U ever had feelings for someone but could NOT reveal ?

Saudi Arabia
November 7, 2007 4:13am CST
Have you ever had feelings for someone but you could not tell him ? u ever been a secret admirer of anyone ? but you could not tell him/her ??? as for me yes, and believe me it is really not easy, what about you, share your experience here. NoTe: I ain't talking here about a psycho being obessessed by someone that he'd chase and annoy her/him, bla bla I am just talking about you having feelings for a person whom you can't reveal these feelings 2.
1 person likes this
14 responses
@ebtenorio (765)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
If I were you, reveal your feelings to that someone... I did.. but, take note, be sure that you are ready to what would the person might say when you reveal your feelings, for it will be too hurting at a start when rejected. Me, rejected or not, it does not matter.... as long as I love her very much and that I love purely without any malintentions, it would be enough... as what I have been saying to other posts, "WHAT REWARD SHALL WE RECEIVE IF WE ONLY LOVE THOSE THAT LOVE US?" right? Be courageous enough in manifesting and showing your love... This is your hope: that person might learn loving you because you manifested your real YOU. Ok? God bless you.
• Saudi Arabia
12 Nov 07
Thank you my friend for the encouraging and nice words, I do appreciate the effort you put in your reply, you are right, but the question is what if your or the other person's circumstances won't allow you to do so? there are lines we can't cross sometimes, what if the other person is married or engaged? what if you're committed as well? u know what I mean things aren't as easy as they may seem to be. Thank you for your response ...
• Saudi Arabia
12 Nov 07
Thank you my friend for the follow up comments. The point is: We're not here discussing what's right and wrong or sins coz ethics and values are almost clear to everyone, but what we're saying here what if it happened.
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
I am glad you did appreciate what I wrote. If the person is already engaged, then the only thing to do is to stop feeling that feeling, for it would be a sin. and if you were the one who is engaged, be truthful to that person and be faithful with her/him. Always follow the laws of God and you won't be lost. I know it will be very hard for you... but then, endurance might somehow have a reward in a day we know not. Keep believing, be loving but be sure we are not sinning ok? I'll be here for you if you wanted help.. God bless you... :D
@cobradene (1171)
• India
7 Nov 07
I had feelings for my childhood friend who also happened to be my neighbour. We both had feelings for each other, but I guess the time just wasn't right for us to express it considering the societal prejudices and beliefs and also parental pressure and stuff. Well, I had nurtured the feeling for around 6 years. But it never came through.
• Indonesia
7 Nov 07
you'll never knew what might gonna happends if you tell her your feelings ... you can predict and have your own prejudice and judgement about the future that's gonna happend if you do that, but still, you'll never knew .. .
• Saudi Arabia
10 Nov 07
You know my friend, you have mentioned factors that can not be overlooked easily social prejudices, religion and parents' views, I know it is pretty hard when you just don't have the chance to reveal these feelings to the one you admire but by the way, did you ever feel she had feelings for you ? Thanx my friend for your valuable comments.
2 people like this
@cobradene (1171)
• India
11 Nov 07
I never had the chance to reveal my feelings, but she and her mother both knew I had feelings for her and I had a feeling her mother wanted us to be together as well. But, as I told you, I had settled down with a good job and I was only 22 and she was a year older to me and according to Indian society, that's the age a girl is expected to get married, which so sad. Had I revealed my feelings, I would've been damned by everybody. It was a small town where people had conservative thinking. The city is far more different. Anyway, I guess she did have faint feelings for me. But she went for the better one, who had a nice job. :)
• Saudi Arabia
8 Nov 07
hi my friend.. As for me i have never been in such a situation, and i'm not sure if i will... but i think if someone has feelings for another he/she has to tell, it's worth the try what if the other person feels the same.... i know it's not easy but still it's worth it even if she said no at least you would know... wish you the best :)
• Saudi Arabia
10 Nov 07
Well sometimes it isn't fear only, I mean fear from being rejected it is sometimes coz neither ur situation or hers allow revealing such feelings, it is a delicate matter, Princess :D
@eskay007 (72)
• Israel
7 Nov 07
Yes and I regretted not having the courage to go and tell her. Women are blessed with a kind of magical powers call it charisma, confidence or something like that it requires great courage really to approach them! I remember the number of times that I used to tell myself "just go ahead and talk to her, she is just a girl" but when I try to go, my confidence tends to get punctured and I ended up not going! lol
• Saudi Arabia
10 Nov 07
I have been there before, it is okey my friend, it is just some people can not take the initiative to do so, but with time they improve, I am like that as well, I didn't improve much though :D thanx for sharing that with us my friend.
@eno222 (93)
• Nigeria
9 Nov 07
yes lot of times,but now i have the courage to walk up and open up
• Saudi Arabia
10 Nov 07
This would be great my friend, it is real cool to overcome such a hurdle coz not all the people can reach that. I am glad for you. Thanks a lot for your reasponse, see you around.
• United States
7 Nov 07
Ah yes, a few years ago I had very strong feeling for a man who was one of my closest friends. He was in a bad marriage when I met him. I kept my feelings secret for 2 years! He was married after all. It was absolute torture, his wife was openly running around with other men( It had been that way for many years). All I could do was be there for him, listen to him. Of course the whole time I am thinking he deserves so much better! (like me, hehe). He always asked for advice and of course I told him he had to do what he thought was right. Such a hard situation. I refused to be a "home wrecker", so I just prayed he would someday listen to his friends and family, who all told him to finally divorce her. Well, long story short, he did divorce her and it wasn't long after, that to my great shock, he admited his feelings for me! We are married now, and I thank god every day that I kept my feeling a secret as long as I did. Sometimes you just have to cross your fingers and wait.
• Saudi Arabia
10 Nov 07
chrystal2277 very much thank you for sharing your story with us, I respect the fact you did not want to be home wrecker, It is a tough situation when someone falls in love with a married person, it isn't an easy situation to handle coz at the end of the day you don't want to be a factor in wreckoning that marriage. I guess you dealt with it wisely, wish you all the best in your marriage.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
7 Nov 07
Hhmm no not that I can think of...I mean I've always been pretty openmouthed about my thoughts, feelings for ppl etc whether its liking someone or DISliking someone for that matter LOL.
• Saudi Arabia
10 Nov 07
lol Great although in some situation it is really hard and not easy to tell the other person, sometimes reason comes from your side and sometines because of things from the other person's side. Thanks for the response.
@nangel78 (1454)
• United States
7 Nov 07
This happened to me when I was younger. As a teenager, I would often get crushes, but never said anything. I was too embarassed by what would happen in the long run. So I usually stayed quiet.
• Saudi Arabia
10 Nov 07
I hear you it happened to too many people and it is more hard if it happened to you when you're at older age or committed. Thanx 4 ur response ...
• Indonesia
7 Nov 07
hmmm ... more than 10 years ago, i have a crush on some girl, but i never told her since my cousin's also like her. eventually the girl make some relations with someone else, not me nor my cousin. the truth is that i don't have enough self confidence on that time, and making my cousin's as an excuse to justify my act not to tell her that i have a crush on her. It's more like the feelings from hunchback of notredame to esmeralda ... i knew that she deserves someone far better than me. (she's extra ordinaryly rich, so pretty and charming) for now, i've grown up, i learn something that it's not a fault or mistake to fall in love to someone ... but it's a huge fault and big mistake to fall in love to someone and letting him/her don't know that i love him/her everybody deserves to fall in love, be in love, being loved, and also everybody have their own rights to choose their own love life ...
• Saudi Arabia
10 Nov 07
I guess sometimes we do fail to tell the other person for various reasons and I guess your main reason was you weren't sure whether ur feelings for that gurl were mutual or not, you were kinda afraid of rejection. Your cousin might have come as a secondary reason or alibi or whatever you may call it. I have been there before, it is not easy when you don't have the guts to tell someone you admire her. Thank you my friend for sharing your experience with us.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
7 Nov 07
It happened with me many a times, I could not reveal my feelings to someone, whom I used to like.
• Saudi Arabia
7 Nov 07
Yeah true, it happens to many people, not an easy situation to be honest. Thanx 4 the response.
7 Nov 07
hi there my friend. No, I don’t operate this way. If I have "feelings" for someone, I must tell her and cease my chance, when I am sure of course of my feelings. If I don’t, then I might loose that chance forever. I once passed on a chance with a beautiful girl once when I decided to shut up and don’t tell her. when I finally gathered my strength and picked myself up to tell her, she was gone. I am still kicking myself for doing that. Oh well, my loss. As for admiration, yes. I have admired a person for a very very long time. but its not about that I cant tell her or anything, but I think admiration is in the heart, and think she knows that. so why bother? she is a good, loyal friend and I know I will loose a lot if I allowed her feelings or mine to develop to the next step.
• Saudi Arabia
10 Nov 07
Yes but sometimes your or her situation doesn't allow you to do so. Let's say you have fallen in love or let me say admired a woman who is already committed to someone else (I know you're gonna say probably then I should not think of her in the first place) yes, I agree with you but what if it happenend? you know in this life, $h*t happens, so that's why sometimes people keep their feelings for themselves. I fully understand it when you said you'll lose a lot if you allowed her feelings or urs crawl into your heart or develop. Well that wasn't exactly what you said but it is exactly what you meant except using the word crawl, it is one of my specialties i like use it i dont know why and i guess that isn't what we're talking about here huh. Thanks a lot my dear friend for your participation, I do appreciate it.
@MarieJ23 (1040)
• United States
7 Nov 07
I had a feeling like this for someone during my high school years but I don't have all the guts to tell him. Well it was more of an admiration than infatuation crush because of his big music inclination.When we were in college i knew from a friend that he likes me so much too but he told her he'll wait til we get in college because he knows I don't want to be in a relationship not until I became 18. Since we studied in different universities so we weren't able to communicate right away. We saw each other sometimes during our 2nd year in college but I have my first bf that time already.
• Saudi Arabia
10 Nov 07
You know something Marie, sometimes time would not be on ur side, and i am not quite sure whetehr (out of sight out of mind) is always true or not, but who knows how things could have been if feelings between you two developed, well all I can say wish you luck with whom your heart has chosen. Thanx 4 ur response and lookin 4ward 2 see u around.
• Romania
7 Nov 07
Yes, it happened with me for many times..
• Saudi Arabia
10 Nov 07
Thanx 4 the response.
• United States
7 Nov 07
I have had feelings for someone and I could not tell him because he is in a relationship with someone. And no it is not easy for me because I see this person every day and work with this person and his girlfriend.
• Saudi Arabia
10 Nov 07
I guess this is a hard situation, I don't blame you, it is not easy to have feelings for a committed person whether he's married or not. But it is really a sensitive issue especially you see him and his girlfriend everyday at work. Thank you for your response ....