Do you allow your lover to keep secrect from you?
November 24, 2007 2:56am CST
My bf likes checking everything from my mobile (include calling log,messages,pictures)after that he will offer so many questions for me to answer. If my mobile was busys while he was calling me.He would ask me everything from the call.and he does it every time. and even check about my diary . I explain everything everytime .NoW he stop doing so.he said he wanted me to be naked in everything. that makes me feel somehow. How about u ,do you allow lover to keep secrect from you? Thank you!
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24 Nov 07
Hi jiangli how are yu ? hope yu fine iam a new in my lot can yu tell me anything more about my lot , how much yu earnig per weak ok any i think yur boy friend is very selfish thats why all guys are like that,. not only yur boy friend even my boy friend also like that tahts doest a matter that will make more understand eachother..
24 Nov 07
Am really sorry for you for the way your boyfriend is treating you. It is not good to hide things from your partner and also it is not good to snoop on your partners private things. I believe that a mobile phone and purse are private things and nobody is allowed into them except the owner and if he/she is willing and allows you to snoop then that is another story. My fiancee never inspects my phone, he trusts me and so do i. But I will not allow him to keep secretes from me, same as him. It is good to be transparent to one another for a healthy relationship.
24 Nov 07
Hello jiangli!!c",) I'm sorry to hear that, i think your boyfriend doesn't trust. I'm sorry if i offended you but that is just what i see in your situation. I believe in peoples privacy and i don't keep secrets from my boyfriend like he is to me. I do allow him to glance at my cellphone but he never asks something like those of your boyfriend. Why is he like that, does he have any reasons to have doubts on your love for him. In a relationship, there must be respect for love to grow deep... c",) you take care girl
4 Dec 07
This is what must be ahppeing to evry other lover as man generally have a tendency to check all this and its common thing noticed by me. Well i think when a person is in relation there should absolute transparency in evry thing if there isnt than these things will defiantely come up .
• Guangzhou, China
27 Nov 07
Yes, I allow my husband to have his own secrets. I can understand that everybody needs to have a little privacy, even if they are couples. It is not something wrong. I trust my husband as well as he trusts me. For example, he knows my email account password and I also know his, but we never want to check each other's emails.
25 Nov 07
To me, I think it's sweet that he checks up on me..I think he's trying to show he's side of wanting me so much. My bf does that sometimes too. And I tell him that he doesnt have to worry. It's how he does it that feels nice. You know, you should tell him to try not to do it so much. It's important for him to give you your space and freedom.
25 Nov 07
I'm sorry to hear that.Everyone has the right to keep his own secrets,your bf is a so controlling man,you are his gf,not his slave, nobody will put up with his act.private room is needed especially between lovers. If my gf do that to me,I will break up with her.
24 Nov 07
Even if I'm the jealous type, I'm proud to say that I don't do that. I don't have a habit of regularly inspecting my girl's cellphone. Why? First is trust. If she's never cheated on me, why would I suspect that she's cheating on me now? Second is privacy. I think inspecting someone's cellphone is way too much an invasion of privacy. Third reason is that it's useless. If someone really wants to cheat, it's very easy to hide. Inspecting the cellphone won't really help much anyway.