Which do you prefer,hearing I love you or the feeling of being loved?

United States
November 14, 2007 4:57pm CST
If you could only choose one, would you want a spouse/ partner who says I love you all the time but you don't feel the love? Or would you choose a spouse/ partner who rarely says I love you but you feel his/her love everyday?Well , I like the strong silent type so if he couldn't say the words but I could still Feel that he loves me, it would be okay.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
14 Nov 07
I would rather want my husband to do things for me to show how much he loves me, rather than mouth the words. Saying I love you, I know in the movies, the girl is disappointed, as Demi in Ghost was, but in reality it is the action that speaks, and besides a woman knows when her husband or boyfriend truly loves her and she does not need to hear those words.
• United States
14 Nov 07
Don;t get me wrong hearing I love you makes you feel good to hear every now and than. But they are just words, and actions speak louder than words. For me I would rather have the feeling of being loved. Because anyone can say I love you but to actually show it now thats something special. And lets not forget when our loved one says I love you constantly sometimes we end up taking them words for granted. So I would rather feel loved all the time and just hear i love you every now and than.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
I would rather be shown with actions that I am loved than to hear empty words. words are cheap loving actions take time and are worth so much more.
• China
15 Nov 07
I believe in the saying "action speaks louder than words" . My Hubby seldom says "I love you" to me, but I still feel the love. He often brings small presents to me and give me a surprise. He knows what I love, and what I do not love.
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@maverixk (15)
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
I prefer the feeling of being loved. It's because actions speak louder than words. What's the use of someone saying "I LOVE YOU" when you don't feel it, right? But of course, it would be better if you have both. You feel it. You hear it. And why choose if you cn have both? hahahaha!
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Words cannot truly express an emotion...someone can easily say to you how much they love you, but as long as the words are meaningless it's to no avail. I would rather feel I'm being loved than told so. On the other hand, I would rather have someone say "I hate you" then to feel their hatred. Words are deceiving, actions are not.
• United States
15 Nov 07
I agree.Knowing that someone hates you is better than feeling their hatred.
• India
17 Apr 08
Well i have the first type right now, he says "i love u" but i dont feel any of it even once a day, or week , nope not even an inch. So i rather prefer the one who doesnt say but makes you feel loved....
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• United States
17 Apr 08
Forgive me for prying but I think it is time to find someone who makes you Feel loved.Take Care.
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
6 Nov 08
I will prefer the feeling of being loved. It is a sweet feeling because someone loves you. Compare to it, saying it I love you sometimes doesn't mean it's a real love. It may be routine words only. I love China
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
Words are easily abused and it's a lot easier to say the words, "I love you." These three little words that most would love to hear from their respective partners can be damaging in its own way. Just empty, monotonous words for some. If I were to be asked, I much prefer to be shown how much is my worth to my husband. I don't tell him I love him everyday but I do make sure that I let him truly feel how much he means to me. My husband is not the wordy, flowery type and he's also not the showy type. But when he does let me feel that he loves me, it's enough for me. I don't need to shown everyday at every hour how much he loves me. Sometimes, when there are times that I really need to be convinced that I'm important in his life, he does show me.
• United States
16 Nov 07
I agree. ps. I like your avatar.
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• Philippines
1 Dec 07
thanks ^_^ This is my little dancing yellow chick.
• New Zealand
15 Nov 07
I prefer the feeling of being loved. I still believe in the saying "Action speaks louder than words". Saying I love you to your partner is an easy thing to do but proving it is a different thing..=)
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@nice030481 (1109)
• Philippines
17 Apr 08
i think can't choose, coz i want to feel love at the same time i also wanted to hear how much my husband love me. and thats what happen now, i also do that to him.
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• United States
17 Apr 08
That is great.That's how it should be.
• China
21 Oct 08
Hi,sarahruthbeth, This is interesting topic.I would choose a partner who rarely says I love you but I can feel the love everyday,I think it is happy for everyone!They said:" the result was the most important whatever you do!" What do you think?
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• United States
21 Oct 08
One action of love and understanding is worth a thousand "I Love You"s.
@donn_juan (325)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
ok, just one..i'll choose the feeling of being love. actions speak louder than words. you can express your love to a person by simply doing some acts without even saying anything. saying it though strengthens the action itself. sometimes actions can be deceiving so saying it clearly can lessen the confusion and the misconception of the act.;o)
• United States
19 Oct 08
I think the words can be deceiving too.I guess a good combination of both action and words is best.
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@ljmacca (86)
• Turkey
21 Oct 08
i would definietly rather feel the love. if you are with a person you should know that they love you without them ever having to say it and i think its the little things that say it most. my husband may have been working in the daytime but the fact that he still gets up and makes me a coffee after he's had his evenig meal so im appreciated, the fact that he text's me saying anything and nothing means he's thinking of me and he wants to share things with me, the fact he comes in and tells me his whole day tells me he loves being able to talk to me all of these things mean more than three little words and or a box of chocolates or a bunch of flowers. luckily i am married to a man that gives me both, there isnt a day that goes by where we dont tell eachother we love eachother, every morning, every night, with every text but even if we didnt say it as much we both would always still no it by our actions and thoughfulness for eachother. i am incline to remember the song more than words.......what would you do if my heart was torn in two,more than words to show you feel that your love for me is real, what would you say if i took those words aways and you couldnt make things new just by saying..i love you.
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• United States
22 Oct 08
I love that song. Well you and your hubby are another example of something I never thought was possible, love mixed with marriage. I am happy for you. do you two still date?You know go out for a movie or a meal? i hope so. Take care.
@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
1 Nov 08
I like the feeling better. It's easy to say words and not mean them. If it's actual emotions I can usually tell the difference. However, sometimes the words are nice too especially if the person saying it lives far away from you.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
2 Nov 08
hi sarah! i like guys who act. so i would choose the feeling of being loved. saying "i Love you" would be meaningless if it isn't showed through actions. it would just be empty words. its better if the guy make efforts to show the girl that he loves her. the saying "action speaks louder than words" is really true.
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• Romania
6 Nov 08
Personally, I would need to hear and feel at the same time.
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• Philippines
21 Oct 08
I love it if my partner would be able to show to me how much I mean to him and how important I am to him, yes action speaks louder than word but saying it sealed the action so I guess I would prefer both.
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@kirubin (47)
• Philippines
20 Oct 08
like what other posted, action speaks louder than words =)
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@ngouie (9)
• Philippines
17 Oct 08
If i really need to choose one, i'd rather go with the one who could make me feel that he loves me all the time. But hearing your loved one tell you that he loves you is also good. Well, good, i think, is not the right term to associate with the feeling when your loved one tells you i love you. But it's still the best when your loved one tells you and makes you feel that he loves you all the time.
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