love before and after marrige

November 24, 2007 2:35am CST
hi friends, I would like to know your opinions about the love that exists before marriage and after marriage. It is often heard that lovers after getting married complaints their partner doesnt love them as they were before the marriage. This leads to fights between them. what do you people feel? why is it that after the marriage one is not able to love their spouse as before? Any suggestions? tell me your opinions about leading a happy and successful married life..
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@bbsr13 (4196)
• India
24 Nov 07
hello,fazeena!love before marriage was just a fun making which continues for some time after marriage it becomes,often obligatory and ego with either partner may mar the relationship.so in my opinion both husband and wife should respect and tolerate the feelings of each other.both should compromise and adjust to the situations.if they follow this they may live a good marital life or else they will go to hell.thanks a lot and good luck.
• India
24 Nov 07
From my experience, i think love after marriage is real and strong.But, it take time to understand the partner.
@nidahali (446)
• Pakistan
24 Nov 07
I think that both love before and after marriage's important for a happy and healthy marriage. In my opinion before marriage is a little different from the love after it because when we aren't married, we have this fear of losing our loved one and it's human nature to hold on tightly to something that we fear losing but once we get it, we lose it's importance a bit. Maybe this is the reason why people complain about the love after marriage even thou they may love each other very much but they expect to be loved more than before. I think one should give love without worrying about getting the love of the same magnitude back. It's a 'Give and Take' thingy not a 'take-take'. If you keepin loving your spouse the same way, sooner or later you'll get your reward with twice the magnitude... all you need is have keep faith. Cheers!
24 Nov 07
hmm... i agree with ur comment. thanks
• India
24 Nov 07
I dnt know im not married. I heard this thing frm many people i 2 dnt know its true or not but i think after marriage patners get more responsibility they dnt stop loving but they stop saying thet how much they love each other.:)
@nkhanna (922)
• India
25 Nov 07
hi fazeena.i will tell what is the difference between the love before marriage and love after marriage.actually before marriage both the partners have tihs feeling within themselves that they are meeting each other for sometimes and they just want to give all the best of thiers to the other.they are not boung in any social realtion,so they are a bit insecure as well.however after marriage since the partners are living with each other in a relation and when they obth have huge amount itme for each other,so they not always show their love,of wihch the other person is accustomed to beofre marriage.people start taking their partner for granted.before marriage love is above all for them,however after marriage many other tihngs come above marriage.to lead a happy married life love your parnter as much as you can,so that oyu never have any regrest in your life that you were not able to express your love ot your life.keep a balnce between love and other things of life.