What's the age difference between your & your partner?

@nica269 (1399)
United States
November 20, 2007 2:22pm CST
My husband is 11 years older than I am - almost to the day! His birthday is on the 6th and mine is on the 13th of the same month. The age difference never really bothered me. I figured that since men mature at a slower pace than women, our maturity levels match perfectly. However, it does bother my sometimes when he still calls me a baby...It drives me nut!!
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@violeta_va (4832)
• Australia
21 Nov 07
My husband and I are 5 years apart. Before I got married the bigest age difference between me and my boyfriends (3 in total) was 3 years. The last one was 1 year man was that guy imature its not even funny. It is not a big age difference but I still jok with him with things like: man you are getting old, or it must be your age. Not that he is old he is only 32 but we enjoy joking.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
22 Nov 07
Jocking with them about their age is fun.
• Australia
22 Nov 07
Well the joke is that he is in his 30's and I am in my 20"s
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
22 Nov 07
my husband is in his 40's and i'm still in my 20's...barely 20's, but I can still claim it! LOL
@devilsangel (1817)
• United States
21 Nov 07
I'm 4 1/2 yrs older than my spouse. Most people look at that number and go well thats not that bad, but in a way it is a bit of a gap. I mean I was out of high school and in the military before he was even 18. It kinda puts a different prespective on things. In the 4 yr gap between us I live almost a lifetimes worth of things. Sure age wise its not that much but experince wise it does have its adverse effects. We laugh about it sometimes, and I try not to let it bother me to often.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
I believe that you have that much more experience than he does or did because you were in the military. I have friends who say that the military gave them knowledge that would only be experienced by a person who lived 20 years more than they did.
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• United States
21 Nov 07
yea, in a way it's like a whole lifetime of experince wraped in just a few years. I know people my age who haven't experinced half as much as I have. Most of it is due to the fact that I was in the military. It's weird how that can change so much about a person's life. Normally 4-5 yrs wouldn't make a difference to anyone, throw in the military and you might as well be talking about 20-30 yr difference. It does make things a little weird at times.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Yeah, the whole military experience changes people.
• Canada
21 Nov 07
I am single at the moment but I usually date men between 5 and 11 yrs older than I am. I can't stand the immaturity of guys my age and I have 2 kids so I want someone that is going to set a good example for them.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
I dated guys my age and close to it and they were like dealing with teenage kids...it was very frustrating. So I was very happy when I found a guy that was mature - at least at my maturity level lol.
• Canada
21 Nov 07
Exactly I want a man not another child to take care of LOL
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
that's no fun. good luck
@marinarovi (1318)
• Argentina
21 Nov 07
He's 5 years and 8 months younger than me. It's hard sometimes, because I don't want him to hurry and I don't want to wait too long for family issues, but we're dealing with it. He's mature for his age, and I love him madly, so I'll try my best to make it work! =)
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Relationships are hard, but I always believe that if it's meant to be, i'll happen. =)
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• Argentina
21 Nov 07
Yes, I believe the same. And if it's not meant to be, maybe it was something you had to learn from it. So far we're doing pretty well, =)
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Yeah, there is always something to learn from each and every relationship.
• United States
20 Nov 07
My husband is 6 months and 2 days older then me. His birthday is June 11 and mine is December 13 of the same year.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
20 Nov 07
It's good that you get along well with each other. you must have gotten a 'mature' one LOL
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• United States
21 Nov 07
hahahaha, not really. I've never met a mature adult male, lol. My husband is more like an oversized child that I have to deal with every day. Sometimes he is worse then my kids. He can't pick up after himself, cook or do laundry. He can't even get the dirty clothes in the hamper when he is changing right next to it (what is up with that?) The only thing he does do is change diapers. I pretty much refuse to do it when he is home since I do every other thing around here. I always chalked it up to the fact that he went from living with his mother to living with me at the age of 23. He never had to fend for himself. His mother babied him and did everything for him.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Yeah, the whole cleaning up after themselves and putting clothes in laundry basket boggles my mind. My husband is 40 and still doesn't do that@!
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
23 Nov 07
I am 12 years older than my husband and we get along very well at first when we started dating I figured it would never work, actually because I had grown children and he had none but it has worked out very well my girls love him and he loves them back the grandkids call him grandpa and we have been together 10 years now and couldn't be happier,we take vacation every year just the two of us and its just as romantic as the first.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
30 Nov 07
That sounds like an awesome relationship. Congratulations on finding such a good match.
• Pakistan
22 Nov 07
He is 11 years elder than you. It means that he is mature than you. This is so good. He can look after you and can guide you as he is senior and experienced than you. Being your husband, he is a head of your family. You should follow him for smooth running your family affairs. God may bless your home.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
30 Nov 07
Our relationship is a mutual one. No one runs the other, but he is the head of the house hold, but don't forge that i'm the neck and I move the head anyway I want it to move.
@ersmommy1 (12595)
• United States
21 Nov 07
The younger wives need to graciously remind the older husbands that it is you who helps to keep them young. When they tease, flit back with that one. They may vey ell appreciate the reminder!
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
22 Nov 07
i love it!!!!!
• India
21 Nov 07
my girl friend is 1 yr older than me Regards Harry
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
22 Nov 07
thanks for posting.
• India
21 Nov 07
The post is something that drives me crazy buddy.well not many marital life is of the accord you have been gifted .enjoy the love the most lovable person gives you in his arms every moment of your life.As far as the maturity level is concerned it is the situations of the life that makes us all mature rather the age alone.His antics drives the emotion a crazy lot but then that counts in the emotional drive you have been sharing up with your better half.God gifts very few peoples with the stature you are in possession of.Enjoy every bit of it so that even a slight reminiscence of the moments drives you the same high spirited woman in full womanhood.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
22 Nov 07
This is not a complaining post, this is a curiosity post. I am thankful for what I have and for what God gave me. So don't judge because I stated a scientific fact that men develop emotionally slower than women.
@azimsay (545)
• India
21 Nov 07
It is necessary husband is biger than wife,beause it is control both of them and their life.Between husband wife age diffrence about two three years.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
22 Nov 07
I have to disagree with you. i don't think that the husband needs to be older than the wife and I REALLY disagree when you say the he CONTROLS both of them...crazy crap if you ask me. Thanks for posting.
• United States
21 Nov 07
When I met my husband I did not know his age and when I found out it was too late to really matter to me. It bothered my friends a lot but never did bother me. When we met I was 16 and he was 14. We have been together ever since. We have six children and things are great with us.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
22 Nov 07
I knew my husbands age when I met him, but it never really mattered.
• India
21 Nov 07
Hi nica269! The age difference between me and my boyfriend is 15 years. My boyfriend calls me baby too and i like it. He is much more matured while i am childish mostly.All is well as he loves me a lot too.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
22 Nov 07
My father in law is 15 years older than my mother in law and they've been married for over 40 years.
• Australia
21 Nov 07
There are 2 and a half years separating my boyfriend and I. He is older than me and much much more mature! haha!
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
22 Nov 07
haha! thanks for posting
• China
21 Nov 07
We are the same age.I know it's a little bit troubled.I like a man who is like a brother that can love me as loving a child.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
thax 4 posting
• United States
21 Nov 07
my boyfriend is 26, i'm 19. the 7year age difference doesn't bother us at all. plus i've always been attracted to older guys. as everyone's been saying, age doesn't matter. love does.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Like I said before, age is just number.
@Ravenladyj (22920)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Age doesnt really bother me either though I do admit I havent dated anyone younger than me....As for the age difference right now...My husband is 6 yrs oldre than me and my other man is 7 yrs older than me..I've dated men 11 yrs older than me and one that was actually twice my age (yrs ago)....Its not so much the age as it is the mindset and maturity level for me...A guy could be 10 yrs older than me but have the maturity level of a child, that I cant tolerate ya know...
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Right, maturity level is what makes the relationship work.
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
21 Nov 07
my hubby is 4 years older than me but i feel it's just a number any way.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Age IS just a number.
@lexus54 (3575)
• Singapore
21 Nov 07
My wife is only four months younger than I am. My birthday is on the 2nd while hers is on the 14th. Some people choose their female partners at least several years younger than themselves, but for me, the small age difference didn't bother me. We have had a wonderful relationship all these years, and that's what is important and precious to me.
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
The relationship is what's important. Age is just a number
• Philippines
21 Nov 07
my boyfriend is six years older than me.. we were ok by then..before i entered in a relationship i said to myself that if ever i will have a boyfriend he must be 3-6 years older than me..it turns into reality..our relationship run smoothly as time goes by..we had petty quarrels but we managed it..im actually his baby..and im thankful for that..
@nica269 (1399)
• United States
21 Nov 07
Sweet deal.