What do you think of men and women who never had an intimate relationship?
By majablanca
@majablanca (66)
Philippines
November 26, 2007 8:03am CST
I just got back from a dinner date with my high school friends, and I just learned that my friend (she is already 30 years old) has never had a boyfriend! She's a certified NBSB (No Boyfriend Since Birth). Do you think something is wrong with her in establishing close, intimate relationships with people? Is it a serious cause for concern of some problems she has to work out in herself? Or, to put it a step further, What do you think of people who are still Virgins in their 30s, 40s or 50s, for that matter (priests, nuns and people celibate by choice are not counted, of course)? What do you think?
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5 responses
@moodus (118)
• United States
28 Nov 07
Have you ever considered the fact that this woman might be gay and afraid to say anything?Or, it could be that she's not interested in involving herself with anyone, too busy, too shy, low self esteem, afraid..LOTS of reasons could be a factor..If it were me, I would try and reconnect with this old school mate, get to know them a bit and maybe just ask in some non chalant way?
@majablanca (66)
• Philippines
13 Jan 08
i see your point. basically what you're saying is that people who avoid getting into relationships have their own personal issues/demons which they need to resolve on their own first. other wise, if they would end up being alone.
@tryxiness (4544)
• Philippines
26 Nov 07
I guess, it has to do with their choices. I mean, it also has to do with the set of standards they have set. :)
@AJ1952Chats (2332)
• Anderson, Indiana
28 Nov 07
While I can't imagine never having a boyfriend in your entire life, I can go along with the virgin part.
I'm saving myself for my future husband--and, while I never realized that I would be saving myself for as long as I have, I'm glad that I have.
There's no set age for when the time is right for getting married--the only thing that matters is that you love someone and that person loves you back enough to want to get married.
My personal standards are that the vows get said first, and, after that, leaving my virginity behind with joy.
I'm in no big hurry for this to happen (as in being desperate), but I'm still very much looking forward to it!
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
26 Nov 07
I think everyone's lives are different. I don't think there is any one pattern a life can take, or any specific time frame in which things should happen. Maybe she hasn't been ready for a relationship. Or maybe she's been waiting for a fairy tale: a prince to come whisk her away. Whatever her reasons are, if she's pursuing her own dreams and living in ways that make her happy, I don't see why it's a big deal.
I know some people who choose not to date because they'd rather live their lives their own way without having to consider a partner. I know others who are too shy, too picky, too socially challenged, etc. Some of them are very unhappy because they don't have partners, but many others that I know are happy with their lives as they are.
@banban86 (6)
• Philippines
28 Nov 07
i have no idea if she really has problems in building intimate relationships..but this is what i think..maybe she's matured in an environment who treats her as the friend, or the baby of the family or the bread winner of the family..and maybe she's the picky type that she ends up with no one..or maybe her priority is her career that she doesnt even think of relationships anymore..or she is the superior type that mostly guys get intimidated..i dunnoo..that's just what i think..hehe
