Do you like spending money on yourself?

United States
November 27, 2007 4:40am CST
Sometimes I feel very guilty even spending one dollar on myself. I don't know when I last had my hair dye done or a nice hair trim. And, forget about a manicure or pedicure. Sometimes I feel guilty just buying nail polish, as if I'm taking away money from the family. What's a beauty queen to do? A woman shouldn't have to live without the basics of life, like nail polish and hair dye. My spouse constantly encourages me to spend money on things that I want. Whenever I see a good deal on makeup online and show it to him, he practically hands me the credit card. But, I can't bring myself to spend money. I wasn't always this way. Before I had a baby, I spent tons of money on beauty care products and clothing and just anything I wanted. Not so anymore. I wish that I could go back to the old way of feeling self indulgent. I'm not so happy with the new frugal me. Do you ever feel guilty when you spend money on yourself? Do things ever change?
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41 responses
• United States
27 Nov 07
No I dont feel guilty about spending money on myself. I dont always get to put myself first but I make sure that I have what I need. I am a makeup girl and so it is a priority that I have those items. I just know how I feel when I dont and I dont like feeling "blue". So I just do what I need to do to make sure everyone gets what they need. I try to be sensible when it comes to money, sales, ect. :)
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• United States
28 Nov 07
I was a makeup girl for years, until my skin began to break out. Now I use mineral makeup whenever I can. And, I love it. It lasts so long. But, I rarely buy it. It's my number one indulgence. That and lotions and scents. I love those too. I love clearance sales too. It's nice when you can get your favorite stuff for less than full price, don't you think?
@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
27 Nov 07
I must admit that I can't really spend much for myself. Now that I have a family to work for, I even forget myself sometimes because I usually prioritize the needs of my other family members. This is really usual for people who want the best for their family.
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@williamjisir (22900)
• China
27 Nov 07
Hello beauty queen. I love to spend money on myself and my family as well. If I go out somewhere, I would always like to buy something for them, most of which are garments to them as gifts.
• United States
28 Nov 07
Yes, most of my indulgences and money are spent on my child and family as well. My little girl asks for presents and gifts daily and I cannot turn her down. She is always so impressed at the tiniest gift and so appreciative. What loving parent could say no to that? Be well and thanks for dropping by to join the conversation.
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• China
15 Jun 08
Hello dear beauty queen. Thank you very much for the BR as always. Have fun.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
17 Dec 07
Like? Well.. yes .. I do. But do I do it? Not really LOL LIke you there are many things that have stayed behind. Proper hair cut.. oh manicure and pedicure..... ages!!!! MY husband also encourages me to spend some more money on myself but I can't do it while there are so many things that are needed and while we have so many bills behind. I think that sometimes maybe I overdo it. After all I might not get my haircut and then I will get my daughter to go and have her hair done for that school concert or the special party... Lately I have been trying to think a bit more about myself, but it's not coming out too good because them I feel guilty that I spent the money on myself LOL But it's a start:)
@zichen3 (134)
• China
13 Dec 07
If I made money by myself and made lots of them. I don't feel guity when I use the money on myself. But the money from my parrents, I use some on myself, I feel so guilty and asham. My parrents check my bank account, and said to me 'you are too frugal'. I told them, I don't know, I don't know what is bought! They laughed at me.
@larskie23 (867)
• Philippines
30 Nov 07
well, im still single but i should share on the expenses at our home, so cant spend much on myself too. but when i needed something, have to keep money sometimes so in case of emergency i can still pull something out.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
30 Nov 07
i value your words. But in my case i can say its mix baggae. Sometimes i don't like to spend money on myself like pedicure, hair cut etc. But I indulge in lot of spending while buying clothes. i have weakness for them. Stil i feel a bit guilty.
@breepeace (3024)
• Canada
30 Nov 07
I do if there's a special occasion like a birthday, anniversary or Christmas coming up, because I worry sometimes that I won't have enough to get the gifts that everyone deserves. Just the other day I was in the mall and saw a shirt that I fell in love with, it was me to a T. I didn't buy it though, because I knew I wouldn't be able to enjoy it or share my great buy with my friends and family worrying that in a month or so they'd wonder why 'she bought that great shirt for herself, and I only got a cheap ___ for Christmas'. Not that I think most of my family would be like that, but I have a few friends that would be pissed off that I got something nice for myself and only got them a box of chocolates. After Christmas though, I'm home-free until April! :)
@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
29 Nov 07
well sometimes i do. i buy things for everyone else but seldom for myself, but i think most mothers are like this. like you said, before kids it is easy, after, not so much!
@bowtieguy (5924)
• United States
29 Nov 07
Arond the hollidays I feel guilty spending any money on meself, I like to go all out on my family but any other time of the year I have no problem splurging a little sometimes a lot lol.
28 Nov 07
I can't really afford to spend much money on myself these days so it was a lovely treat for me to get my hair done last week. I was given the money as a birthday present with orders to get my hair done and spend it on myself and I really am glad I did.
@dpk262006 (56760)
• Delhi, India
28 Nov 07
When there is no need, I love to spend on myself. If I require new clothing or new shoes, I spend the money accordingly. On my personal make up etc., I do not feel like spending much.
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
28 Nov 07
well my friend i use to love and spend money on myself all the time and i never felt guilty until now because i have my family and i rather spend the money on things that they need which are more important to me, but if i do get to splurge on myself now i do enjoy it though only if we have it.
@gloria777 (1678)
• India
28 Nov 07
I am very careful in spending money on myself. I freely spend money for my wife and children, but whenever I try to spend on myself I am taken aback.
@pinay81 (1538)
• Philippines
28 Nov 07
for me yeah i like it but i dont feel guilty because since when i started working all my salary goes to my family so i think its not bad if sometimes i used the money i earned for myself and give myself a little treat like shopping, parlor and massage parlor:-)
@sacmom (14250)
• United States
28 Nov 07
Oh I hate spending money on myself! I've never really cared to spend money on myself, even when I was younger. I have always felt guilty if it was other than for necessities such as food and shelter. Would you believe I felt guilty for buying the bathing suit that I'm wearing in my avatar? It cost a whole $13.00 plus tax at Wal-Mart. But my husband insisted that I buy a bathing suit this past summer so I bought one of the cheapest I could find. And don't get me started with dying hair. I haven't starting dying my hair yet. I'm trying to hold off on buying any dye for as long as I can (even though I have several gray hairs on my head :P) as I don't want to bother with the expense. My husband trims/cuts my hair. I don't wear makeup, nor have I ever gotten a manicure or pedicure. I haven't worn nail polish in ages and when I did I bought the 'wet 'n wild' brand for 99 cents and used it sparingly. I have a jacket my mom bought for me when I was in junior high. I just don't have the heart to get rid of it as it was rather expensive. It's still in pretty good shape for being 20 years old! Yep, as you can probably see, I hate spending money on myself.
@nkhanna (925)
• India
28 Nov 07
hi beutyqueen.this thing rather happend to me as well.before my marriage i was working and had lots of money to spend.so i used to buy lot amny beuty care products.rather i became a member of avon for buying beauty products for myself.but when i got married and came to another country, at first i did not had any job.so i did not felt good about spending money on me.i would rather like to buy for my hubby.but then he resisted me a lot and gave me extra money and now again i hhave started spending on beuty products.also now i have a job so more money to spend.beauty is the essence of a lady.so buy whatever you like.and let me tell you all the hubby like that their wife is well groomed always.so get up lady and shop a lot.
• India
28 Nov 07
Same here beauty queen. Responsibilities & responsibilities. Gone are the carefree days of youth when I had no qualms about spending whatever I earned on myself. Now my son gets the first priority then comes the family needs, then I want to save something for the festive seasons or maybe as gifts to someone on some occasion, then to splurge on something new for the home and the list is endless. Every month I think of spending something on a new dress or maybe a fashionable or costly haircut (like some girls in my office) or just to hang out at the marketplace and buy whatever I want or lunch wherever I want to, but it never happens. Yes I am growing old and frugal and I know that very soon that day will come when I will no longer need to dress attractively, I will be an old hag counting my days at home. Even then, I just cant bring myself to spend on me.
• India
28 Nov 07
I feel very good when i am income my first money.
@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
28 Nov 07
No, i dont feel guilty at all, its my hard earned money. When I was younger like you all I wanted to do is to buy this and that asking money from my parents or brothers and sisters. Even now I usually buy things for myself but in moderation. I take care of my home needs, my family needs, then my personal needs. But I do buy things that I really need, I buy new shoes and clothes, new bags, new essential things but not that often. Time changes really.