is it painful to be single?

I think only you can answer that question in this case. Some people feel that relationship is necessity to have someone share feelings and have a shoulder to cry on. You may think best friend is the perfect solution, but if your best friend has a boyfriend, you will see that things change a bit or a lot. Nobody is strong enough to be single forever. It's true you don't have to listen to others, but you also have to be honest to yourself. Ask yourself why are you still single, what do you expect from a relationship that somehow you don't see anyone can give, have you ever had a crush and what happened. Before you can love anybody, you must know yourself, and this is not an easy thing to do. If you never love, then when true love comes, you will not realize it and end up losing it.

You are much too young to be worrying yourself with these issues. On my own point of view, you should do what your heart really desires to do for now and enjoy every moment of your singleblessedness. There are a lot of things you could do to brush the thought of acquiring a partner from your head. If you have enough capital, you could start your very own business. This way, you're passing time and at the same time, earning for your future needs. And if in the future, you finally decide to be engaged or get married and start your own family, you won't have to worry a lot financially. Or maybe study another course. You could enhance yourself more by learning different crafts, too. These are just a few of the varied things you can do; but whatever you choose, do love yourself and be happy. God bless and take a lot of care.

I am 57 years old and married and still I felt like answering your question. I have 3 unmarried children and I know that sometimes it is sad to be alone and I hope that you have a lot of friends or a job that satisfies you. This is very important. As about love, it provides a good feeling but it never lasts for ever. Marriage is not all about love, it is also about qualities you are looking for in a partner, for some others it is about financial security and others will stick to love. On the other hand, if you are enjoying your single status, I think you can still afford it because you are really very young. Being single is not painful if you have goals and friends but at a certain point in life, you feel the need to be shouldered. But there is no guarantee in life, just enjoy it as much as you can and keep your ethics safe. Best Regards, Esther

I agree with you. Finding a lover shouldn't be a priority. If you happen to find one then congragulations but you or any one else don't have to spend a lot of time and money on finding a mate. I heard that getting your heart broken feels bad so maybe it is better to never of loved then to love and lost. Just maybe I am not sure.

I think we should be serious and careful in finding a partner.it is lucky to find a suitable partner.i am now also single .maybe sometimes it is painful to be single ,but you can spent the time in some senseful things like sports ,reading .lover is not all of the life ,we have many things that we can do.

It's hard to stay single in this world especially when people expect you to be with somebody special like a boyfriend. You are still young so just enjoy single hood. It's not about having no choice. It's about making intelligent choices. But keep your heart open for potential lover. Don't rush into falling in love. that is why it's called "falling" in love, you just fall and you don't forced yourself to be in that situation.Love never runs out. One text message I receive from a friend about being single goes like: "...God is just busy creating the perfect story that will swept me off my feet."

At first it was painful because like you said people looked with pity, but i found it better to not care and enjoy life as is. I was happy with being single and that's when I found someone wonderful.

We are social animals. We can not live alone. We need companion, partner, friend and also lover. Male is for female and female is for male. They born, grow and then the grown start the same process and complete the cycle. This process is not confined to a human being. This is also nature of animals, insects, plants and every living thing in this universe. None could live alone or single and it is really painful to be single for every one. So you should become double if you can.

Hi Moliliuzu! I can relate with you.I have been married for over 12 years and recently got seperated. I am a working woman and stay alone. I always see guys (even married ones and those even old enough to be my father) trying to flirt with me and asking me for a date and more. Now eventhough I am steady with my boyfriend I wonder why some guys think they are the gift of god every female should possess.

I think it is good to be single and it is your choice and also I see you are only 22 years old , so what the hury? but also it depends on the country where are you from. Because I guess in some coutries when the person is single in your age, the people can take it the way like they should be sorry for you. But anyway i think you have plenty time to meet someone and fall in love. there is really no hury.

Hey dear, do not worry about age and being single, the right person will come to your life in the right moment, for now enjoy the life you have... beacuase believe it is better to be alone that have bad company... Have a great weekend!

I'm single and i've never been with a man for more than 6 months. I still haven't found a guy that I really like but I don't mind staying single for the moment. I like to take care of myself and I need to be alone very often. So I don't care that i'm single too. You shouldn't care about what other say, it's your life and your free to do whatever you want with it. Plus, you don't have to have a boyfriend if you don't love him just because some guys took pity on you :) Enjoy your life, we're young (i'm 21) and I think we have time to find true love, you should not want things to happen to fast and finish your life with a man you don't even like :) But thanks for creating this discussion, it's nice to see other's opinions

As we are young now,there are many things that wait us to do.Busy always keep us from thinking about the lonely in our heart.All of us need courage to chase the right person who will company with our last life when we get old. Don't be afraid--At least,I be there and support you.

it's not painful..you're still so young..you enjoy life being single because when you tend to indulge in a relationship, you have to adjust for your partner to the point that you have to learn to know what they want..

Its not painful but its too lonely that no one will understand and love as.But I believe that the right time will come to have a speciel someone.That will love you forever and accept who ever you are.

In my case, it's hard not to long for a boyfriend when the people around you are moving in twos, like in a relationship. It's weird how I would always be the person in between so that I could bring them together and give profound love advices when in fact I've never been in a relationship! I am always the bridge but never the girlfriend. Boys never took me seriously.. I am always just the friend or the 'motherly' one in the group. :( But I don't think romantic love is not necessary in one's youth. it comes when it comes. you can always fuse your love to something or someone who would be worth your time, like your family or friends or your academe. heehee. Well, at least that's what am trying to do right now. find a different outlet for this potential love energy. :)

It depends on where you are and what your situation is. For me its not so painful (probably the only relationship I miss is one with a childhood sweetheart). Single life when compared to other "grown-up" relationships is a step above. Its not painful at all, and I'm pretty happy where I'm at. I have time to live my life on my terms.

No, I don't think that having a relationship at a young age is important at all. Quite honestly, young people need to know themselves and what they want out of life before they involve someone else and their wants and needs. It's important to find out who you are and what you want in not only life, but in a spouse or lover. Don't worry at all about still being single. Enjoy it. Relationships can not only be great, but there are alot of trials and troubles with them as well. Good luck and God bless

why don't you look for a BF? that is the thing and the real answer is known yourself.

maybe,I am single till the last week.and i am 27 years old, I have no time to think this question.I am busy very busy. everyday i need to do a lot of things. eventhough I don't know why i do it. I want find a girlfriend but I am afraid I can't give her the wonderful life. I am a good man I think myself,,,hey hey