how to say you are not in the "mood" to your partner?

U r right its only pleasureable when both are ready i think its not that difficult when u r married so dont need to ask it, its body language that tells all so i dont think so other partner mind if one is not ready and they know they will get it sooner or later and they might have other alternative to satisfy each other take care

my hubby always ask permission, asking if its okay. if i am not in the mood i just say not today dad. and he understands.

i will tell him directly that "i m sorry sweety, tonight i m so tired and just wanna sleeping. maybe after few hours, you can wake me up who knows that my tired already gone" or if my husband really in his deepest passion, i will said to him "my dear, i m so tired but if you really want, you may come to me but please dont be offense if there is no response from my side" and guess what, now he is okay if i feel so much tired and wont bother me. you know dear, communication is really important thing to make your relation getting great :)

Sometimes I don't say it so as not to hurt my husband. Sometimes, I tell him when I am tired or just not in the mood. My husband tells me too (now I don't know if he sometimes pretends like I do)...but most of the time if he is stressed and not in the mood, he just tells me openly. Then we just snuggle and go to sleep.

I just say straight out that I am too tired. That would be my only genuine excuse.

I think in such a situation it is better to tell the exact reasons rather to make lame excuses. It is possible that mood of one of the partners may not be alright sometimes, due to one reasons or another and if either of the partner is not in a 'mood', then I think the other one should not compel him/her.

I think that both people should want it at the same time and should never fake it. Just tell the partner that you are not feeling up to it at that time. Tell him up will make every effort to make it up to him on such and such date and do your best to keep your word.

I dont want to be liar,I tell him that im not in Goodmood so that he will know and he make things that make me happy.But in my case he already know If Im in the bad mood,If I dont smile and it see to my action,I thank God because my Husband is very understanding.

Hello Dear!!I am in marriage for 32 years and my hubby know me better that I know myself!!He just can feel my "mood"!!I haven't that kind of problems!!You are right about place,time and mood!!I don't know if It is rude to be so open here but I love make love with my hubby and I cant remember when I was in bed "mood" for that!See you and Regards Silvana

Just tell her/him that u can not do it, cuz your not in the mood and that thing will not have a good outcome

since marriage is all about love nad understanding each other.My partner himself can know whether i am in a mood or not by otuching me only.So frankly speaking i never had to say this to him.love making is just a part of married life so he really understands it and never gets disappointed on this.both the person should be in the mood to do it.

I guess a simple gesture may let him know..