would you date or marry someone who came from a divorce?

Philippines
November 7, 2007 10:35pm CST
wouldn't you get scared that it will happen with your relationship too?
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@elisa812 (3026)
• United States
8 Nov 07
I used to think that it would scare me too much to marry someone who had been divorced, but now I actually am married to someone who came from a divorce! lol I am not worried about it at all though with my husband because we have a really great relationship and it's something that we've discussed a lot, and he is always telling me all the things about our marriage that are so much better than his first one and how the mistake of his first marriage helped him to realize what he actually wanted in a marriage. Also, the reason they got divorced was her fault because she was unfaithful, so I'm not worried about having it happen to our marriage :)
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• Philippines
8 Nov 07
wow, congratulations elisa, i'm pretty sure you're so happy right now. :o) maybe that's the advantage of coming froma failed marriage, you know how to handle the relationship better.
@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
9 Nov 07
Actually I did marry someone whos been divorced...Mind you he wasnt divorced when I met him and started dating him but he and his first wife were estranged...Am i worried the same will happen to us? No not at all..I mean if for whatever reason we end up going our seperate ways then its for a reason and is as it should be...
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• Philippines
10 Nov 07
thanks for sharing!!!
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
9 Nov 07
If I LOVE on the person, then I don't think I'd feel scared out of it. Everyone deserves to love someone and be loved by someone, sometimes there are reasons why people ends up into this situation. Of course, we have to get and know more about each other before jumping into a more seroius relationship. There's a process everyone needs to undergo with, a sort of step by step procedure to avoid more complications.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
9 Nov 07
Sorry for the TYPO, it should be "If I find Love on the person."
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
Yes, not because the man has not been married then he would be a good husband when the time comes. Someone from divorce might have a better maturity since he learned what causes divorce. I believe you should know the reason of divorce, if the reason is he hit or abuse his wife or children or he is irresponsible then you should think twice. But if you dont see anything bad like that, then maybe its just that things dont work well.
@blueunicorn (2401)
• United States
9 Nov 07
I did marry a man that was divorced. I was divorced, too, though so I couldn't say too much. I think in a way, having gone through the first divorce has made my husband more determined to make this one right. His first divorce was no fault of his own. He fought like crazy to keep it alive but his wife wanted to move on to other men. I really think you would need to look at the reasons for the divorce before answering this question. Each circumstance is different.
• China
8 Nov 07
no ,i will never date or marry such a man, as a traditional chinese, i have heared of too much things about that, most of them don't feel happy.
• India
8 Nov 07
happen is happen forget about it.start ur carrier from the begining