Do you think it's rude when someone doesn't RSVP?

I always find some way to let the person know whether or not I am coming, but what really makes me mad is when they don't RSVP and show up anyways, that is Double Rude...

Yes, it is very rude not to RSVP! The RSVP is for a reason. It takes a minute of time to respond either way. The person took the time and cared enough about you to send an invite.

i always RSVP when i am invited if i am going to come... i know how it feels for the host if i don't RSVP and just appear suddenly on the day... the host might not prepare enough food, drinks, gifts or anything that they have to prepare in advance... i don't like it when people don't RSVP when i invite them as well... so i always RSVP or else i won't come...

Yes, I do RSVP any events that I plan to attend and if I change my mind or something comes up, I do try to give some kind of notice. It is rude. Personally, I hardly ever get RSVP back when I send invitations! It's so hard to plan anything because more people always show than planned according to the RSVP.

Honestly I do think its kinda rude if you don't RSVP because like you said people do want to know whos coming an who they might bring. I know if I was planning a party I would definately want to know whos coming so i don't have enough food an look like an idiot. So I would definately appreciate it if people would please RSVP

I have always been taught that RSVPing to an invitation is only appropriate. If someone has gone out of their way to send an invitation then it is a persons responsibility to RSVP in turn. Typically a head count is needed and food is being served in which case it is important to know how many people are going to attend. If a person does not RSVP but shows up to the event then the hostess will be stressed because his or her event might be a flop. I would absolutely always RSVP to an event but sometimes I forget or it gets buried in a number of other papers and I don't RSVP in time. In this situation I would call the host anyways just to give them a heads up so they are not caught off guard when you show up.

Yes I think it is unthinking of the people, if someone has gone to the trouble to invite I think the least they can do is reply one way or the other as you say the numbers matter for many different reasons, but then a lot of people don't send thank you's anymore when presents or money is sent to them, they just take everything for granted...sad really.

not only is it rude, but it is extremely necessary! We recently had a son get married, and realized jusst how mamy people don't.. they just think you know that they are coming, when in fact, if they don't rsvp, they don't get to come! its bad enough when they say they are coming, and don't,, but to not rsvp is just plain rude!!!

I have to say, of all the RSVP invitations, I only did not return the RSVP twice. Both of those times I did not attend the event. But their were two reasons, both very different. One is that I never got the RSVP the person said they sent. After the activity had occurred they called to ask why I didn't come. Well, I never got it. The second time I didn't RSVP, I plain forgot. My mom was sick and I was in a whole different world. I felt bad about that one. But in general, I say it is rude. If we don't know right away if we can attend, we should put the invitation in a visible place so we don't forget to reply.

I think it is kinda inconsiderate, to not let you know! Me, I always return the information, because I want them to know exactly who is going to be there, so there won't be no surprises! I think people have just gotten out of the practice of formalities that are required!

I've just recently gotten in the habit of RSVP'ng, since i've had to plan a particular event and realized the RSVP's are a HUGE deal to the planner of the event. Now that I know how important it is, I hate it when people don't rsvp and then just show up. I do think it's rude.

It is the right thing to do but usually when I send an invite I alwate put please r.s.v.p. if attending. If someone is planning on coming top your event, party, etc they usually have no problem with rs.v.p.ing If you think about if the people who usually don;t r.s.v.p. are the ones who don;t show up anyway. SO I don;t need to worry bout them asnyway if they aren't coming./