Sometimes Sorry Just isn't good enough
By missbdoll
@missbdoll (1165)
Australia
November 7, 2007 1:59am CST
A bit over a week ago I ran into a former freind at another freinds place and he apologised to me aqbout the way he had treated me,bare in mind all this took place well over a year ago!he'd ripped me off and caused a lot of trouble for me.He's seem me many times since than and has never bothhered to say sorry, and it seems he's only doing it now cause his health is bad and he needs an operation.And the freind who's place we were at had convinced him to do it I think.She said as much after he left.
This guy said if were going to keep being in the same places I had to just put out of my head what had happened. Now I almost feel mad because he just wants to be of the hook.But because of this guy I no longer trust anyone and I've totaly lost my confidence. He went on so much that I said if he really ment why not just try to be a decent freind and he said if he came thru this he would.Do people really change that much?And this man really doesn't seem to have freinds, only people that are some use to him
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7 responses
@MGjhaud (23078)
• Philippines
10 Nov 07
In my case maybe but I tend not to keep hatred in my heart how ever I hate the person because it’ll be a burden on my shoulder. I don’t like living my life everyday knowing there’s this person I have bad terms with. Maybe I’ll take the sorry and forget all about it.
@spacecreature (114)
• United States
7 Nov 07
I think people can change depending on weather or not they want to. Now if your friend convinced him to apologize then it probably wasn't meant. It sounds to me like he really isn't sorry he just done it to make another friend happy and not mad at him.
@citygirl (1080)
• Canada
7 Nov 07
bdoll, it would be gracious if you accept his apology , other wise he will have another reason to try to slam you. But accepting his apology doesn't mean you have to be friends with this person. In fact you now know what kind of person he is , so I would accept his apology but remain aloof to him and not get sucked in again. That would make you the bigger better person. Good luck to you.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
7 Nov 07
its true. there are many people who have done so much damage to us and then just say sorry once.
It is worth not just a sorry.
The same thing happened to me too.
One so called friend acted very bad with me and then send a message forgive me. i'll not keep in touch with you anymore.
can it be so easy? he has done a great damage and now says sorry.
@askwebman (31)
• India
7 Nov 07
When someone has caused you so much pain earlier why even bother to to discuss him.
Best thing is to ignore such a person and not even discuss about him.there are all kinds of people in this world and if we keep thinking about one person who has done something bad then life will really be hell.
@menctomas (278)
• Philippines
7 Nov 07
hi missbdoll,
you know what, this year that happened to me... a different kind of hurt because my friend did not rip me off, however, she used me and treated me very badly. because i was getting ahead in my career, i think she felt a bit insecure. she was a very close friend and the things she did really made me cry. however, another friend gave me advice and i am passing it on to you. until you let go of what's happen, i mean really let go, you will not be able to move on with a lot of things. forgiving doesn't necessarily mean forgetting. do not think you are doing anything for your friend. think about this way, you are doing it for yourself
