F-ck you dude. Im nothing but a sweetheart.
By kiobug
@kiobug (2250)
United States
November 18, 2007 12:52am CST
Ever had a day where you just feeling like everyone hates you for no good reason? You have no clue what you did and everyones either not talking to you or saying stuff like im not putting up with this? Putting words in your mouth? And you just want to say f-ck you. When they yell at you or are offended for something that you have been going for day one-you cant change your personality. There are bullsh-tters and there are liars...I am neither. I am a person that does my job, does it right, and when I come to work I take care of sh-t. I am nothing but honest and sweet. So wtf did I ever do to you? Seriously. Why make me feel like sh-t? Ugh. Im fed up. Dont pretend to be my friend if you cant handle it. Thats what I hate about work and coworkers. Im sorry but im always real so if we are "friends" we are friends. Not like buddies at work but if something happens I drop you like a hot potato...I know the world is full of these people but I dont know what to do. I always seemed to get screwed over. Im nothing but a nice person. An honest, hardworking, cover everyone elses a-s, be there for you always person. So wtf. Seriously.
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@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
18 Nov 07
I take it you are having one of those days now! Well, I often have days like that. i have four young kids, don't get out much and feel as though the world is scrutinising every thing I do.
You need to stick to those who will listen to you, be there for you and can laugh with you, not at you.
There are people out there who are only in it for themselves, and they don't deserve your attention. I got rid of the people who were dragging me down, but it left me with very few friends. lol.
You sound like a sensible person, who tries to do right be everyone around you. In reality, there are times when you need to be a little selfish! I don't mean nasty, just keep out of there probs to work on your own.
Good on you for being one of the nice people in the world. I wish there were more like you!
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@kiobug (2250)
• United States
18 Nov 07
The problem is, I am a very sensitive person and I always seem to pick the wrong people for friends. *shrugs* I still think about my best friend from middle school who one day decided to just say hey I dont want to be your friend anymore. Still hurts. I cant hide my feelings. So its not that people cant say what they feel to me, just know that im not going to act all fine and dandy at work. I cant. Its impossible.
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@newzealtralian (3930)
• Australia
19 Nov 07
Maybe you need to go and do a course on how to be assertive. It will be a real confidence booster and will help you to deal with situations easier. I did something similar in my teen years (gosh, that was like, 10 years ago now!) and have found it to be of great benenfit. Try and see if there are coursed like this your way. If you need to, ask your gp, I'm sure they will be able to help.
@maryannemax (12154)
• Sweden
18 Nov 07
happened to me when i was in college. i had 4 bestfriends and they are someone jealous ones. they are nice but they easily get jealous when they see you spending so much time with other classmates. i started spending much time with other classmates who are really nice. my 4 bestfriends started to avoid me. later, i heard that they had been spreading rumors, too. i ignored it at first. but when i could not take it anymore, i really went to them one by one and told them every habit and personality i hate about them. since then, i haven't been they bestfriend anymore. i remained they friend but not as close as before. and i was really happier after that.
anne
@frecklelip334 (1668)
• United States
20 Nov 07
heehee this is why i LOVE my job....i'm a telecommuter, and all of us while on the phones, we have chat rooms and can call an upper lvl cust srvc, OR helpdesk....so i'm never alone, i talk to co-workers, BUT don't have to deal with the socializing part. that sounds bad, but sometimes there is just TOO much drama at workplaces, and everyone gotta know your business. like you ALL HAVE to be friends. not everyone gets along. but i'm like you: "I always seemed to get screwed over. Im nothing but a nice person. An honest, hardworking, cover everyone elses a-s, be there for you always person." i FEEL your pain and frustration, AND irritation!! and i'm sorry you're feeling this way right now!
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
Hi kiobug! Oh, friend there are a lot of people who are hypocrites and having Janus' face in this world and all around us. They pretend to like us and then all of a sudden they are already stabbing you at the back. I guess, those people in your workplace are just envious of you and maybe somehow are intimidated by you because probably you exude a very strong personality. As for me, as long as my conscience is good and that I am on the right track, I can always face them anytime, anywhere. haha.. Take care and have a nice day. :)
@AD11RGUY (1265)
• United States
18 Nov 07
Poor KB! At least my life's experience has been that the nicer you are, the more people will walk on you. And what? You're responsible at work too? Now all the vuck-ups will be handed to you by management because they know you take your job seriously and will get it done right! In the meantime, you are secretly building enemies. How so? Those that don't get the shining light that you do turn on you because they see it as you're getting special treatment. Or that you think you are better than them. So now they feel put out by you and all you did is what you are supposed to do! Go figure! Often it boils down to the others jealousy of your good fortune and/or abilities. They want to be either in the lime light or wish they had your good attributes so they would feel better about themselves. But instead of being mature about it, they take their ill self feelings out on you because they see you as the cause of their ill feelings. Forget about these people! There are plenty of people who will be true friends to you out there, just waiting for the day that the two of you will meet. Until then (and in between meeting more), just remember that you've got your sheit together and you don't need to worry about pleasing everyone else. If they turn out not to be a friend, say thank you to them for letting you know the truth, and then move on. I know you're young, but I'll say it anyway - life's too short! Don't waste your time on the nonsense around you. Focus on your needs, goals and desires and let no one stop you from achieving them. Stay strong, work smart and stay focused!
@kiobug (2250)
• United States
18 Nov 07
Perhaps that is what it is, people at my last job hated me too minus like one person. But not as bad as this. At my old job they would just talk about me behind my back. At my job now they do the same thing but then like last night actually physically get in my face about it. And I am super sensitive. I will cry at the drop of a hat, which I did. Because im never intentionally rude. Ever. And she put words in my mouth, and later she was like stop crying. What do you expect?! Im not a fake person. You hurt my feelings I cant just say oh okay whatever. I can not comprehend just being "friends" I cant. So I had to call my manager, whom I am not fond of, but had to and told her exactly what happened. At this point, the girl that yelled at me, whom I considered a friend is probably going to be even more upset because I told about her too. But I dont care. Because I dont deserve it. Ugh. And the other girl, I have done nothing but cover her a-s, stick up for her, and I got written up once for telling her she was going to get in trouble ahead of time and instead of waiting she brought it up to our higher up and got me in trouble and never said sorry!. Anyways there are days where she says hi and then there are days like last night when she refuses to acknowledge my presence. And im the only person she does it too. People have admitted that. And im done with it. She was being super obnoxious last night. I just hate going to work and feeling like I literally dont know how to function because I might offend someone. Seriously. Its bull. Then its going to be like why are you acting funny? Well what do you expect? If I act normal someone will complain that im still doing it. Whatever it is im doing.
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@yanqiyao (136)
• China
18 Nov 07
I love handling around with people who is straight-out. Honestly i kind of a person who considerates more than average people. But i'm satified with myself 'cause i still can be what i am. Nothing should stop you expressing your feeling, nomatter what it is. People has no right to judge, look down upon others if they didn't give them chances to speak.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
19 Nov 07
That's how I feel about my own family most of the time. They will dump on my no matter what I do. I can do exactly what they said they wanted me to do and as soon as it's done they'll change their minds and be pi$$ed that I did it. The harder I try the harder I get knocked down. I usually compare my life to the "Whack A Mole" gam beause I feel just like the little mole must feel. Sometimes I want to tell them all where to go but chances are they'd just say I was lying and make things even worse. Someday maybe I'll be able to cut them out completely...it's already been 2 years since I saw/spoke to one sister and over a year for the other sister.
@babiixgiirl (258)
•
19 Nov 07
Hmm, I have to say, I had a lot more of these days in High School, but I think it's mostly due to the immaturity of other people. Some people just tend to take out their bad mood on you, telling you they're fed up with you, or just plain ignoring you, because they've had an argument with a loved one or something. It's quite pathetic actually, but, unfortunately, there's always gonna be people that project their moods onto someone else, so just smile and get on with things - don't let them get you down too, and let them know that you're going to rise above their immature behavior. When they see that no one's going to take it, they'll soon rethink their actions.
@theprogamer (10532)
• United States
18 Nov 07
Poor Kio.
I hope you can cool off about it. I know it sucks and its very good you vented so you can at least let it out, let it go and relax at least a bit. If people are taking advantage of you even if they say "thank you" and such, you should consider doing less for them. Especially if they keep giving you nothing but garbage.
Chin up Kio.
Everyone on mylot's still here for you.
