Boy or girl does it matter?

baby boy - my son only few hours old
Australia
November 7, 2007 7:38am CST
I often hear coments like: congratulation on your baby boy all you need now is a girl, or, what you have 3 girls so when are you going to try for a boy?. But does it really matter what gender the kids are? Would I love a daughter more than I love my son? Would it make a huge difference had I had girl instead of a boy?
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@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
7 Nov 07
Hello Dear!!I start to be ill ,as we say here, when someone ask me how we deal with 5 daughters?What your hubby think about that?O poor Dear you have only daughters!Be careful maybe he find some other ,and she will give him a boy!!Yes dear,I know you are not responsible!!That is God will!There are some sentence and questions from all kind of people but most from women!!For me the only important thing is to have healthy child!!Regards Silvana
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@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
8 Nov 07
Hi Dear!!Thanks!! Regards Silvana
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@SViswan (12071)
• India
9 Nov 07
Though I would have loved to have a girl and a boy, I have two lovely boys. People keep asking me to try for a girl all the time. It doesn't really matter what gender your baby is and what gender you were hoping for. Once the baby is out, they are yours and you love all of them whatever the gender.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
9 Nov 07
Though I'm not one of them, I know people who have tried till they have got the gender of their choice and some who didn't even after 3-4 attempts. But that hasn't changed their love for their other children.
• Australia
9 Nov 07
So what do you say when people ask you to try for a girl?
@SViswan (12071)
• India
10 Nov 07
Depends on who it is. Sometimes I just smile it off (no point arguing or explaining)...sometimes I just tell them 'I'm done with two' or we might consider adopting (which we really are) or sometimes just brush them with off with 'We don't have the money to have more kids!'.
• United States
7 Nov 07
dear violeta-va, i don't believe when people say that to you that it is meant to be taken verbatim. it is an old-school phrase of something to say cordially to a mother. kind of like, the more the merrier. people know how much you love your child and their wish for you (by making that statement) is that they would like to see you give all your love also to another little baby so they will also have an opportunity to be loved by you, and experience all the love which the other child of yours has too.
• Australia
7 Nov 07
no there are actually people who think that a mother that has 3 girls would not be happy untill she has a boy. Or I have met people that say I have a boy but I will keep trying untill I have a girl. They even do gender selection before kids a born now days. And lots of people ask about old wifes recepies to have a certain gender.
• United States
7 Nov 07
i guess you're right then. i know for sure that in certain cultures, for example, in India, that it is preferred to have a son first in order for that son to head up the family and take care of the mother etc. when he is grownup. also, i think in china, they actually abort baby girls during pregnancy as i think that country china only allows 2 babys per family.,so they go ahead and kill girls until they get the desired boy. crazy, but why get yourself all concerned about so many things that other people say to you...that is just THEIR OPINION and you have your OWN OPINION about stuff. don't spend so much time obsessing over what other people think about what is ultimately your own personal business...you will be so much more content in life and free from the watchful eyes of others!!
• Australia
7 Nov 07
i didnt say it botheres me when they say it to me I was talking in general as in making a discussion that is why we are here.
• India
13 Nov 07
Gender Identification during the pregnancy has been banned in my country,..due to the discrimination that is being shown towards the girl child. Infact in one part of the my state, ( In Tamil nadu, India) their is a village, in which the mother or the grand parents kill the female baby as soon as it is born by poisioning. Geez.... What a harsh thing on the world..? And with the practice being brought to the government's notice, this cruelty has considerably been reduced.. but people say it still happens.. Take care Violeta_Va..^__^:)
• Australia
14 Nov 07
Yes I am aware of this practice and it makes me sad and angry. It is good that the gov is doing something but when people want to do it (kill the girs) they will still do it.
• Romania
8 Nov 07
I do not think it is a huge difference ....but you know how man thinks...they want a boy....a man for the house...and women like to have a girl....
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
8 Nov 07
People should not say to someone with three girls, when are you going to have a boy or vice versa.. That is just rude. It doesn't make a difference at all.
• Australia
9 Nov 07
well to some people it does I know someone wh left his wife the day she gave birth to their 4th daughter.
• United States
8 Nov 07
I have a boy and I am currently pregnant and I am hoping that its a girl. I want the experience of raising both genders, plus I really wanna be able to dress a little girl up and do her hair really cute. But if I end up having another boy I will be ok with it ! As long as the baby is healthy is all that really matters ! !
• Australia
9 Nov 07
That is exacly the thing as long as it is healthy thats what matters
@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
8 Nov 07
I know someone who already had 2 boys. When she knew she would have again a boy, she cried. But right now she's really happy with her boy, but thinking of maybe trying again. But she's not sure. Of crouse that if you already have a boy or a girl, you want t have the little couple. But everyne will love their children no matter what gender they are :)
• Australia
8 Nov 07
I just read that you are expecting so congratulation on that. I know most people dont mind what the gender is and most people do wish to have a boy or a girl but to say some of the things I have heard its just wrong.
@peanutjar (5211)
• Canada
7 Nov 07
It does not matter to me as long as they are heathy.But before i became pregnant with my daughter i always wanted a girl,the feeling was soo storng for this and when i found out i was having a girl i was soo happy and beside myself.Now if i ever get pragnant again(hopefully)it does not matter to me at all if its a girl or boy.I just wanted my first to be a girl and everyone said its impossible because the whole family(boyfriends)side is ALL boys,7 boys exact(brothers)my boyfriend is the second to the last that was born and his brothers all had boys except for one who had 2 gilrs and a boy.I was soo sick of hearing its a boy,boy,boy,boy!:{I knew somehow that it was a girl very early before the doctors could possibly tell.Instincts and intuition i gues,haha.Boy did they get fooled!!Even when i had proof and a picture of "her"parts they didnt believe me mostly the mother in law didnt and argued,shes old and set in her old ways so there you go,haha. Peanutjar:)
• Australia
7 Nov 07
I totaly understand that to wish for a boy or a girl but to say I will not stop until I have it its like saying well yeah I have a girl but I am not happy about it. I know this family that just had a baby girl (well she is probably a year old now) she was the first girl in the family in over 100 years can you imagine that. Not a single girl. As in the great great parents had all boys, the boys had boys, and so on. I can understand that and man she is the most spoiled kid on the planet.