what do you do if you have big problems in life/school/etc.?
By iryn18
@iryn18 (32)
Philippines
November 22, 2007 8:46pm CST
as a student i have difficulties with my family and in school...when it comes to family i had hard time to understand my mother, we always have conflicts and regards to my father we are bit ok..they are responosible parents,they provide what i want but in terms of support in school and career they never ask me about my studies..its just like im all alone..they let me do what i want..sigh! im working to support my studies in school..its really hard to have work and study but i can do it..
my mother always dont want me,everytime she see me she always get mad...its so strange..when im on my room then i hear she so happy together with my 3 brohters..its so unfair!!..i dont know why she's so angry with me..i feel no love from her,i feel abandoned..sometimes i just want to be alone on my room..whenever i have problems on my studies i take it on my own..i cant share to them that i have problems because i know they will just take it for granted and left it to me..sigh! its ok for me that they treat me like this and i dont feel affected so that i will concentrate on my studies.. i really had hard time with this life of mine..when im with friends im happy person but deep inside i have hard time..
thats all.. i just share it on mylot my feelings..
hope u guys have something to say..thanks..
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11 responses
@joshboz (1209)
• Australia
23 Nov 07
i usually go to church and pray, sing song that i love to sing, read inspiring quotes on the internet and most of all find a friend to talk to and tell my problem. in order for you to boost your self esteem my friend you should think larger than your problem , think that your not the only one who have big problem and dont let your problem rule your day. just smile and forget about it. just ignore it and think positively. have a good and blessed day.
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@iryn18 (32)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
yes i know it my friend..sometimes i dont think about my problem,i just go with the play and spend time with my friends and have some fun..thats what i want to be happy and let those problem go away and dont rule my life...
thanks joshboz..
i appreciate your advice..:-)
@Ann2407 (305)
• China
23 Nov 07
You said that your parent don't care you,maybe it is because they trust you and think you can deal with your things well or maybe they think a youth like you need your own space and don't like to live under the control of them.You can communicate with your parent on this problem and show you feel to them.When i was a student,my parent care little about my study,i know they have many own things to cooperate with ,they need to earn the bread for us.Actually, i don't like them care everything of me and treat me like a little girl,i really don't like that ,i am a person athirst of freedom.
How about have a talk with your parent and you may know the reply of your confusion.Be more happier,pretty guy!good luck to you!
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@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
23 Nov 07
I'm sorry to hear about your situation.
It could be a miscommunication.You feel like your father doesn't ask much about your studies and stuff,maybe he thinks that you rather want to be left alone and stuff.
I don't know why your mum is so angry because i don't know the situation,but you could try and talk to your parents alone when your brothers aren't there and just tell them how you feel about things and that you don't understand why they handle like that.
If that won't work maybe talk to someone who does listen to you and really can help or support you in things.
maybe put all your feelings on my lot or write about it.Their are many ways to get rid of the feeling.It doesn't always solve things but if you don't get any support in things from nobody it's better to write your feelings down like in a diary or just a book.Be creative.
I hope you will feel better.
Cheers
@fanji008 (775)
• China
23 Nov 07
Hi,there! Sorry to hear that you've got so many problems.Well,nothing can be smooth.I understand your feelings.If you can't have an open talk over that with your parents,then maybe you can talk that with your close friends.It's good to let things out otherwise you need to undergo too many things and that'll be too stressful for you. Another way is that,keep an optimistic attitude and write your feelings down. You can write all the things in a letter to your mum.Hopefully these will help:) Best wishes and have a nice day:)
@presido (16)
• Israel
24 Nov 07
iryn,i think there is something you do your mum doesn't like, think very well baby, there is a character of yours that pisses her off you that brings about the conflict between you.Avoid those things that causes the comflict,do not let her always observe your presence,develope a dominiaring
attitude,try as much as possible to acqueire knowladge that
will make them need you in the family, do not fail to appologise where necessary. penetrate your
brothers first,your dad and then, they will help u
gain your mum back, even to love you more than she ever loved you.if you don't know how to make more mony in the internet,i will teach you.just write me via: uncleutara@hotmail.com
@paulit03 (93)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
im sooryy to hear that ate iryn.. but hey don't wooryy about that as what mister furion said your not alone. were here if you need some help or someone who can talk to dont be afraid to approach to us. hehe i want to help. as for your problems i have also encountered the same thing but not my parents my aunt. because my parents left us already when we were still young=-(.. just be strong and understand your mother. but i dont think so your mother doesnt love you. maybe there are reasons for that. ayt?hmmm just be strong.. and if you need some help i'm here. take care
@maumbi (2570)
• Indonesia
23 Nov 07
sure i have find way how to resolved this problem, and never give up,all people have problem on their live every day every second this normally, and we should NOT to hard thinking about this, just enjoy and find best solution.
@colourless (245)
• China
23 Nov 07
I feel for you,my friend! i used to quarell with my mother on some trivial things such as clothes, food, housework,ect.But now i live on my own, i find myself regret what i have done to my mother ,for i have felt that the love of my parents is most valuable for me .No other person is more affectionate to me than my parents, this is even no exception to my future husband.
cherish our parents' love, for that love is more profound.
@olivia_2007 (51)
• China
23 Nov 07
many friends have give you some advice.i give you another advice.you can analyze youself.you are the son of your parents ,the same as your brothers.why your parents love them not love you? in my opinion,they must love you,parents always treat their babies as treasure,they will not abandon them forever.otherwise,if they do not love you,why they buy everything what you want to you.maybe you are an independent boy,maybe long long ago,you told them you wanted to be a man to deal with everything by yourself? you can communicate with your parents,tell them what your thought,i think communication is a good way,you can try it.
@teteimathews (265)
• Singapore
23 Nov 07
Dear iryn18
I feel sad to hear about your problems. Since, I come from a very happy family, I don't understand the real pain you are going through. But, there is only one thing I can advice you is put all your burden and sorrows to God. Pray hard, pray hard, you might have to pray for many years, but do not give up. One day, God will surely answer your sincere prayer. Remember, God has His own time in answer people's prayer. God bless!! cheers!!!
@furion1 (272)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
I feel sorry for you ate Iryn but you are not alone. I sometimes feel the same. It is like I am the blacksheep of the family, that I am different from them. My mother favors my sisters more than me. That is why I like my father more because he doesn't care. I am not his favorite though but at least he treats us all as equals. They support my studies and school but does not prioritize it. They rather give much support to my irregular nursing sister. Sigh! I can't wait for graduation and have a real life! It is a good thing that I have a lot of friends and they make me happy. Somehow being with them makes us a loving family and that feeling of belongingness just feels so right!
