Boyfriend

United States
November 25, 2007 11:14am CST
hi I have a wonderful relationship with my boyfriend & we both love eachother alot but the thing that bothers me is his mother .She is extremely bossy & all the time she is talking bad about me ,she will make fun of each & everything realted to me . Really dont know wat to do ,try realy hard to win her heart but stil i guess nothing seems to work
2 responses
@gerald_lian (2191)
• Australia
25 Nov 07
Based on what I've read in many discussions on mylot, there are many people who have "monstrous" mother-in-laws, and in your case even though he is just your boyfriend and both of you are not married, his mother is just like that. What I think you should do is just try to concentrate on your relationship with your boyfriend and ignore his mother in everything that she does or say about you. I know that my statement is easier said than done, just try doing that for a start. If you still can't, try to talk things out with her and ask her why is she doing that to you. That may sound a little harsh but if possible, talk in a polite and gentle way. Hope these tips help and I sincerely hope that you get along well with your boyfriend's mum.
• United States
25 Nov 07
i really appreciate ur suggestions but the issue is that if i'll talk to her to straighten things that will affect my relationship with my boyfrd coz he beleives that no matter wat his mother do that is not suppossed to b questioned by me !!!! he fights with his mother alot on small trivial issues but would not let me say a single word even in my defense
• Australia
25 Nov 07
Well, in that case I think it's better for you to just accept your boyfriend's mum for who she is so as to keep your relationship with your boyfriend a steady one. If you find that hard to do, then I think you'll have to make sacrifices. All the best!
• United States
25 Nov 07
With many women, no girl is good enough for their little boy or no man is good enough for their little girl. All in-laws or parents of boyfriends to some extent are going to give significant others of their children the third degree. If she is kind to other people in her life, then I would take it as her insecurity. And also if he hasn't had a serious girlfriend before or has had girlfriends but none for so long, it may be taking him away from family time and she may be uncomfortable with the change. For some this won't change until they see that you really truly do love their son and would stick by him and it isn't just infatuation. For some it ends when/if you get married. And for some, there are always going to be small ways where she is going to point out things because that is what mothers do.