Anger, It does not always have to be bad

United States
November 25, 2007 11:26am CST
I continue to hear people state how we must learn to control our anger and pro porting that it can never be good. However I am starting to think that what they are trying to push is repressing it. Which then in my opinion is a problem. Anger can be the very fuel that drives towards the things that we want the trick however is what I would call controlled rage. For myself it is often anger that has driven me to rise to a challenge that otherwise I may have not accepted. So in a nutshell I guess what I am asking here is weather others feel this way or do you think that I am totally off base?????
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• United States
7 Dec 07
I'm sure Jesus felt anger when he drove the money changers out of the temple. And anger in itself isn't a bad thing, it's when anger causes you to hurt someone else or you turn it inward and hurt yourself that it's bad. We have to control anger the same as we control fire. If left to go out of control it can cause a lot of harm. Anger needs to be redirected to do good. I'm angry about a lot of things going on in the world, but if I take it out in the wrong place or basically "show my behind", I could get put in jail or cause someone else to hurt me. Instead I direct the anger toward making videos about what I'm angry about or write articles, or draw a picture. I can express it in a lot of ways that aren't harmful. That's what people mean by controlling anger. You can be angry but don't let your anger cause you to do something you'll regret.
• United States
26 Nov 07
Hi Impervious, I can totally understand where your coming from with this! So no I dont think our off base. I also have used anger to drive me beyond a point in my life, it can be a good thing when you look at it this way. When I think of controlling anger is under circumstances such as cussing someone out while in line at the grocery store, happened to me the other day actually, or getting road rage easily because someone is driving too slow. Not all situations should turn into a shouting match or people going off the wall. To me thats anger! lol I dont think you should keep things pent up either, but you can most certainly express anger without yelling, throwing, hitting or things of that sort. So your right, not all anger is bad or damaging. Bay Lay Gray xx
@max1950 (2306)
• United States
26 Nov 07
gus,the only thing that get's me angry now adays are stupid lazy people that don't take pride in their work and sales people that think you owe them something,if you don't like your job leave.i don't get angry anymore except for these idiots "now i'm angry just thinkin about them" :). but i've become kinda laid back in the last few years and don't let most things bother me,if i get up catch a fish or 2 why would i let someone wreck the rest of my day, it's just not worth it.hey i take a walk on the beach when up north i could walk through the woods for hours just enjoying the surroundings and nature and that always !!!!!! made my day.i've also found that if you go after something half cocked it wasn't ment to be.the way jobs are today especially in the construction makket if a home dosen't get built their are plumbers,elect,masons,landscapers,painters etc just for that 1 home are out of work these days andi know for myself if i don't have anything to do i go stir crazy,times are tuff but but we just can't let it get to us
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
25 Nov 07
There is righteous anger when you see something that is wrong or needs fixing, or someone doing something evil and you want to stop it. I would give the example of someone driving the car and he seems steady but when you smell his bread, he has had something to drink, and on top of that, he is a loud mouth. Talking nice to him would not do it, so you yell, "stop the car and give me the keys, this instant!" So it depends on whether your anger leads to something constructive or whether you are like a child who did not get his own way.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
26 Nov 07
I think it's very important to 'control' our anger - not saying we shouldn't ever be angry but how we respond or let that anger come out is very very important... by the way, nice to see you stranger - it's been crazy around here - p.s. my father and 2 ex-husbands were abusive and that abuse came out when they didn't control their anger - control it and use that energy for good not bad is what I'm saying.
@raychill (6525)
• United States
26 Nov 07
I agree with you. I think that actually the more you don't let your anger out in some way shape or form the worse it is for you because you have all this bottled up anger. It could come out badly to someone who doesn't deserve it. Granted it's not good to just hurt some one due to anger (words or physical hurt) but it's alright to use your anger for good. I totally agree.
@schummi (924)
• India
25 Nov 07
ya i think everything needs to be in control and however you make everything while we make a lot of sense to the people when we are angry (i mean reallly angry)////...especially at the work where da work has to be done...
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
25 Nov 07
I don't think so. Anger can be a powerful driving force as long as you are able to control it. Where alot of ppl run into problems is that they aren't able to control it and they wind up in trouble. MERRY CHRISTMAS!! **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~