unfaithful partners!

@ladylety (344)
United States
October 28, 2006 12:36pm CST
When your partner admits he has cheated on you should you ever take him back??
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11 responses
• United States
28 Oct 06
Again, it depends on you. And your situation. Are you married to this person? If I were married to them, then there is no way I could live with that betrayal. You have to ask yourself if that is something you could live with. Don't even bother wondering if you could forgive and forget, because that will NEVER happen. You may be able to forgive and move on, but you will not be able to forget, believe me. And if you can't forgive them, then you need to cut your losses and move on now, before you realize five or ten years from now that you just can't move past it and you've wasted such a big part of your life. Good luck, and I'm truly sorry you have to deal with this :(
@ladylety (344)
• United States
28 Oct 06
No we were not married we did live together for six years and you are right it is impossible to forget!!
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@econger (164)
• United States
28 Oct 06
I think this is really only something the parties involved can answer, for themselves, because they are the only ones who really know how they are handling the situation. But I also think they need to look in to the reason it happened in the first place. Trouble in the marriage? Husband who doesn't care whether or not he hurts his wife? Some outside influence that needs to be removed? There are a lot of reasons. These situations can be rectified under the right circumstances and if both parties are willing to work at it. I think in the end there really is no easy"yes or no" sort of answer.
• United States
28 Oct 06
You are so right that there is no easy answer, it has to be based on the individuals and the situation. I like your response.
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@Angelwriter (1955)
• United States
28 Oct 06
Well, do you think you can truly forgive him? Also, is this the first time, and do you think you can trust him not to do it again? If so, you might be able to take him back. It's a very difficult decision and I don't blame anyone who can't do so. But, some marriages do survive infidelity.
@ladylety (344)
• United States
28 Oct 06
right now, no! It's too recent and painful. Honetly no I don't think I will ever realy forgive him. To realy forgive you have to be strong enough to never bring it up again and keep holding on to it. I don't think humans are programed that way. It's impossible to forget a painful experiance.
@pjsparkle (147)
• United States
28 Oct 06
That really is a very tough question. Was this the first time?? If no than I would probably not take him back. If yes, what was the situation, a affair over a period of time or a one night stand. I don't think I could forgive the affair. But it really comes down to you. Can you get past the cheating to be able to forgive and move on, because if not it won't really work out. Just my thoughts.
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@ladylety (344)
• United States
28 Oct 06
He swears it was the only time. I did see the emails and that is what it said but I have so many doubts now.It was a one night stand with an old high school girlfriend but it was planned out. That , to me, changes the whole thing! Even if it was once, he planned it!!!
• United States
28 Oct 06
This is sort of the partners decision. I would not forgive this at all. As with anything else in life. You will allow it to be forgiven and it will happen again. This time in life with aids. Now I won't forgive and let live. There are some that look at things differently. To each his own. I don't care about the house,the money,the cars, nothing. The worse thing would be to stay for the kids. Trust and believe kids are not that fragile they are stonger than adults at times. Good luck to you
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@ladylety (344)
• United States
28 Oct 06
I agree, there is no price on your dignity and self respect.
@whitish (1408)
• India
28 Oct 06
IF HE IS ADMITTING HIS MISTAKE AND READY TO CORRECT IT HE SHOULD BE ADMITTED
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@ladylety (344)
• United States
28 Oct 06
I don't understand what you mean, he should be admited? Admitted to what?
• India
28 Oct 06
ya only if she or she admits...then its ok bcos he is willing to improve....othrwise if he is trying to cover up...kick hin
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@ladylety (344)
• United States
28 Oct 06
He did admit to it but it was when I found the emails, printed them out and confronted him? What could he say then I had proof! Before that he did lie to me and said he had never cheated!!
@grump0ne (981)
• United States
28 Oct 06
I believe everyone deserves a second chance. Unless you have reason to believe they wont change..if they do it again sry, they got to go. It would hurt for awhile, but time heals and there are more people out there who would treat you properly..
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@ladylety (344)
• United States
28 Oct 06
I do believe that everyone of us deserves a second chance when we make a mistake and hurt someone not intending to...but this was planned! It was a one time, one night thing but he planned it!
@heartonfire (4128)
• Denmark
28 Oct 06
i already did,because it has happened to me too and i considered we were both too young and unexperienced but i know i won't kdo it again next time
@britishyip (1614)
• India
28 Oct 06
how one can do this? if its done.. i wont allow them in my life at all.. m not gonna allow one to play with my self respect, dignity..
@ndevkate (182)
• India
28 Oct 06
No i wont take her back........if i be faithful to her i expect the same
@ladylety (344)
• United States
28 Oct 06
Yea, If we can be faithful why can't they?
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