She did it again!

@jillhill (37354)
United States
November 24, 2007 8:37pm CST
My two year old granddaughter stays with me occasionally. When she sleeps here...she sleep through the night. When she is at home with her mom and dad...she is up several times during the night. They asked me what we do for a routine and I told them. They have tried to follow that routine....first I make sure she has a snack...like a yogurt or orange or peanut butter sandwich...then I make sure her overnight diaper is on....read her a book and tuck her in. She even sleeps late here....I don't know why she sleeps all night here but they are struggling with trying to get her to sleep all night. Any suggestions beyond what I do? I don't quite understand it.
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14 responses
• United States
25 Nov 07
Is it the same type of bed?What color is the room?I am not a baby expert, far,far from it but I have heard that the color yellow isn't a good color for baby's room, it is too bright.and it could be the type of bed she has at home.I also heard that the smell of lavender helps put baby to sleep.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Nov 07
Wow.....her room at home is yellow.....here her room is white and purple. Her mom has even tried switching her bed at home so it's in the same direction as the one she sleeps in here....We might have to try the lavender....thanks for all the suggestions and advice!
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• United States
25 Nov 07
I am glad I could help.I wish you luck. Keep us posted.
• Australia
25 Nov 07
Maybe she likes the bed you have for her. Perhaps you could swap them! lol. Kids are funny! Are you sure there isn't anything else going on at her home? Maybe there have been arguements she has heard. I don't know! Mine have there good and bad nights.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Nov 07
That would be a good question. One of my friends said that when she is here there is peace and quiet and I am her soft place to fall....from daycare etc.....and she does get my full attention...but I don't know what that has to do with sleeping all night. Maybe she is just so relaxed she doesn't wake up!
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• Australia
26 Nov 07
If she feels safe at your place, then of course she will sleep better. Though, someone should tell that to my 18month old! She likes snuggling up with daddy on the couch! lol. Yay, I get the bed to myself! lol.
@AmbiePam (85432)
• United States
25 Nov 07
She may look at your place as a 'vacation.' She gets maybe a little more attention, so she's more relaxed, and therefore she sleeps easier and longer. My sister and I did that when we would stay with our grandparents. My mom couldn't understand it. But we just thought grandparents were so awesome we completely relaxed, no matter how hard we tried to stay up. Even at an early age.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Nov 07
Wow....thanks for the input! I appreciate it!
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@AmbiePam (85432)
• United States
25 Nov 07
You're welcome. I don't know if explained it well or not. : ) Talking about this made think back about how much I anticipated seeing my grandparents. I think I'm going to call them today from my mom's. I don't have long distance, and she has unlimited, so I won't be a total mooch. : )
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
26 Nov 07
I would play little games, maybe even take her for a little walk to tire her out. Give her a warm bath and some warm milk. It will knock her clean out, til morning.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
26 Nov 07
I'll give that as a suggestion to her folks...maybe that will help! Thanks!
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
25 Nov 07
It may simply be the routine. I know when my Nephew stays over we have a simple routine that we follow and he never has any problems here. At home, his Dad (my oldest brother) has a heck of a time dealing with him and his sister. MERRY CHRISTMAS!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Nov 07
Isn't it something? Trying to figure out how a two year old can be so different in two different places?
@ptrnow (57)
• Canada
25 Nov 07
When I was younger I would often sleep comfortably oin bed in my grandparents homes and I would sleep well. I think a big part of what s going on may be just a comfort level, the vibes in the environment, the noise in the home. She may feel as though it is no bother to sleep there, and she may just like having you there to take care of her. Kids are amazingly smart on their own. Why not ask her? Maybe one night, when she is sleeping over, have her parents over for dinner and to stay while she falls asleep. This way they may notice the differences in your home compared to theirs. Maybe it's just warmer? Who knows? I would ask, and then the observation idea. Good luck! r.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
26 Nov 07
She is my buddy...and maybe that's a good idea...to see how she reacts when I put her to bed when they are still here.....thanks!
@mansha (6298)
• India
25 Nov 07
my sixteen month daughter has started doing this sincew a week back. She had started sleeping through the night very easily but suddenly she gets up in the night looking for me and if I hold her hand she goes back to sleep. Its as if she suddenly wants me to be around her. May be she is getting insecure as she is growing up. I don't actually know.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Nov 07
She used to sleep through the night until she got earaches all the time....since then she hasn't done it at home. Just here...go figure.
@Mamaof2 (574)
• Canada
25 Nov 07
My son does the exact same thing. Here we have some good nights but more so than often we have very bad nights. Sometimes he gets up as much as 7 times a night...average being about 3. I sent him to my mothers one night and was worrie the whole time! I didnt want her to have to get up all night with him as I knew how he slept here. I awaited until it was about 9am in the morning...hoping that I wouldnt wake them as I just assumed that they had been up all night. She had put him to bed at 8pm at night...no problem...put his music on and he was sleeping within 10 minutes. He woke up ONE TIME, she put his music back on and he was lights out till about 8am that morning. Crazy...why cant he just do that here..lol. I dont understand it either so I really dont have any suggestions for you to pass on to the parents. You have already done and recomended what I would do as well. Rountine, snack, story ect. Somethings in life we will never understand..lol
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Nov 07
Wow....sounds like the same thing for so many little ones. I hope for them that soon she will sleep in her bed all night. My daughter in law even has turned her bed in the same direction as the one she sleeps in here....they are trying everything!
@lillake (1630)
• United States
25 Nov 07
My oldest son is the same way, as are my neices. Like others mentioned its that they feel more relaxed at grandma's house. It's like a mini vacation. No siblings bothering them, a little more freedom and attention, and grandmas always seem to be more relaxed about things that moms tend to get upset over. LOL
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Nov 07
I do think that is part of it too....... she is an only child though but when she is here it's just her and I. And she basically gets to do almost anything. She is anxious to go home though the next day.....I just don't know.
• United States
25 Nov 07
I wish my kid was half as good at my house as he is with his grandmothers homes. Hes an honest little rotten head when at home and an angel at the grandparents. Kids know they can push their parents. They know their limits and will push them. Thy also know going somewhere else is a reward and they want it to happen as often as possible. Being good means they get rewarded. Its kinda logical. But it dosent make it any easier for us moms to get our whiney snotty kids back at the end of a weekend and hear how wonderful they are.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Nov 07
Ali is a good girl and anxious to get back home the next day. I just think part of it is their routine or interaction. She has slept all night here from the first night she stayed and now she sleeps all night everytime she stays.
• Kottayam, India
25 Nov 07
keep her with you.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Nov 07
Don't tempt me! She is good company! LOL
@aaidjs (1149)
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
25 Nov 07
Hello Dear!!From my experience with children I only can say that you need routine with them!!If you change your routine children became so anxiety and they don't want sleep!!Very good method is little snack and nice warm bath before bed time!I usu to read a nice book or I like to sing a song!On first place it is the rule that children have to go in bed in same time every day!See you and Regards Silvana
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Nov 07
That is possible........routine and I don't know what they do at their house but we have the same routine everytime she is here....
@violeta_va (4831)
• Australia
25 Nov 07
I want to know the answer to this as well. My 4 year old does the same as well. Not so much as waking up but playing up. I know that one of his problems is that he wants to sleep with someone so he can play with their ears but after 4 years I have had enough of this my ears are permanently red and sore. My mother lets him so he falls asleep in 10 min. We have a rutine he eats than about 1 hour later he puts his pj's on than we read few books than he has a cup of milk and brush his teeth and than he plays up. The time is going down it used to be 2 hours now we are down to about 30-40 min. Also we have a huge issue with eating he is so picky at home but at my parents he eats everything. I dont let him get away with that (as in give him other things) but he still does that.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Nov 07
She also eats good here.....one night before bed she actually ate five small bowls of ceral...like she couldn't get enough. At home I think they rush her through eating...and she doesn't eat enough. Yesterday for lunch here she ate 5 chicken nuggets.....and some macaroni and cheese....and orange and part of a yogurt. At home she barely eats anything. It's hard to figure her out!
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
25 Nov 07
My 19 month old is the exact same way. She is fine at my mother's house, but when she is at home it takes an act of congress to get her to even go to sleep much less stay asleep all night. The thing is...she knows what buttons to push while she is at home with mommy and daddy and she knows what they will do if she gets up or if she wants something. When she is at home they need to stay consistent with your routine if that's what works and not give in to her. It may take a few days or maybe even a few weeks, but eventually your granddaughter will figure out when it is time to sleep and when it's time to be up. Good luck and God bless
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
25 Nov 07
THanks for the input. I think you are right. They are smart enough to know that mommy will come rushing in with the least little whine.... The first night she did it I was up all night waiting for her to wake up....she comes in my bedroom the next morning after sleeping 10 hours and says....I took a big nap didn't I grandma......she knew she had slept all night and has done it ever since.....they are strange little creatures!