A boy-girl relationship is just waste of time

Philippines
November 22, 2007 12:54am CST
As they say, a boy-girl relationship is a source of inspiration. It is a source of happiness and contentment. But, I think it's just a waste of time. It is a hindrance in achieving and pursuing you goals of success in life. It gives you a feeling of contentment, that is, contentment in what you already have in life. This feeling of contentment tempts us to become just a mediocre and stops us from being ambitious in achieving our goals in our lives.
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14 responses
@mani123 (354)
• India
22 Nov 07
hi most welcome to mylot. a boy - girl relationship is not waste of time.. somebody use that friendship.somebody misbehave that friendship.. that is depending upon your mind. if you have a good girl frd means, you will get more things from her. things means like knowledge,achivements etc.. the girl frd may be a good or not.. but friendship is true.. Don't say like this.. relationship is also like the friendship.. all the best.. earn more money from mylot.
• China
22 Nov 07
I agree with you
@cripfemme (7710)
• United States
23 Nov 07
I disagree. I think it's important to practice dating skills, before you're old enough to married. This teaches you how to act in dating situations so you don't screw up when you meet the one because you've had no practice.
@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
23 Nov 07
I think you have had too many or one big disappointment with a girlfriend. Everyone gets hurt as they learn what they are looking for in a relationship. It's part of what makes us who we are. It's how we find that right person for us. We learn from experiences in our lives. So I think your statement is not very acurate. Don't give up. You will find that right person to share your life with. Till then, just be patient.
• United States
23 Nov 07
Those who disagree with you will say that it brings them happiness.
• China
23 Nov 07
I don't quite agree with you. You may think it is a waste of time. But without the experience you'll be missing something in life. You can have a relationship while still be ambitious and pursue your goals. That's something you'll have to work on. If you see the relationship as a hindrance, I'd say you don't have the ability to deal with things properly.
• China
23 Nov 07
I agree that it is a time-consuming thing, and now in college i also haven't started a relationship, for my priority in life is success in learning and career, i haven't a little extra time to give another person, even when i have some leisure time, i more incline to stay alone, and enjoy my own freedom. But i don't think that kind of relationship is a waste of time, for everthing we do has invisible meaning in it, though sometimes it is not so perceptible to us.In this case, i believe that if we don't go through this special and sweet period of time ,if not having been with several boy-friends,how are we to know that the man we will marry is the right person that is suitable for us. good luck, friend!
@wisedragon (2328)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
If you love each other it's not a waste of time. As a matter of fact being in love can inspire you to reach higher knowing that you will have a family of your own some day. If it's a one-way street, of course that's a waste of time. Better to be free.
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
Hi! for me , it depends upon the situation we could not judge the book by its cover if for u it is just waste of the time but for others they consider its their inspiration of life.
@nkhanna (925)
• India
23 Nov 07
hi purplemo.i donot agree with you totally.me and my partner before getting married was in a relation for some 5years.we both have supported a lot while studying as well after joining the job as well.what you are telling normally happens when one is just doing time pass.a true love can make you do wonders in your life.its gives you always a moral support,which is required by every human being to go ahead in life.however time pass relations are selfish when both the persons just think aobut themselves,but true love tihnks about the partner's happiness first.Ever you will fall in true love then you will realise the strength of love relationship
• China
23 Nov 07
I don't agree with you. I think it is a kind of happiness with someone share your happy or unhappy. If you feel painful, you can relax yourself through chatting with your friend.
• United States
22 Nov 07
A boy-girl relationship as in having a friend who is not the same as you and learning from them is great. I as a female can get a lot of information from a male and also learn a lot from them. To keep them around as friends they give you insights on different topics and will inspire you. They give you a window to the other side of the world. They can even push me to go and fulfill my dreams while the females would say hmmm more emotional at times. Take care.
@vikceo (1301)
• India
22 Nov 07
well i think it depends and it depends on the intensity of how much you are engrossed with your other partner. nothing is hinderance in pursuing goals it is only how much imporatnce you give to your goal and the partner. it is your priority that decide which is more important and how much? depending on that it happens. so if you can balance the relationship and the goals the all can be well.
@sid556 (30987)
• United States
22 Nov 07
You must have had some very bad luck in your relationships to have such a negative attitude. i'm sorry you have been so hurt. I do think it is all about how you look at things. I personally find my relationships and friendships have all helped and inspired me along the way. even the ones that did not work out well have all taught me some valuable life lessons.
@chunter (1761)
• Singapore
22 Nov 07
I think it depends on how you look at things.... If you are ambitious, you can choose to continue to be that way despite having married to the man/women of your dreams... if the partner loves you, he/she would also be ambitious to help fulfil the dream together...