pearl, i always like women with open mind.
@rsa101 (37966)
• Philippines
7 Nov 07
I think my wife did that once already with my consent. I did not come with them and it went okay in the long run. I believe they were able to close the relationship and the guy was also showing that he is moving on already as he brought with him his partner. My wife was also surprised with the transformation of his ex. The feeling was not very good for me as I was not there all I can do was trust my wife to do that and so far I believe that was the end of their past. I do not know what circumstances you and your hubby has in relation to your current relationship so I could not recommend that you do what I did but as for me it went well, me and my wife are still together stronger and trusting one another the best we could.
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@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
9 Nov 07
thanks for that great sharing rsa101, i like what you did and i admire you for your trust to your wife. good luck on your relationship. :)
• United States
7 Nov 07
Of course I would let him, I don't control who he chooses to associate with. However, due to personal past experiences with his exes, I would have to insist on accompanying him.
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@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
7 Nov 07
Yes. I have no problem with it. I have no right to tell a grown person what they should do and how to live their life. They're not my child I can't forbid them from doing anything so if they want to see their ex that's their decision. I am secure in who I am and won't stop them.
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@laurika (4532)
• United States
7 Nov 07
I would if it would be his ex wife, yeah I have no problem with that.We already have meeting like taht because he has two kids with her and thye have to discussun many things. And I am not worried about this, becuase she is married again and my finacce have me, so I don't know why i should not allow him to go. I trust him or maybe I know how they can't stand each other, so that is maybe make me sure, it will be ok.
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@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
13 Nov 07
that was good, you know if i were on your situation to it would be ok also for me to have my man meet his ex.
@Terri_R (302)
• United States
7 Nov 07
Absolutely. Anytime, anywhere. Both my husband and I have "exs" that come to our home as well as us attending social events with them. Neither of us are jealous or insecure in our marriage so this is never a problem.
@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
13 Nov 07
I will not allow him to meet her ex, for me past is past, If that would happened,I will not allow him to see me anymore, I dont care about the feelings of her Ex, but we have to listen first what it is all about why they have to meet.
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
10 Nov 07
An understanding spouse should consider in bringing you in the meeting, and showing that he is sharing you as a partner. That's what I always said to my spouse.
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
I admit i am jealous person, so i would not let him meet his ex, i won't be comfortable with that set-up or meeting.
• Philippines
8 Nov 07
I trust my boyfriend enough to let him meet up with his ex. But of course I would want to know about it; I wouldn't want to hear about it from other people. Sometimes I meet up with guys who have been more than my friends (not necessarily an ex-boyfriend), but are now close friends. But I let my boyfriend know that we're just meeting up as friends and he doesn't need to worry about anything because at this point in my life, I love him and only him. I feel that he loves me and only me as well and I am stable enough in our relationship to let him meet up with any of his exes. As long as he doesn't plan to rekindle old flames.