dear friend - let him go or keep him for real
By nike_myth123
@nike_myth123 (518)
Philippines
November 22, 2007 10:21am CST
i have two stories to tell you, one part is letting go and the other one is keeping it.
beth has been my friend since high school. after we finish college, 7months after she got pregnant. the man who got her pregnant is still with her until now and i honestly do find him responsible. the guy doesn't have a work but he is the one taking care of their baby who is almost 3years old now. i can see that he loves her and so does she. but when i ask her if she has any plans to get married, she's in doubt. perhaps its because she may find her future unstable with him, i don't know. but i do hope she'll keep him not for the sake of their son but for her as well
2nd part, my cousin lynn who is now 42 got pregnant 10 years ago. we have doubt about the guy. some say that he is already married with two kids at a different province. and he never ask her to get married.well we are at the modern age now so we just let them decide what they want, anyway they are already old enough to take care of themselves. they stayed together until 6years ago, he just disappeared. no letters, no phone calls, no emails. my beautiful niece, april, just keep on asking when he will be back. she was 4years young when he disappear. and something happened last monday. he just finally appear and he ask my cousin to marry him. he said that he was in a coma for a couple of years and he got injured, blah,blah,blah. what a lie. i hope i'm wrong but he is definitely not worth at all.
what say you?
note: i've attached a pic of april and my other niece, kaye.
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7 responses
@angel1118 (21)
• China
23 Nov 07
Hi Nike, Thanks for your wirting, first i feel a bit pity for your cousin, but we must know it is hard to know who is right and who is wrong in love affairs, If she think that is the life she want to choose, let her do! The best thing we can do is help her when she get any trouble.
Your friend Beth, is a lucky girl, because she is deeply loved bu her husband, she has a happy life with husband and child.
Different people have their unique thinkings,if you love him/her, it is worth to do any thing for him/her.
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@nike_myth123 (518)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
thanks. unfortunately its seems that she do still love him and i dont want her to be blinded by her love to him and dont see the mistakes that he made. hmmm, love is confusing sometimes.
@angel1118 (21)
• China
26 Nov 07
some times,we have no way to persuade them. the only way is let her recognize the truth face of him.Dont say more to her, your advices may be bothered her and make her crazy. She must experience it by herself.
@neha211985 (780)
• India
23 Nov 07
hello nike i dnt know what to say at the time when im reading this i feel like im in the place of ur sister its difficult 2 say what i feel. i pray will 4 her .
@nike_myth123 (518)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
thank you so much. by the way, its my cousin not my sister. have a nice day!
@mansha (6298)
• India
23 Nov 07
I will say, let them decide for themselves. ALl is fair in love and marriage is just a formality a legal binding, if one feels up to it one should marry but if you are comfortable spending your liffe without any legal bindings that is and should be acceptable too. Its up to them to decide how and with whom they are going to spend their lives with not you.
@nike_myth123 (518)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
i know that at the end it will be her decision but as much as possible i wanted her to see other side just to make sure that she will not regret it. and again,i just hope i'm wrong and whatever her decision will be right.
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
That was really hard I guess. I mean for your cousin and her kids. I guess the thing that you could do is investigate... If he got coma for the past years then the hospital might be keeping records...and where did he stay afterwards? You could visit them and at least say thank you. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt... In this case your cousin is the one to decide...
@nike_myth123 (518)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
hmmm, you've got a point there. i don't want to be an intruder but thats actually a good idea. he might be telling the truth. who knows.
@wisedragon (2325)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
That's crazy. Disappear for 6 years and then suddenly propose? What a joke! He obviously went back to his wife. Now that they're having problems he goes back to your cousin.
The worst part of it all is that he's lying. He doesn't even tell your cousin what really happened all those years, his true marital status. What kind of a husband will he be? He's been lying all the time. And that coma story? He's been watching too many soap operas!
@nike_myth123 (518)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
exactly what i'm thinking. what a lame excuse right? and im afraid that my cousin will believe him just for the sake of their daughter. whatever happens, i do hope im wrong. but 90% in me tells that i am right.
@dilmeet (55)
• India
23 Nov 07
I feel when we plan to marry anyone. We feel the risk for life. In case of your cousin lynn i feel she need to judge herself and you also can help her.
If you people feel convice then also do some varify and try to get the reason why he want to marry your cousin now. As in any case to whomsoever she marry who have to judge the person well for the future prospects and love.
So try to judge in the best way and marks down the + and
-ve point to marry or not to that guy.
@nike_myth123 (518)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
though his intention good for my niece's part but i don't think that he is a good provider. who knows,he might disappear again. but you got the point, she needs to check the positive and negative side, unfortunately as of now, I'm seeing more of the negative. i hope i'm wrong.
