Boyfriend

Based on what I've read in many discussions on mylot, there are many people who have "monstrous" mother-in-laws, and in your case even though he is just your boyfriend and both of you are not married, his mother is just like that. What I think you should do is just try to concentrate on your relationship with your boyfriend and ignore his mother in everything that she does or say about you. I know that my statement is easier said than done, just try doing that for a start. If you still can't, try to talk things out with her and ask her why is she doing that to you. That may sound a little harsh but if possible, talk in a polite and gentle way. Hope these tips help and I sincerely hope that you get along well with your boyfriend's mum.

With many women, no girl is good enough for their little boy or no man is good enough for their little girl. All in-laws or parents of boyfriends to some extent are going to give significant others of their children the third degree. If she is kind to other people in her life, then I would take it as her insecurity. And also if he hasn't had a serious girlfriend before or has had girlfriends but none for so long, it may be taking him away from family time and she may be uncomfortable with the change. For some this won't change until they see that you really truly do love their son and would stick by him and it isn't just infatuation. For some it ends when/if you get married. And for some, there are always going to be small ways where she is going to point out things because that is what mothers do.