The thing about Christmas and other holidays!

@raydene (9871)
United States
November 26, 2007 6:42am CST
While answering a discission that was started by one of my friends I realized that we all have a different idea of a holiday. I know that Christmas can be hard on the single mom that scrapes by and now has to figure out to get some presents for her kids so they won't be hurt seeing other kids with all their new stuff! Those that are alone are lonly X 100 on holidays. More deaths due to heart attacks and suicide occur on holidays..so for some it's only a remimder that that was the time when a loved one passed.. I am not exactly looking forward to Christmas this year either... Since last christmas I lost my sister Joanie due to kidney failure and my marriage has broken apart, I am having to sell 3 of my beloved horses.My 17 year old daughter sleeps at my older daughter's house because she hates to be here because it just reminds her of what her dad has done and that we are not both living here... I hate that I let her because I don't have the strength to deal with it all and still get out of bed each day... That day will be another day to remind me of how different the journey I walk has become.. I will miss my husband even more..Sure wish love came with a turn off switch! I dislike seeing the useless junk in the carts at Walmart knowing that they will be crowding the landfil by Arpil Fool's Day I hate waste and think it should be against the law as long as one being on this earth goes without! I can not help feeling sad for the starving when I am swollowing a mouthful of turkey,stuffing,and mashed potatoes... How they would love to have even one tenth of my holiday meal! So those of you that love the holidays save a bit of that spirit to share with someone lonely... Or buy an extra turkey and leave it in a box on where someone that is having a tough time will get it.. Hold someones hand that is in pain! Let this holiday truely be a holiday of giving! Love to all this Holiday Season xoxoxoxoxo
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@jennyp08 (68)
• United States
27 Nov 07
Yes, the holiday can be the most joyful yet most painful time of the year! I love the holidays because I love being with my families. I too have ran into alot of harshship in the past with the holiday and not being able to give to my children what I really want and seeing how everyone shops like it's next to nothing for each other while I was trying to save every penny to pay my bills. But that was when my sister, my baby sister, came through and gave my kids the best holiday she can and she too gave me and my husband alittle to help us on our way. I thank her each and everyday for loving me and my family the way she did. I always thank god for letting me suffer but yet let me learn from my mistakes and help me grow stronger!
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
26 Nov 07
That was very touching my friend and I know just what hurts you have been through this year and I know Christmas must come as a dose of salt and yet you can still reach out to those that are less fortunate. I think Christmas brings to light just where we are in life and we realize just how painful things are when you see families around celebrating and coming together, when you are on your own or in poverty Christmas is a struggle. Commercialization and greed has put Christmas into a different perspective and the onus is on giving and getting new latest gadget and toy, not for the needy or the old. Gone are the days when Christmas was straight from Dicken's Christmas Carol, although scrooge is the council or the government!
@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
26 Nov 07
Raydene, you discussion touched my heart immensely, and you are so right in everything you had to say. Alas, Christmas can have the effect of making lonely people feel even more lonely, and single parents feel the financial burden even more, trying to buy presents for their kids so they won't feel left out. My 87 year old mother is in a nursing home in the UK (I live in Australia), so I won't get to see her or my brothers; my daughter and her children live in Florida, so I won't get to see them either. Christmastime always seems to heighten our feelings, because we want to be with our loved ones at this time. However, this is a time for GIVING, so let's all do what we can for those less fortunate - even if it only means spending some precious time with someone who will be on their own, make a phone call to someone, or better yet - invite them to your Christmas meal. Your discussion will have got many minds going raydene, so let's put our thoughts into action. Thank for bringing it up hon. Take care my friend. x