HOW did you TELL your PARENTS you were having a BABY??

United States
November 14, 2007 6:54am CST
Sometimes a difficult thing to do, I know we are expecting a child in our household, our 19 year son told us the other day that his girlfriend is 8 weeks pregnant and that they are going to be married soon in preparation of the baby. In fact, she told her parents via email that she was pregnant. I know we all have stories of how we told our parents or how our children told us that they were expecting, any great stories out there??
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@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
I simply pick up the phone and told my mom i was pregnant of course theres nothing i can do the baby is there so they have to accept it whether they like it or not..its life inside you..
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• United States
14 Nov 07
Some people I think are scared what there parents will say, especially if they are young or not married, thanks for responding, it is truly appreciated.
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@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
Thank you so much.. Parents are parents ..they cant just let their daughters to be a history of Prodigal Daughters League..theres nothing we can do..Im a parent myself..if ever comes a point my own daughter have the same mistake then ill give her a hug and say everything will be fine. Some parents dont really understand..but you will see, once the baby is there they are the first ones holding and playing with it worst they say the baby looks like them coz they are the tree..we are just the roots LOL! Happy posting!
@youless (112142)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Nov 07
When I knew I was pregnant. I told my mom directly. And then she told my dad and then it seems that everyone knew it:)
• United States
14 Nov 07
Yeah that is pretty much how this went too, I think they had known for awhile but waited until they got the test results back to confirm it.
• India
15 Nov 07
I was 27 when I became pregnant with my child and we were married for 1½ yrs. my mom was prodding me to go for a child right after marriage, but we were not exactly prepared. He was an unplanned child and I was embarrassed to tell mom, to say the least. Mom and me were never very close before marriage and even after that, talking to her about the intimate details or problems of a married life was kind of taboo. She was just urging me to start a family as all mothers do, but I was really really embarrassed to tell her. Dad knew from her of course, I could not tell it to him myself. But now they are very proud grandparents of an 8yr old.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Sometimes the most unplanned pregancy turns out to be the best thing for us, thanks for sharing!
@emarie (5442)
• United States
15 Nov 07
WOW...the first time was pretty nerve racking. I had to drop a FULL ball on them. well. I had just finished High School and moved to another state with my sister (who was 8 years older then me) at the time, I was already pregnant. One of my work buddies was friends with my other sister and he told her that I was pregnant and then she told my other sister (the one I was moving in with) anywayz...about 2 months had passed and I had gone back home for a relatives wedding. My bf was in my home state as well and we figured at that time we would take my parents out to dinner and break the news in a nice public place where making a scene wouldn't be good, I also wanted to do it after my 3rd month so if my mom tried to ask me to abort it, it would be to late anyway. Well, I wanted my bf to talk and tell them. He's older then me and he said it would show my father that he was willing to take charge of the situation. Well, we had to tell them.... 1-I was actually dating this guy 2-He IS 14 years older then me 3-We're going to get married 4-I was pregnant at 17 They were pretty shocked and I tried not to look at them. My bf said that my father looked like he wanted to jump over the table and strangle him, but he didn't. It was so hard but my parents took it a good way. They were more concerned about me not being able to continue school (which i really didn't feel like doing, but thought everyone else wanted me to) and I assured her that he was a good man and would take care of me. 6 years latter I'm still here, and still married and managed to have another one. The 2nd time was a lot easier, but still dramatic for my mother.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Sometimes it is just hard for mothers to let go, she obviously loved you very much and both of your parents just didn't want to see you hurt, I am so glad it worked out for you, thanks for sharing!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Me? i just told my parents. the hardest one of all was when I was nearly 40 and a single mom of 3. That one was really tough because I was single and with all the others I'd been married and even then in a compromising situation. It all worked out...go with the truth.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
I think it is hard telling your parents anytime, but that could be just me, thanks for responding, it is truly appreciated
@taurus67 (176)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
for me just me honest & tell them the truth...'cos whether they like it or not they must admit that things already happen,just accept it...
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Good for you, thanks for responding
• Canada
15 Nov 07
My first was a secret til the very end, my Nanny told them after I was in hospital having her , I was too scared to tell them myself ...
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Awww ... well hopefully everything worked out for you
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
21 Dec 07
We couldnt wait for our only sister to tell us, we asked her if she was, and the answer yes was a shock to us, she wasnt married yet and getting a baby outside wedlock was/ and is still something our society looked at with scorn-later we accepted it and our sister delivered a beautiful baby girl-today she is a Medic graduate and is gracefully restoring health to the sick!
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
14 Nov 07
My daughter  - Taken during her modeling days a couple years ago.
First off let me say I married my wife for her money. HAHAHAHA! You'll understand in a little bit why and or how so. We tried for a few years to have a baby with no luck. many tests were done and we were both fertile enough. So we quit trying. Wouldn't you know it. She became pregnant with our daughter. Now we both had prat time minimum wage jobs. Not enough money to really have a baby finacially. But, we asked both our parents for help with a crib, playpen, bottles etc and they said, "You're not married we are not going to help you." We got married a month later and recieved checks from her mom for help with raising the baby. So I married my wife for her money. HAHAHAHA! This is our daughter. She is now 29 years old and a beauty.I can't believe she did this via email. Unreal and so impersonal. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
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• United States
14 Nov 07
That is too funny Bob, thanks for sharing
• United States
14 Nov 07
We were both 18 when I found out I was pregnant. I didnt tell my mom untill I had gone to the doctor to make sure. I called her and told her I needed to talk to her and could I come over? She said sure Ill be here. I went over and said I have something to tell you. She looked at me and said Your pregnant! My mouth dropped. I didnt know how she knew. Shes a mom and just did I guess. She was so excited she started screaming and jumping and hugging me. LOL. Im glad she didnt freak out. She just asked what we were going to do. I told her that my boyfriend was going to get a job and an apartment for us. She said if we needed anything just ask. Im also glad that he bucked up and took responcibility for the baby. Most 18 year old guys would have run the other way! We are still together and have 2 children together. Congrats on the baby and I hope everything works out for you and your son!
• United States
14 Nov 07
Amazing how mothers know these things, thanks for sharing, your family sounds wonderful
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
14 Nov 07
It is hard to tell your parents. I called my dad and inlaws. My older daughter got pregnant at 19 too. She kept denying anything. She did have a quickie little wedding. My nephew also got married just before the birth of their baby. I imagine that was a real blow to his mother who tried to control him all his life.
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• United States
14 Nov 07
I think these kids have known for a few weeks, I just hope that they do the right thing and get a place of their own (which I know they can't afford) and get married, which they already said they were planning on it ... aren't weddings fun?
• United States
21 Dec 07
I said to my mom "well im pregnant." At first she didnt believe me. So then i showed her the pregnancy test. She was like i dont know how to read it. And i had bought one of the digital tests. My dad was another story...i was kind of afraid to tell him. So my mom ended up telling him. I was guess i was just afraid that my dad would be angry with me and think that i was too young. But he soon got over it.
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
14 Nov 07
I found out I was pregnant with my son in September of 2001. Since I was going to visit my family in November, I decided to wait and tell my parents in person. I did tell my younger sister, but I swore her to secrecy. I was due in May. My older sister was also pregnant and due in March. So I was sitting in the kitchen with my mom and we were talking... and I said "so, are you ready for another grandkid in May?" She looked at me and said "you mean March," and I responded "no... in May." It took a minute, then she realized what I was telling her.
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• United States
14 Nov 07
What a wonderful way to tell, thanks for sharing
• India
15 Nov 07
i remember my mom askin my sister most of the time when she is gonna get pregnent. :)...and now has a daughter named Diya Regards Harry
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@edigital (2709)
• United States
14 Dec 07
More simple way is that told your mom that " you are going to be a grandmother" or told your father that "you are going to be a grandfather" or tell your sister that you ae going to be an "aunty soon" etc. This is not problem. If you feel not this way them buy some baby toy and keep in your room with a leaflet that "these are for my new coming baby"
@lbinkley (1075)
• United States
19 Dec 07
For my firstborn, my husband was the one that told my mom. We didn't know how she would react, we were only 20 and hadn't been married very long, and she had made it clear that she thought she was too young to be a grandma. So he just flat out said, so hows it going Grandma? She flipped out and was extrememly happy about it. Then she yelled at me for not telling her myself.. lol. With my daughter, I found out right before Christmas, so I took a picture of the positive rpegnancy test with my digital camera, attached it to an email, and the subject line said... yes, this is mine. I called my mom on Christmas morning and told her to go check her email it was really urgent. And that is how she found out, while I was still on the phone of course. Shewas thrilled again and said it was the best Christmas present ever!
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
14 Dec 07
I just called my mom over the phone and told her straight up she was going to be a grandma! We live far apart or else i would ahve gone over to her house and told her in person. The second time i got pregnant ( still am ) I flew home for a visit and i got to tell both my parents and my hubby's parents in person which was sort of awkward but nice too. It was mostly awkward because this pregnanct is so close to the last one.. but that's how the cookie crumbles!
18 Dec 07
I don't get on with my parents and i hardly ever talk to them anymore. I didn't tell them i was pregnant, they found out when they saw me a few months before i had my son. They don't even get to see him because they just like to cause problems. I am pregnant now, but they only found out because one of their friends saw me at hospital waiting for a scan. ~Joeys wife
@squaretile (3778)
• Singapore
14 Dec 07
well, in my country parents would be elated to hear that their kids have a child, so telling them would be a face to face thing and they'd probably be whooping with joy. however, if the circumstances are such that the baby is unexpected, out of wedlock, or to a very young parent, then my suggestion would be to inform the parents when they are sitting down, whether by phone or face to face. :) I think informing them via email is rather distant. unless the relationship is not a close one.
• Australia
14 Dec 07
i called my mum asking her for ideas on why i could be sick and she said that i was pregnant. at that stage i didnt even know. and my dad kinda just said that he had a feeling that i was pregnant