Do you think in marriage women are expected to compromize more?

Oh, absolutely, even in marriages where the husband is really enlightened, I'm sure this is true is most cases. It is like the old time actor Fred Astaire who is very famous for his dancing and my husband points out that the women who danced with him had to be as skilled as he was but they did it backwards in high heels. I do think guys are pretty much indoctrinated right from the crib to take and have what they want, whereas I think girls are brainwashed into believing that compromising is what women are "good" at. In English, at least, and I choose English because that is the language I know best, many words have a different implication based on whether it is a man or woman being described. For example, a woman is called "stubborn" and criticized for insisting on what is right, but a man who does the exact same thing is called "resolute" and praised. If we complain, the response is "What are you complaining for, you are better off than most women!" First of all, I don't know that to be true, and second, what difference does it make? Life should be FAIR, not just a little better than how we think it might be somewhere else.

hi friend, what you have quoted is true , its good to see such a thing coming from men, as generally i ahvent seen a men realising these kind of things , and i feel even if they realise they wouldnt loose or bend their ego by saying any thing like this. Well i think the women would always be ready to compromise on anything but her hubbys love and trust. As she can face anything but she wont bear her hubby going againt her.A women after marriage has to compromise with her relation in her maternal side and then she has to listen and adopt things happening at her in laws side.If she is carreer oriented than she ahs to compromise in that. She has to manage her kids and do evrythng related to the kids the husband has to just earn thats it. Very lucky are the women who get understanding husbands.

I don’t think so because in my parent’s case, my father compromises more than my mother hehe… He loves my mother so much that he never mind her if she’s irritating, he just plays the cool guy effect. :) From my past relationships, I think both compromises fairly in any situation and I think it should really be both generally.

The men I've known have had huge egos and some have had low self esteem to go with it or else they have performance anxiety. Women being the nurturers they are...I'm generalising here, try to make up for the failing s of their men and are prepared to take a step back if they must so their mate can feel good about himself. There are not many men who could even begin to cope with the fact that their woman is smarter, more hard working, more skilled and talented...better than them in practically every way. A lot of men don't even compromise. They take it for granted that their wife will go to work, care for the children, take care of the house and provide family meals every day. All they feel obliged to do is take out the garbage and mow the lawn, clean the pool andf drive the car if the family has an outing. Unfortunately it's the women of the world who have created this situation. Mothers should train their sons differently and not do everything for them...I'm generalising still. Just my 2 cents, *,*

Hello dear subha. I agree with you that in marriage women are expected to compromise more, which is true indeed. There are quite some capable women who are more talented than their loved ones and they are making good fortune for the family together with their loved ones. But it seems that women sacrifice more for their family so far as fortune-making is concerned. They give up their jobs and stay home to be a home-working mom and wife, taking good care of the family. Whatever situation it is, I respect women of whatever options they have. Thanks and I am very sorry for this belated response as it was just dug out from one of the bottom pages of my email notification. I hope that you won't mind my being late for this response.

Well, they should promise the same, and I do think women are playing more and more important roles in the world now. Andy

i completely agree with you... husband and wife should give and take in a fair way... me and my hubby always practice this... there are times that i will give in... but there are times that he will give in to me... there is no way that i will always give in to him... and he never stop me to work and pursue my career as well... in fact, he supports me whole-heartedly... and i do the same to him... this is what we call mutual respect...

I think it depends on society and culture.In india and some asian countries womens are compromising more.But,in western countries it is not true.My vision is that,both members has to compromice and understand each other for a better future and happy life.

I think it depends on society and culture.In india and some asian countries womens are compromising more.But,in western countries it is not true.My vision is that,both members has to compromice and understand each other for a better future and happy life.

I think it depends on the situation and the people involved. This is not the case for everyone. For some, maybe it is. For others, it is not. My husband encourages me to see what else I can do and where I could move up. I have the college degree out of the both of us and I am working on my career experience now. He does not want me to sell myself short.

Since I've been married, I have noticed that people do except you to compromise more than before I was married. The good thing is my husband is not one of those people. The funny thing is that my grandmother is one of those people. But she's from "the old country" so it isn't surprising that some of her views are a bit old fashioned.

Both should compromise in marriage. The equality between men and women in our society shuld be implemented. Men should not over power women and thats where abuse starts amongst us women. It must be justified.

Hi! I think in the marriage,both of the two need to compromise in many cases. In some families,women compromise more.But there're also some families in which men compromise more. I just think it's important to consider for each other. We should have a fair and equal feeling that nobody is assumed to compromise more.If the two wanna go for the whole life,then they should communicate with each other more often and solve the problems.We need to give out things while we're accepting.

i think that depends.

No, I don't think that women are expected to compromise more in a marriage than men are. Both men and women should be able to compromise with eachother when it comes to having a successful relationship and marriage. If one person is having to compromise a lot more in the marriage than the other person, whether they're male or female, then there's problems in the marriage that need to be addressed.

No, I don't see it that way at all. And honestly, if a woman is seeing her life that way, that she's expected to compromise more than her partner, then she married the wrong man. If anything, my husband has sacrificed much more than me, and he's done so willingly. He works 60 hours a week so that I can stay home with our kids, a decision we both made. While I'm where I want to be, at home raising my kids, putting my career off because this time with my kids was much more important to me, he has to sacrifice that time spent with his children. He has to give up a ton of time and energy to allow me to stay at home and raise our kids. No, I was never expected to compromise more than my husband. Him loving me and working his tail off to ensure my happiness doesn't allow for that. And no woman should settle for less.

Not necessarily. Gone are the days for a lot of people where the man "wears the pants" in the family and what he says goes. There are many relationships where the woman is making the decisions as well. I'm not married but I feel in my relationship that my boyfriend gives me the decision making power he just goes along with what I say. Why he does this I don't know. I do get his opinion but I'm usually the one doing everything. Maybe he does it to please me or he does it because he doesn't like making decisions I don't know exactly. Each relationship is different.

Hi! Unfortunatly there´s still a lot of people who feels that way. That fact can support the idea that there´s a lot of man that are not compromising enough (just hear a woman complain). I totally agree with you: Both should respect each other and compromise the more they can, share tasks, responsabilities, and of course, good and bad moments. I realy think that before getting married a woman should "test"/ make a trial of her future husband to check on his type of thinking about these subjects. They both should discuss their ideas of what a marriege is, and how much they want to invest in it. If they do this before getting married maybe they can avoid many surprises. Martosi.