I couldnt hold it in any longer! Money doesnt make friends better than!

@dloveli (4368)
United States
November 18, 2007 9:31pm CST
I have had this friend for almost a year. For the most part, she is very good to me and my family. As time went by, It became clear that she helped people so she could hear how selfless she was. Everytime I try to do or say anything, she has done it already. This christmas will be difficult due to the fact that I am trying to regroup from tragedies that had just occurred at beginning of year. Because I had a fairly decent job, agencies weren't really open to help me. . I had talked to my friend about this and had also told her what my daughter was asking for (an IPod). My friend immediately began to do as she always does and says that she was getting a $600 IPod for her daughter. I couldnt understand why she had to put how much she was going to pay. My daughter got wind of this and decided that she no longer wanted that. She changed it to a camera. I went out and got a great deal on a Kodak Easy Share. When my friend and I went to the store I showed her what I ended up getting. The next thing I know she picks it up and says to the sales girl "may I have this and every thing that goes along with it"? I LOST IT! before I knew it I was asking my friend if she was serious. I told her that every time my girl wants something she has to buy it and all the accessories for her daughter. I tried to be polite. She couldnt understand what the problem was. Am I crazy? I feel like kids these days have it difficult trying to find their way as individuals as it is. She makes sure that my daughter knows that Sasha has that and the case and accessories as well. I feel like shes trying to make the girls compete. Her response was My daughter doesnt even hang with your daughter. I feel that she was implying that she and her children are better than. And you know what? Im glad shes fortunate to have money. Even though her and her husband dont work. NO comment. I just want my daughter to know that money isnt everything. I think my friend is truly being hurtful. Thats the only reason I can fathom that she would have to add the amout she pays for things. I also found out that she has told some members of my community about ways she has helped me in the past. I found out the hard way. Money doesnt always make individuals better people. It can make them hurtful and greedy.Please keep in mind that this isnt the first time. It has been going on an almost daily basis. Its literally always something. I never said anything because I didnt want to seem petty. Come on though. I remember what it was like. I dont think any child needs everything that they see. Do you?
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@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
20 Nov 07
I don't think your friend is doing her daughter any favours, the one thing I have noticed about some younger people these days is they don't appreciate things, and they don't appreciate things because they get things way too easy and they get to a stage they take everything for granted. I think most people experience how great you feel when you work hard for something and finally get it, you apreciate it so much more so I think your friend is grooming a girl who will not grow up to be very nice, I think you should just sit down with your daught almost like you are talking to her as an adult to an adult and just explain things to her just to make sure she doesn't feel any less than anyone else just because of things, I really think your daughter will grow up a much nicer person..
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
20 Nov 07
Thanks lilac! This is exactly what I need to hear. I have been thru alot this past year my daughter is in remission from leukemia and we are just getting back on track after having a fire 3 days after christmas last year. I dont even think I realized shes not a friend until reading what Im typing. I tried telling her,"look you act as if your kids are better than." She just got really P.O.'d. I think she thinks people will think how cool she is and like her. Except that her attitude makes her stuck up. Every one notices it except me. I need to wear my glasses more often.
@dloveli (4368)
• United States
20 Nov 07
Thanks lilac! This is exactly what I need to hear. I have been thru alot this past year my daughter is in remission from leukemia and we are just getting back on track after having a fire 3 days after christmas last year. I dont even think I realized shes not a friend until reading what Im typing. I tried telling her,"look you act as if your kids are better than." She just got really P.O.'d. I think she thinks people will think how cool she is and like her. Except that her attitude makes her stuck up. Every one notices it except me. I need to wear my glasses more often.
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@lilaclady (28236)
• Australia
20 Nov 07
I believe your daughter will be a much better, well adjusted girl because you are bringing her upwell....she is lucky to have such a good mum..
• United States
2 Mar 08
Your friend does not seem like much of a friend, truly. Good relationships (friendships, family relations, romantic, ANY kind of relationship) are based on caring, respect and communication. It s good that you communicated with her your problem with how she was behaving toward you. It now seems from her response that either 1. She did not understand at all and now you must explain to her about how to be a friend and what your expectations of the relationship are OR 2. She just does not care about your feelings. At a practical level, in the future, I would not discuss finances with her at all.