Give all you got until it hurts? Until you're a one armed paper hanger?

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My bf has given me everything that I have needed and that he could afford for the last 5 mos. That is not to say that I haven't made some of my own money here and there in the process,but for the last little while he has intentionally become my main means of support, in support of me working on my degree. Now I am not one to shirk my responsibilities but I must admit it has been nice to slack a little with the understanding that any time it began to wear on him he could let me know and I could kick it back into gear if we needed me to. Well I have always known that the man does not know how to ask for or allow someone to help him, though he helps everyone else 100% of the time. Yesterday he called me from work to let me know that he broke his wrist. I have never felt so helpless in my life, not being able to at least go to him and be with him while he got x-rays etcetera. The guy that he works with took care of him as much as he would allow anyway. He drove himself home afterwards with his exrays and the wrist in a brace until Monday when he needs to go and have it set . He is an independant contractor, so even though he fell off of a ladder at work, he is financially responsible and when he isn't working he DOESN'T GET PAID. In fact when he broke his collar bone about 4 years ago he went back to work the next week and wouldn't allow his friends to help or even to come and see him. HE WAS A TOTAL GRUMP-BUTT!. However I now live with him, and I feel that it is time for me to get up off of my RIPE ROUND RUMP and get back to hustling, or if push came to shove I am willing to go help him with his job. I have some experience with it as I was married to another contractor who specialized in hanging wallpaper also about 10-11 years ago. The point is, I am not even asking to get paid for my help or what not. I just don't want him to cripple himself trying to work as a one armed paper hanger. I am going to suggest this this morning to him and see what he says. Wish me luck ya'll. He has already rebuffed ot her ideas that I came up with to get us through this period and keep our bills paid. For now it is keep all eyes on the prize time. In other words time to work as a team or we won't make it. I hope his pride won't be our downfall!