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What are the qualities of a perfect relationship, in your opinion?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
November 26, 2007 7:42pm CST
I wish that my spouse weren't so argumentative. He loves to debate everything, especially if he's really tired or stressed. If I think something is a certain way, he will take the opposite view point and start a debate. And, he jumps to conclusions that end up making me look like an idiot. I guess everyone acts weird, when they are tired.
We would have a perfect relationship if he didn't love to debate so much. It leads to lots of arguments. So, I'd have to say that one of the ideal qualities in a relationship would be a partner that didn't look for ways to argue. What would be the qualities of your ideal partner or relationship?
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@gorgeousdreamer (1034)
• Philippines
27 Nov 07
For me, the qualities of a perfect relationship are:
1. Having a communication with each other;
2. Give and take relationship;
3. Faithful;
4. Honesty;
5. Understanding;
6. Being sensitive with each others feelings;
7. Making each day a special day for each other; and most of all;
8. Making each other feel that they are very special to each other.
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
27 Nov 07
I would also add friendship to this list.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@kurtbiewald (2625)
• United States
28 Nov 07
maybe the best is to have a 90% imaginary one
ten you can just turn it off if you get mad
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
27 Nov 07
I will say communication is the most important factor in a good relationship. We need to be able to talk things through as well
as talk about our feelings in bad times to make the relationship
work to it's fullest. Many other attributes work into play mostly
being a good listener as well.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@melissacus (441)
• United States
27 Nov 07
Well, of course the idea of a perfect relationship is unattainable. No 2 people are perfect for one another. I think the thing you need above all else to make a relationship work is honesty. It shows your devotion and loyalty to your partner, which are two other qualities that are important. Love, of course. There can't be happiness without love. Passion. It's what keeps the fire going. It's what keeps things interesting and keeps two people from getting bored with each other. A sense of humor. If you're always taking things too seriously you'll always be stressed and you'll miss all the fun, funny moments you can spend with each other.
Relationships are about learning and growing. If that's not happening, there's no relationship.
Ha...I think I can relate to your husband, I also have the tendancy to just go with the opposing side just to argue. Perhaps one day he'll grow out of it. :)
@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
28 Nov 07
I personally don't belive in the "perfect" relationship. Having little arugments and fights are part of building a relationship. Although its funny my fiance and i rarely ever fight. We have never had a big blow out. Some say that its bad, but we just seem to be able to work things out without all the screaming and bickering. I think when people are tired they tend to take things out of context.
@reanicah2007 (444)
• Philippines
28 Nov 07
for me the qualities of a perfect relationship are.....honest ,loyal, respect and always listening to each other's opinion.So that you can understand what he want and he can understand what you want.give a chance to each other to know more about you, and the same to him.
@dutchess67 (917)
• United States
27 Nov 07
Perfect relationships do not exist. We, as human beings, are all flawed. Relationships are about give and take and compromising from time to time, or on a daily basis, depending on the people involved.
No two people are going to get along and NEVER argue or disagree. If they do, then there's some stepford crap going on!
And to answer your question, my ideal partner would be so trustworthy that they were absolutely above reproach. I am in a relationship that I am happy with, for the most part. There are a few trust issues that we're working on, but I love him enough to stick it out with him and try to learn to trust him again.
I don't believe in disposable relationships. I think divorce is far to easily attained in today's world and that marriage is entered into by many people knowing fully well that it will end in divorce. You have to be willing to fight for your relationship and the person you love. If you aren't, why bother?
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
27 Nov 07
since nobody is perfect then there is no such a thing as perfect relationship. I'm happy with what I have now, we've learned a lot about each other during the years of our marriage. I do wish he would stop smoking, since we are getting older and I want him to start paying attention to his health now because it worries me. But other than that I don't have a problem with him.
@nkhanna (922)
• India
27 Nov 07
well i think there is nothing like a perfect relation in this world.if you really feel that your partner's argument makes you feel like an idiot,then my suggestion to you is that you try to keep mum.if you make this a practise for sometimes then i am sure one day your partner will himself ask you for your suggestions and then he will definately think aobut it.you know that he tired so avoid doing it since it can only act as a lighter in the petrol.talk on topics which do not require arguements.
i think the best quality for a perfect relation is to try to understand each other by getting into each other shoes.respecting each other;s emotions in also very much required.and the last but not the least is to never allow one's ego to come in between each other.
@lostdoor (26)
• China
27 Nov 07
arguments in valentines is common i think, but if it happens more often than expected you should treat it serious then. because too much arguments will hurt your feelings in someother ways which usually aren't obviously, when you are aware that it is too late. so i suggest that if the condition is going to turn bad one of you must stop to discuss anymore before still with control.
@MommyAida (5)
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27 Nov 07
i do really love to argue but everytime i do that, i pretty make sure that after that argument., both of us understands everything., even small thing that we talk about. argue doesnt specifically mean ur fighting.. its just the fact that the both of you doesnt understand each other and you need to explain what you wanna say. and explain everything.. of course., there's no such perfect relationship., its just that you need to be happy and contented on what you have got.. remember that some people still wants to be on your place.. even on that situati0n..:D












